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I have a husband and we both have a girlfriend together AMA

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Soubriquet · 27/12/2018 19:20

People seemed interested in this so I thought I would start a thread

We’ve all been together for 18 months now and parent our 2 children.

Initially in the beginning we had a bit of jealousy and such but now we all get along perfectly

I am bisexual which is why I’m happy being with both her and him

We will be intimate as a 3some or if one of us is not in the mood, the other two will be intimate

Dh sleeps in the same bed as gf as I can’t stand sharing a bed with anyone.

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MrsFoxPlus4 · 27/12/2018 19:36

I don’t think it sounds all very rushed and in the moment. But it’s not my life, it’s intresting to be able to ask questions

OrgyofSausages · 27/12/2018 19:36

Give it time OP. Do you imagine they'll never find out? Dream on.Hmm

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Soubriquet · 27/12/2018 19:39

Well obviously it will be another year or so before we do any reversal.

All our families know and we even spent Christmas at her parents house.

We are public about it as in my eyes there is nothing to be ashamed of

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Soubriquet · 27/12/2018 19:40

orgy

Never find out what? Confused

Everyone knows

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Atetoomanymincepies · 27/12/2018 19:41

Do the DC not ask questions about where this other woman has come from, are you honest with them?

Paranoiasettingin · 27/12/2018 19:42

So the other woman is bi as well then?

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Soubriquet · 27/12/2018 19:42

No never

Ds is too young to remember a time without his second mum and dd doesn’t care.

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WWWWicked · 27/12/2018 19:42

Did your DH get his vasectomy done by the NHS at age 26?

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Soubriquet · 27/12/2018 19:43

^So the other woman is bi as well then?

Yep

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Soubriquet · 27/12/2018 19:43

Did your DH get his vasectomy done by the NHS at age 26?

Yes actually he did. However we will be going privately for it to be reversed

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Branleuse · 27/12/2018 19:43

Do you consider you and him to be primary relationship since you have kids together, or her and him since they bedshare and want a baby together?

What about you and her. Do you have sex without him much?

DrinkSangriaInThePark · 27/12/2018 19:43

I think it's incredibly selfish of you when there are children involved, but I'd say deep down you know that.

Jeez, how far do you push things for a bit of exciting sex? Poor kids.

OrgyofSausages · 27/12/2018 19:44

It's odd that this is an Ask me Anything thread and yet you have avoided answering my earlier questions.

Branleuse · 27/12/2018 19:45

If you decided you didnt want this anymore, would they go off together, or would he stay with you

NottonightJosepheen · 27/12/2018 19:45

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OrgyofSausages · 27/12/2018 19:46

Who are the dc supposed to.regard as their mother?
What about the fact that they see their dad shagging two women At the same time?

VictoriaBun · 27/12/2018 19:46

Not unusual in my network .Sil was with a married couple ( male/female ) it worked well for a good few years until the child of the wife/husband started to ask questions and the female got another bf.

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Soubriquet · 27/12/2018 19:47

Do you consider you and him to be primary relationship since you have kids together, or her and him since they bedshare and want a baby together?

In a way yes. We still celebrate our wedding anniversary and she fully encourages that. They don’t want a baby together, it would be our baby as in everyone.

And yes we have had sex together just me and her. Not often as usually we tend to all like it together but there has been times. I never mind when they do it alone. But then I have an extremely low sex drive so it’s easier for me.

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MrsCar · 27/12/2018 19:47

How would you feel if she became pregnant?

bifflediffle · 27/12/2018 19:47

I've never seen a poly relationship work long term. What will you do if your DH and the other woman have a child together and they become the primary?

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Soubriquet · 27/12/2018 19:48

I’d be over the moon.

Why wouldn’t I be? It would be no different from a lesbian couple having a baby with one being pregnant

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WWWWicked · 27/12/2018 19:48

^Did your DH get his vasectomy done by the NHS at age 26?

Yes actually he did^

Wow, then he’s a walking example of why you’re generally advised to wait until you’re a bit more mature and certain before making such a huge life decision. At least you’re sparing them any more waste of money by having a reversal done privately.

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Soubriquet · 27/12/2018 19:49

What will you do if your DH and the other woman have a child together and they become the primary?

That, I’m pretty confident to say, will never happen.

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NorthernLurker · 27/12/2018 19:49
Hmm

Are you or your husband even remotely concerned that legally this woman is in a very vulnerable position. She's investing in a family and a home she has no legal rights in. However once she has a baby your husband will have a legal and moral obligation to support his child. This is actually a huge mess isn't it?

bifflediffle · 27/12/2018 19:49

It's very different to a lesbian couple because your DH is in the middle of the two bi women and you all have sex together.

Good luck with it - I hope it works out for you