Engaged to a Jehovah witness

[justaddwa]

Ask me anything, please no nasty comments about it!

Hello just.

What exactly does it mean for you? What have you had to change, if anything? Does he canvas, door to door? And are you obliged to join him in his beliefs?
My mum's window cleaner was a JH, a nicer more pleasant man you could not meet.

Are you going to have to convert?

What will you do if your children need a life saving blood transfusion at some point? As someone who is only here because of the multiple units of blood given to me I cannot get my head around the position JWs hold on this.

@Justgivemeasoddingname I'm still a little confused by some of things they do but I respect it, I've never had to change anything and no he doesn't do door to door it's a personal choice. His family do try to encourage it upon me I have gone to meetings and bible studies for more understanding plus for respect.

I thought that a JW couldn't marry a non JW because they aren't in 'the truth?' I went to school with a JW so only have her info to go on!

@QueenCity no I do not have too. It's my choice.
There is a valid reason why they don't do blood transfusions.. basically it's because of the high risks a blood transfusion can cause plus it's written in scriptures. But you do not need a blood transfusion as Jehovah witness has spent money for hospitals around the world with there own money for machinery and equipment that help pump glucose and the blood in your body to help create more red blood cells. The reason blood transfusions are there it's millions of pounds cheaper for the hospitals the procedure that Jehovah witnesses use is expensive that it also why they paid for the equipment themselves.

@lastnightidreamtofpotatoes that isn't true, if the male or female isn't baptised. If they are baptised then they cant date someone out of the truth only if they convert. But I do not have to convert if I do not want to as my fiancé is not baptised.

That's interesting OP. What is the name of this procedure that JW's invented/paid for and is it available in all hospitals in the UK?

Can I ask how one converts? What is involved? Are there any 'strange' rules you would have to follow?

@lastnightidreamtofpotatoes it's called bloodless surgery I believe as it's used for multiple surgeries and yes available in the U.K. and just by having bible studies with JW when they knock on the door etc then start going to meetings you follow everything Jehovah says in the book. I'm so learning and having to understand as to why They do certain things like not following satanic things like birthdays Christmas etc. But I haven't converted as I enjoy birthdays and Christmas does our strain into things but I was bought up like that and they have to understand that too!

Bible* not book

How is your husband a JW if he is neither baptised nor a publisher? Is it that his family have converted and he just says he is for ease? Kind of like how people will say C of E when they're not active believers or anything?

Oh this is interesting. My mum was a Jehovah's Witness. My question would be a rather doubtful,' Do you know what you're getting into?' No need to respond.

Thankfully my mum left a long time ago when she asked for their support in leaving my abusive father, and they told her to submit to her husband.

Yes, they can do bloodless surgery but when your child is bleeding out on an operating table having emergency surgery in a small local hospital that is unlikely to be an option.

Being baptised or publishing is a personal choice you do not have to be baptised nor be a publisher he was bought up his whole life his whole family has he has 5 siblings and 2 our of the 5 are not baptised he is not baptised either.

They are still trying there best to put money into all hospitals they are paying for it themselves they haven't ask for money nor help.

They don't take martial separation lightly, and have always encouraged and helped ways for marriages to stay together but is sever circumstances that no person/women should be forced to stay with abusive partner when her health, life is threatened. Which states in the bible.

I've never met a Jehovah's Witness who isn't a crashing bore, and goes on about religion till I'm resolved to swerve them. Relatives included.

Do you find that JWs are entirely focused in their religion as in every conversation must make reference to it somehow? Or do you & partner discuss and have other interests be they social or leisure?

I'm also confused about the blood transfusions thing. Was that something "just decided" and put into your version of the bible? What was the starting/reference point?

Yeah well my mum's life and health was very much threatened and they disfellowshipped her for leaving. So don't believe everything they tell you.

It’s the watchtower a good read?

Re the blood issue. A number of years ago they introduced the choice of receiving partial blood fractions instead of whole blood. IMHO I think they did this as an out. If they had said, whoops, yes you can have blood we were wrong, the lawsuits would have taken them down financially. They leave it up to the individual to decide for themselves

There isn't just a version of the bible if you look more into the bible Jehovah witness is the original as it's been proven through facts which are in museums.
And no it wasn't decided it was looked into meaning blood transfusions can give you someone else's DNA, causes epilepsy some even could carry HIV even though it's a lower risk now but it's a whole lot safer to do bloodless surgery it's been like that for years through out the bible billions of years infact.

Yes there whole life is about the religion but they do enjoy going to concerts and cinemas they do a lot of leisure stuff like everyone else.

And sorry for what happened to your mother but you cannot be disfellowshipped unless you do something severe or show no care of interest into the religion if your in it or bad mouth it. And i wasn't "told" I have seen things for my own eyes it takes a lot for someone to be disfellowshipped. But I do feel empathy for your mother with what she went through must've been tough.

I enjoy the watch towers the things they put in are very interesting especially if you going through difficult times with family or even kids they show ways of discipline and how to speak to your kids. As well as partners and how you should be treated as a family and individually they have a watchtower for everything they are a good read.

Also with the bible many other religions have always removed and added stuff into the bible. Also when they tell you stuff it should always come from the bible if I ever ask a question I'd always get an answer back from the bible with JW and then they show me the scripture for proof! They don't add bits they don't remove bits it's the same bible as it's always been I can be very biased and as I said I'm still learning but seeing some proof for myself that what is written in the bible. It has never changed.

Hello,
I’m a doctor who gives blood transfusions.

Please educate me about blood transfusions causing epilepsy?

I made the mistake of being really kind and chatty to a JW door knocker. I was aware he was getting abuse from others via our local FB page. Anyway I know can’t get rid of him, he knocks every couple of weeks, if I’m not in (hiding) he leaves a booklet with his number and invitations to events. Am I doomed forever or we he eventually give up? He is perfectly polite just turning into a stalker ..

Are you aware you are marrying into a cult which encourages people to disown family members? (And if you deem this as ‘nasty’ please remember it’s ‘ask me anything’ not ‘ask me things I want to answer’)

You do know you are marrying into a cult right? Sorry for being blunt. I am seriously hoping you don't regret it all and you are treated well.