Was the OW now the DW - AMA

[Ivgotasecretcanyoukeepit]

I was the OW now the DW so AMA if you’re interested.

HundredAcre

Were you his first affair (that you know of)?

SoulDragon

Aaa fuck, tagging fail!!

SoupDragon

Yes he has a DD. His DD and I get on extremely well. I love her like my own.

No social awkwardness at all. I socialise often with his friends and their DW’s

I don’t think he will do it to me. I don’t understand where all of this bollocks about creating a vacancy or who is the OW now. Sometimes in life you fall in love and the situation isn’t morally right however that doesn’t mean our relationship is going to fail. Actually my DH and I are more in love than a fair few of the couples we know.

I've noticed your username, you seem to post alot about being the OW and enjoy the attention and controversy it brings. Are you finding married life a bit boring, and trying to relive the excitement of your affair?

How old was his DD when he left for you? How long did your affair last?

Marry the mistress - create a vacancy

I think Iv only posted on two/three threads that discuss OW/OM so would say that is a small percentage of the overall threads on mumsnet.

Was wondering if you were my XHs DW but don’t think so (unless you are changing some details). I think she is probably better suited to him than I ever was tbh but do hope he doesn’t cheat on her as well.

Thanks OP. Glad things are going well for you!

Well here's a tip. The kid is not your own. Keep an eye on those boundaries.

I'm fascinated by the motivation of AMA posters. Sometimes they sound open and interesting, sometimes they sound like they need some help, sometimes they make laugh.

You sound really, really smug. So my question is, why is that?

How did you meet, and who made the first move?

How do you sleep at night? Do you have paranoia that you’ll be the DW when there’s another OW, after all, there is now a vacancy?

In my opinion AMA threads are only interesting if there is an element of self reflection.

Do you actually have children of your own?

@Luna - she was under 10.

@Fluffy - as I said before I don’t believe that saying at all. Love is love regardless of how it started.

@Lois - I doubt I will be however I won’t post exact details such as my DSD exact age as I don’t want it to be identifiable as I know other mumsnet users. You actually do sound like my DH’s exDW though as she does say she sees us as better suited than they were. You sound refreshingly level headed too.

@Agustarella - thank you

@NorthernLurker - she may not be my own but I certainly think of her like my own.

@Floral - definitely not smug.

@Irma - we work for the same company. He is more senior than me though. He made the first move.

@Melanie - I sleep well thank you. No see above I don’t feel paranoid.

@Soupdragon - we do.

How did he find the time to conduct an affair with a young child? I'm guessing it would have involved a great deal of deceit and neglecting his responsibilities to her. How long did the affair last? Did you care that your now husband was violating his wife's consent- such as risking her sexual health, allowing her to make decisions based on the fact that she believed she was in a monogamous relationship?

What makes you think he hasn't cheated on you?

OP there is never an excuse to have an affair. You both behaved badly and you must have known this would seem a GF thread.

How long did your affair last?

Were you surprised when he left his wife?

Did you expect to get married?

Did you ever think about being a decent person and telling the cheat to split up with his wife first then come back to you?

Don't you care about what others think about your morals?