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Engaged to a Jehovah witness

185 replies

justaddwa · 13/07/2018 00:32

Ask me anything, please no nasty comments about it!

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Miranda15110 · 02/08/2018 00:05

p.s. I am perfectly capable of knowing which religious sect came to my door and which one the watchtower is published by. I don't profess to know or understand their beliefs. TBH I wouldn't normally give a shit what they believe. The horror of what I was reading was what made me sit up and take notice.

MarcieBluebell · 02/08/2018 01:47

It is scary to see op not want to question anything.

A good friend was a jw. She was abused emotionally and physically by her husband and was told she should not divorce. He threatened to kill her if she left. Luckiky she ran away but is still scared. I think he's still a jw.

Lessstressedhemum · 02/08/2018 09:53

People, I know what I am talking about. I was JW for a long time. Everything that I have written is written from personal, lived experience. Light has inside knowledge as well, having been raised a JW and having family who still are.

People who fall away are said to have dissociated themselves and are not quite the same as apostates or folk who have been disfellowshipped. They are not shunned becuase there is always the hope that they will come back to the truth.

I don't know about nowadays, but twenty, thirty or even forty years ago many, many young folk, especially women didn't work but were pioneers. They worked a minimum of 90hours a month on the doors or in bible studies with recruits. This was most common among single women and young mothers but almost every woman my age that I knew was a pioneer. Those who didn't work claimed benefits and told the DHSS that they were unavailable for work because they were ministers of religion!
Women especially, but every witness really (except the ones with special skills like lawyers/doctors) were encouraged either not to work or just work part time in jobs like window cleaning or in a shop, so that they could spend more time spreading the word because, after the 1975 debacle, the emphasis changed to first of all the late 80s and then to the end of the millenium. The GB convinced everyone that this system would end in the late 80's when world governements were making nuclear treaties etc. When that didn't happen, the focus was on 1999 because there was no way that Jehovah would allow this evil system to continue into a new millenium. I remember people being discouraged from having children, from pursuing careers, from buying houses, from everything that might look like building a life, because what was the point if the system was going to end in the next few years.

I believe that the focus has now changed to sometime in the 2030s as being the end of things. Perhaps that's why the preaching is being ramped up amongst younger folk, now.

lightonthewater · 02/08/2018 10:00

My Uncle and his wife have never worked in their adult lives . Spent years living in a Bethal (central HQ) for free, and pioneering. Now they are living on benefits and still spend their lives pioneering.

fantasmasgoria1 · 02/08/2018 17:15

I knew someone who married a Jw. She never converted and he totally was never head of the household. The children are not jw either, they never attended the Kingdom Hall etc. They broke up and apparently he is now trying to make the children attend the Kingdom Hall when he has the children which the mother has put a stop to. It’s weird though because he smokes and drinks , goes clubbing etc and was never overly religious! My school friend was bought up jw and at 16 stopped being one as did her sisters. She said it is a cult and thinks people should think very carefully before joining.

ScrumpyCrack · 02/08/2018 17:20

Ugh this gives me the heebies.

KoolAidPickle · 02/08/2018 17:51

There is a valid reason why they don't do blood transfusions.. basically it's because of the high risks a blood transfusion can cause plus it's written in scriptures

You've been brainwashed OP.

Would you let your kid have a blood transfusion if they needed it, as her father would try to stop you? Would you let her die as JW children have died before?

Oct18mummy · 02/08/2018 18:03

When you have children and if that child got ill and the only option of survival would be having a blood transfusion would you deny your child that?

Bluelady · 02/08/2018 18:24

My mother was a JW and while I don't share their beliefs, I'm appalled at some of the ignorant prejudice on this thread.

My mum was one of the kindest, gentlest, most normal people you'll ever meet. She was a JW for almost 60 years, married to a nonbeliever, and it never once caused any problem. When she died she had the JW funeral she wished for and every one of the congregation who packed the cremation was kindness itself to me.

lightonthewater · 02/08/2018 19:30

I wish I could say the same for my mother. Judgemental, rude, nasty and selfish. The only thing she cares about is her religion which she rams down everyone's throats 24/7. It is impossible to have a normal conversation with her without her trying to make some point or other. It has made me so unhappy. Perhaps though it has just amplified her more negative natural characteristics. It's hard to know as she's been one nearly all my life.

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