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I'm a footballer's wife.. ask me anything???

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 08:13

Apart from who my husband is/what team he plays for Grin

(Have set up a whole new username for this so there's no chance of it coming back to me and the Daily Mail can sod off thank you!)

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Oogle · 11/07/2018 11:13

How many goals has he scored? Does he have a favourite goal of his he likes to watch over and over again? Grin I reckon footballers do this. I bet Harry Maguire will rewatch that goal against Sweden every week for the next 5 years Grin

And..what's his mood like after a game? Can he be a miserable sod if the team lose?

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LaMainDeFatima · 11/07/2018 11:14

What club would most players like to play for : in the premier league and in the world ?

Positive vibes for tonight !

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 11:26

Does your DH feel a lot of pressure to keep up his skills or is he quite relaxed about it all ?

Is it a high pressure environment ?

Do the players take it out on each other if they have a bad match or someone on the team messes up ?


Yes it's pretty high pressure and as the saying goes 'you're only as good as your last game' the fans can be very fickle too and if the fans don't want you at the club (had a bad game) then they can make it pretty uncomfortable Confused
Teams are all different but the one DH is in at the mo seem to be pretty close and they stick up for each other, but won't hold back if they need to say who had a shit game !!

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 11:28

How is the women's game regarded in professional male footballer circles?

I can't speak for them as a whole but DH has huge respect for them. For any sportsperson actually, he is always really impressed by the dedication needed to get to a high level. Doesn't stop going on about it! He loves all sports which is why I'm sometimes a bit confused why he went for ol' pastry body me Grin

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 11:31

How many goals has he scored? Does he have a favourite goal of his he likes to watch over and over again?

Gosh couldn't tell you how many he's scored (he probably could, with each detail - team against, minute of the game!Grin)

He does have a favourite goal which he often bangs on about bless him

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Oogle · 11/07/2018 11:34

Amazing! So pleased he has a favourite goal Grin

Does he get a lot of fan mail? Or does fan mail no longer exist? There's every chance I'm still living in the early 90s!

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SkunkButtRug · 11/07/2018 11:37

This is very interesting.

Does he have a favourite player? I mean someone he admires who's currently in the premier league?

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 11:37

I guess I was trying to ask if you had discussed, for example, the ched Evans case with your husband?

Or if you had any insight into whether or not ‘group sex’ with young women was a normal thing for footballers to do. As CE suggested that it was in his statement to the police.

Have you ever read Anna Krien’s Night Games?


We have discussed a couple of the recent cases but I really don't want to say much more because it's such a minefield.
I have no insight on whether or not group sex is a normal thing for footballers, DH will
Of course claim he has never done such a thing. 😬
Have just looked that book up and ordered it! Thank you

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 11:39

Does he get a lot of fan mail? Or does fan mail no longer exist? There's every chance I'm still living in the early 90s!

Yes! He really does!!
He gets a lot of handwritten letters from overseas some asking for him to sign a sticker/photo of his face, some just saying how much they like him and some asking for donations to their sick dogs operations Grin

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Undercoverbanana · 11/07/2018 11:40

This is really interesting OP!

How do you feel about the negative stereotyping about women who are married to footballers? Just after his money, airheads with no brains etc, just want to be famous themselves etc?

Also, would you be happy for your DD (if you have one) to marry a footballer in the future and what advise would you give them?

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 11:43

Does he have a favourite player? I mean someone he admires who's currently in the premier league?

Yes he probably does but to be honest he's always going on about football I don't listen to half of what he says nowadays Grin. I'm sure De Bruyne and Salah feature high on his list. But his all time faves are retired now.

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 11:50

  • How do you feel about the negative stereotyping about women who are married to footballers? Just after his money, airheads with no brains etc, just want to be famous themselves etc?

