I’m morbidly obese 26 stone AMA

[Mumsyoftwo09]

Such a hot topic at the moment with fat shaming etc.
Ask me anything

[Terriblydifficult]

How do you feel about it?

[Nquartz]

How do you cope in the heat?.

[hendricksy]

Do you want to lose weight? My sister is very overweight and it worries me that her health will be affected at some point . I'm a little bit overweight and I feel it in my bones and joints so it must affects you .

[Clairetree1]

do you plan to lose weight? Do you want to lose weight? How did you end up being this weight? are you still putting weight on?

[Mumsyoftwo09]

At this present moment. Hot! As in sweaty hot. Not sexy hot.

I need to change it. I’m not a ‘big and proud’ woman. But I applaud anyone who feels happy in their own skin.

[Flatpackjackie]

How long have you been overweight?

[Mumsyoftwo09]

The heat is horrible. But then I guess it is for a lot of people who don’t enjoy heatwaves?

I have ‘planned’ on losing weight for about 10yrs now.
I have shocking willpower, just can’t seem to do it which makes me feel pretty weak!

I comfort ate following post natal depression and single parenthood.

[Flatpackjackie]

Where do you buy clothes from?

[Mumsyoftwo09]

Overweight most of adult life.

Obese last 9yr.

[Mumsyoftwo09]

Clothes from places like simply be, Evans, curvissa, yours etc.
Any plus size shops.

[DickensianHysteric]

Do strangers insult you when you are out and about?

[Mumsyoftwo09]

Hendricky I am the only obese member of my family who all love the gym and keeping fit. I know it worries them and they do comment a lot to me about it.
Honestly their comments generally make me go home and sit and binge!

It must be difficult for family members who worry about it, similar to any family member concerned about a loved ones addiction.

[mooncuplanding]

What do you eat in a typical day?

[colditz]

Are you frightened?

I'm 6 stone overweight myself and as I age, I can feel it impacting my health (but despite this, it's really hard to lose any, let alone a significant amount)

[Mumsyoftwo09]

Dickensian yes

Worst culprits are the older generation. Get “goodness your a big girl aren’t you”

No shit Sherlock.

[Mumsyoftwo09]

Mooncup - cereal and fruit for breakfast.
Lunch is often skipped.
Tea is healthy balanced meal with my two kids (both healthy weights with no food issues)

Then when they go to bed I binge. Sometimes to the point where I feel unwell. Anything and everything. Crisps, nuts, chocolate, sweets, toast, order a takeaway.

Colditz - yes it does frighten me. It frightens me that I will leave my kids prematurely.
It is so so difficult. Iv achieved and worked towards things my whole life and never struggled like this struggle.

[HoosierDaddy]

Can I ask, what size clothes do you wear? And your height? Do you find it awkward to do stuff/go places?

I am approx 15 stone and find it hard carrying my bulk on my 5ft 6 frame. Not just the actual weight, but things like squeezing through tables at a restaurant, cos I am usually following much smaller friends who can glide through without fear of knocking someone's dinner off the table.

[HappyHedgehog247]

How could I support my obese family member who is now beginning to have health and mobility issues?

[Mumsyoftwo09]

Hoosier - size 28/30. I’m 5ft 4.

Very much difficulties going places and doing things.

I hovered around 20 stone for a few years and the last 6 stone has gone on in the last 3 yrs and god I notice it.

Painting my toe nails is difficult. Have to sit down to put socks and trousers on.
Theme park rides are a no no. Bench style tables at restaurants are awkward. Seatbelts when a passenger in some cars.


Happy that’s lovely of you that you are asking for positive ways to help your family member.
Is there anyway you could join a weight loss club with them? Would their mobility issues allow them to go for regular walks with you?

I find when my family sit me down for a ‘I’m worried about your weight’ chat it just makes me seem comfort in the one thing in life that doesn’t judge (food).
They l love the gym etc but have never asked me if I would like to go too. I appreciate there may be some embarrassment there.
If they were to participate in a 3 times a week walk with me to chat to them then I would defo be up for that! I would also go to a slimming club with one of them but luckily for them I don’t think they would be allowed to join.

[HoosierDaddy]

Thanks Mumsy

[HappyHedgehog247]

Thank you so much. That’s really helpful.

[PooFlower]

Mumsy have a read of 'The obesity code' by Jason Fung. It answers a lot of questions.
Lots of studies are showing it isn't actually as simple as 'eat less move more'. It is insulin resistance and hormones that make losing weight and keeping it off so difficult for some people. I also think years of dieting can lead to disordered eating and the kind of binging you describe.
I have a lot of weight to lose and I am doing a mixture of weight watchers and fasting. I hardly feel hungry and I've lost three stone since April.
It is a constant battle though, which people who have never had weight problems just dont understand.

[BaconCrispsGone]

Re your typical day's eating, I have an obese friend who's exactly the same and I always think 'why don't you have a proper breakfast and eat lunch?' , so why don't you?

[ShotsFired]

@Mumsyoftwo0 First off I sympathise. I am obese too, but have been even more overweight than I am now, so I really get lots of what you're saying

My question is, do you believe the fatter we get, the more invisible (ironically) we become? I find that I can move through life without anyone casting a second glance at me. However some years back I lost a few stone (it hasn't lasted) and suddenly people noticed me more.

(I quite like being invisible though, it's easier than dealing with the scrutiny of society!)

[Frosty66612]

Are you single or do you have a partner? If you do then are they overweight too?