My husband is trans ftm AMA

[WhatOnFuckingEarth]

That’s about it. My husband is a heterosexual trans man and I’m a heterosexual cisgendered woman. We have two kids conceived via IVF (aged 2.5 months and 2 years). He is 5 years on testosterone and 8 years post double mastectomy, 3 years post phalloplasty, 2 years post final genital surgery.

Just thought I’d say I’m heading off now as this thread has turned into an utter shitstorm and I can’t be arsed to be told about how I’m delusional about my relationship.

@SionnachRua

*You're not heterosexual OP. You are in a same sex relationship so that makes you either gay or bisexual.

Unless you're involved with OP, how OP chooses to define her sexuality is nothing to do with you.

I see where you’re coming from, but if the OP absolutely believes her husband is a man, then she is attracted to someone whom she believes to be the opposite sex to her. Therefore heterosexual.

Noooo please answer my questions before you go!!

@CuriousaboutSamphire

Ah! There it is!

The Transman Gotcha!

You've had quite a few answers to that hooves. Some quite different from others, so you know there is no general consensus, no MN Hive Mind to answer you.

Not sure why you keep asking....

I wasn't asking the "hive mind".

I was asking a specific poster who raised the issue of toilets and also called ops husband a woman.

@WhatOnFuckingEarth

Just thought I’d say I’m heading off now as this thread has turned into an utter shitstorm and I can’t be arsed to be told about how I’m delusional about my relationship.

Thanks for your honesty, OP. I wish you and your dh well

Ok alright quickly @JizzPigeon22 sadly dh did not get to design his penis, he now has a fabulous hairy arse, he definitely wouldn’t have been able to get a 10 inch penis and he didn’t get any maternal instincts.

You’re awesome 🖤

@JizzPigeon22

You’re awesome 🖤

Seconded 😌

Sorry @WhatOnFuckingEarth I was genuinely interested in learning about you and DH life and I agree the thread has turned into a shitstorm!

Wish you all the best

@CuriousaboutSamphire turns out OP did feel the same way as I did

And men of course. Off the prostate list and what happens next?

Or wasting precious NHS resources by being offered prostrate screening when you don't actually have one because you are a woman who takes testosterone.

You do not get to decide another person's sexuality for them but likewise you do not get to change the meaning of words. Language is important. Yes, everyone can decide their own identity/sexuality/whatever for themselves. But others must not be compelled to change the meaning of words for them.

What is the prostate list?

We don't have a screening programme for prostate cancer.

Seconding/Thirding Jizzpigeon, you're awesome and thank you answering those!

Science has advanced further than some of your tiny minds. And thanks be to God for that. 😂 brilliant.
Parody account @Ohfudgeit?

Just thought I’d say I’m heading off now as this thread has turned into an utter shitstorm

How utterly predicable 🙄 Sorry OP I was interested!

There is also a worying link between TRans and ASD. I would have liked to know how young they think it is ok to start transitioning. And how they feal about labelling children the opposite gender to their sex because at 3 or 4 they decide hey were born in the wrong one.
.( trying to use the "correct2 terminology but I think I might be winding myself up in knots but then that's the problem isn,t it.)

If a thread didn't turn into a shitstorm this wouldn't be mumsnet but it's a shame people feel the need to define your relationship/sexuality for you.

We don't have a screening programme for prostate cancer

I know, but you get my drift.....

Oh Hooves! Can we not refer to men by their unique bodily functions and organs??

Then we'll stop calling women cervix havers and menstruaters shall we?

Good!

TJ17 but not for anything I was discussing!

The posts she found tedious were the usual oddities such posts attract. Everyone else finds them tedious too.

I was genuinely interested in hearing what the OP had to say. I don't know why these threads end up going off on a tangent? It's still important to hear the experiences of other woman.

Thanks for starting this thread op it's been interesting. I wanted to know the same stuff as @JizzPigeon22 so thanks for answering

Does your husband understand or sympathise with women referred to as TERFs, for wanting to have safe single sex spaces? What are his thoughts on this?

Thank you for starting this thread - sending you and dh lots of love x