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I have a husband and we both have a girlfriend together AMA

265 replies

Soubriquet · 27/12/2018 19:20

People seemed interested in this so I thought I would start a thread

We’ve all been together for 18 months now and parent our 2 children.

Initially in the beginning we had a bit of jealousy and such but now we all get along perfectly

I am bisexual which is why I’m happy being with both her and him

We will be intimate as a 3some or if one of us is not in the mood, the other two will be intimate

Dh sleeps in the same bed as gf as I can’t stand sharing a bed with anyone.

OP posts:
AtrociousCircumstance · 27/12/2018 21:00

OP this situation has a limited time frame.

SonicVersusGynaephobia · 27/12/2018 21:03

I think OP is very lonely.

BasilFaulty · 27/12/2018 21:05

I thought this was called 'Ask Me Anything' ?? For what it's worth I am not completely judgemental of the set up if it's done properly and maturely, but I don't think that's what this is.....

DelightfulCunt · 27/12/2018 21:08

Sounds like OP is having her life snatched right from under her nose.

Sounds almost brainwashed
“she is their mummy” about someone the children know 18 months

TheLazyDuchess · 27/12/2018 21:08

I hope the op's okay/ does come back to answer more questions. Maybe some of us have touched a nerve, sorry op if deep down you aren't happy. You will get support here if that's the case, if you want it! If you are happy, whatever turns you on I guess (as my gran would say), and it would be fascinating to get some more insight into your set up.

bifflediffle · 27/12/2018 21:08

It's sad.

I've seen polyamory in the kink community a whole ton of times and I have never ever seen it end well.

But then, the op could be the exception that proves the rule.

ChristmasFan2018 · 27/12/2018 21:09

OP I do think it's sad that the children call her Mummy.

As for everything else you have been very open

bifflediffle · 27/12/2018 21:09

How would the OP late husband feel about this set up? Are the DC his or the new husband's?

Ginandsonicscrewdriver · 27/12/2018 21:10

This woman is slowly stealing your family and you can't even see it.

No theft involved, she’s giving it away

Who pays the rent @soubriquet?

howtobehuman · 27/12/2018 21:10

I don't know what everyone's getting so wound up about, sounds ideal to me! I'd love another woman in my house. CBA with threesomes though.

HollowTalk · 27/12/2018 21:16

If we go shopping, one week it will be our turn to pay (me and dh share a bank account from before) and the next week she will pay.

Well that's not very fair, is it? She hasn't got any children and is paying half the costs of the whole of your family.

rachelfrost · 27/12/2018 21:16

What if they’re all happy with the sexual and financial relationship? If op doesn’t want lots of sex with her husband and is happy being a sahm then this seems to seem like a good situation. There’s lots of other aspects to relationships besides sex and money. They might all really enjoy each others emotional support or tenderness or intelligence or humour, they might between them have a good listener, a good organiser, one who has the big ideas etc.

The ‘mummy’ issue doesn’t seem like good judgement to me. But time will tell.

The children don’t watch them have sex, why do so many posters not understand that? As for the drugs, that makes it sound a bit like op is alone in the evenings doing childcare while the other two go and get wasted but maybe it’s only occasionally.

Morgan12 · 27/12/2018 21:18

You are massively damaging your children. It's disgusting to put yourself and your needs before them. You are all a bunch of complete arseholes.

LonginesPrime · 27/12/2018 21:18

I agree that it sounds very unfair financially for the gf.

calmsealife · 27/12/2018 21:21

Wait until the "gf" gets pregnant, then it won't last.

SonicVersusGynaephobia · 27/12/2018 21:25

There’s lots of other aspects to relationships besides sex and money. They might all really enjoy each others emotional support or tenderness or intelligence or humour, they might between them have a good listener, a good organiser, one who has the big ideas etc.

Two of them are out at work, together, all day, while the other (OP) is at home with her children.

Then they (DH and GF come home from work and go out to the outhouse together to smoke weed, while OP sits inside on her own.

Then they go to bed together to shag, while OP goes to a different room, to bed, alone.

But yeah, maybe everyone gets what they want out of this situation.

bifflediffle · 27/12/2018 21:25

I'm concerned that the OP was widowed (I don't know when) and that this new man has taken advantage of her.

AhhhHereItGoes · 27/12/2018 21:26

50 years ago people would've been saying similar things about lesbians and gays having children. Unnatural, think of the kids, perverts etc.

But do you know what matters more to kids? Love, respect, honesty. I'd much rather have 3 doting parents than two who constantly argue or take drugs or don't bother with me.

Good for you OP. I hope your children remain proud of you all.

SparklyMagpie · 27/12/2018 21:27

You are getting mixed up with another poster I think, I know who you're talking about

HollowTalk · 27/12/2018 21:27

@bifflediffle The OP is only in her 20s now and has children with her husband. Surely there wouldn't have been time for a different partner and for her to be widowed?

AdelaideK · 27/12/2018 21:28

Sorry but I think you're losing your family here. You seem the one on the outside.

I'm another one who thought of the Philpotts. It just seems grim to me but I suspect you thought you'd come across as free spirits.

PerverseConverse · 27/12/2018 21:28

One day OP will be in the papers I imagine when this fucktarded freak show goes horribly wrong for the children.

Hope you've got plenty of money to pay for the therapy they'll need when they're older.

AnyFucker · 27/12/2018 21:28

Ahhhh ...you missed the bit about the drug using then ?

TheLazyDuchess · 27/12/2018 21:28

"The children don’t watch them have sex, why do so many posters not understand that?"

I think the point pp's were trying to make is that the dc know daddy and the other mother share a bed, and will eventually realise the significance of that, (they'll know they're shagging) and they'll eventually work out that if she's mum's gf too, they must also have sex/they'll wonder about threesomes. Or they could walk in on or hear them or the three of you at it, and have any suspicions confirmed.

Branleuse · 27/12/2018 21:28

It all sounds like it would be brilliant if the OP was working too and there were no kids involved, everyone having hot stoned sex together and paying their way.

As it is though, someones gonna get hurt here and its likely to be OP and the children

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