    Also, would you be happy for your DD (if you have one) to marry a footballer in the future and what advise would you give them?*

    This is a really interesting question and something that I've struggled with personally. Because I had a successful career before I met DH and gave it up to be with him I always feel I have to explain myself when I meet new people.
    I've lost count of the times someone has said something along the lines of 'oh you wouldn't be with him if it wasn't for his money' even if it was in a joking way the underlying tone is there. Honestly though DH is the kindest, craziest man I've ever met. He is so much like my DDad it's madness . He's also handsome imo, and SUPER fit with the moooost amazing thighs - why wouldn't I want to be with him?!
    Should successful pro sportsmen be limited to who their partners should be? Only rich, fit women?
    Also let's be realistic. In a few years he won't be earning anywhere near that amount of money, the fame and riches will be gone but I will still be there (as long as he doesn't turn into an arsehole). Personally I can't wait for that quiet life!

    As for my daughter.... hmm. I wouldn't actively dissuade her out of being with a footballer, you love who you love. But I'll be hoping she has her own established career and will advise her never to be fully dependent on him - it's way too easy to do. That's my one half-regret. I wouldn't want her to lose herself as a person, which is how I feel sometimes.
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AdaLoveless · 11/07/2018 11:55

Two questions, OP:

(1)
Can I ask what age you and your DP were when you married, and how you met?

My DH worked at a PL club until very recently (not a footballer), and one of the things that fascinated me was the culture which DH says is widespread throughout the PL of footballers being encouraged to 'settle down' very young, the idea being that it makes them lead quieter lives, become 'family men', and become less likely to be out on the town behaving badly. Were/are you aware of this?

(2) Has your DH ever had to come back early after the summer break to attend his club's equivalent of 'Fat Camp'? At DH's club, a weight gain of (I think -- might have been less) 2 kg meant you were recalled early, before pre-season training, to lose it.

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Itoldyouiwasgeeky · 11/07/2018 11:59

Thanks very much op, I didn’t want to offend you.

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Itoldyouiwasgeeky · 11/07/2018 11:59

And I’m glad it seems like I didn’t.

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Undercoverbanana · 11/07/2018 12:00

Ooh - can I ask another please?

Have you met Gareth Southgate and was he wearing a waistcoat? What’s he like? I have a bit of a thing for his calm, dignified style.

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 12:01

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My DH worked at a PL club until very recently (not a footballer), and one of the things that fascinated me was the culture which DH says is widespread throughout the PL of footballers being encouraged to 'settle down' very young, the idea being that it makes them lead quieter lives, become 'family men', and become less likely to be out on the town behaving badly. Were/are you aware of this? *

Yes! They definitely encourage the players to settle down early.

fat camp haha DH has never had to do this thank heavens.

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 12:02

Have you met Gareth Southgate and was he wearing a waistcoat? What’s he like? I have a bit of a thing for his calm, dignified style.

Never met him, but doesn't he seem lovely!!!

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Cheesymonster · 11/07/2018 12:52

What did you used to do for a living? Apologies if you've already said, or you don't wish to say. Loving this thread, really interesting Smile

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halfwitpicker · 11/07/2018 13:02

Yes, what did you used to do for a living?

Great thread BTW

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ohsoamazing · 11/07/2018 13:18

Do you feel obliged to share your wealth amongst your family? And do you have money of your own? Sorry if that's a stupid question I just wondered if you were financially independent or whether you get pocket money?

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 13:20

I don't want to be too specific as I don't want to out myself but I have a masters in science and got quite far in my field in an engineering type of role

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 13:24

Do you feel obliged to share your wealth amongst your family? And do you have money of your own? Sorry if that's a stupid question I just wondered if you were financially independent or whether you get pocket money?

I do have some money of my own in savings and a property that I bought when I was working and I keep that as a safety net. Myself and DH have a shared bank account now that everything is paid into/goes out of.

As for sharing the wealth; yes DH is forever giving money away to his (large) family, there is quite an expectation from some members. He's v generous and will often pay for large, once in a lifetime holidays for all (my family included). He believes it's because he does things like this that is why he is successful and will carry on making money IYSWIM. Good karma. I just grit my teeth and remember nothing is forever lol

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ohsoamazing · 11/07/2018 13:26

Awww that it is really lovely way to be in life.

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ohsoamazing · 11/07/2018 13:28

Oh one more question. What's the best thing about your house? Assuming it's a mansion...What's a cool thing that you have in it that the average person doesn't have or wouldn't have heard of?

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