iamawagama · 11/07/2018 08:41
- Is he quite a star? How do you feel this affects your relationship? Do you ever feel your needs and identity come second?
Are you close with his team mates' partners?*
He gets recognised when we are out and about which he hates. He's quite shy and doesn't like the attention.
Sometimes I do feel I come second... I gave up a very successful/well paid career to become a trailing spouse (not complaining, I love him and would do it again in a heartbeat) but I hate when I meet people and they ask what do I do I can no longer say "XYZ at blahblah, aren't I impressive". My identity is now that I look after him 24/7, that's my job. Sometimes I long for my old self but then I remember the stress that used to come with.
Yes the other partners are generally very very lovely, normal women (Just a couple of nightmares! Ha)
iamawagama · 11/07/2018 08:44
Do we ever see you in the press
Yes. Only once or twice and you probably wouldn't have even paid attention to the non-story anyway.
One of those " XYZ wife showing off her voluptuous curves on a beach" kind of stores when
A) I wasn't showing off, I was playing with my kids - in a bikini - on a beach - shock!
B) those curves aren't voluptuous they are flobby and the result of too many pizzas
C) i did not call the paps - they totally invaded my privacy
Yes, one of those kind of stories unfortunately
iamawagama · 11/07/2018 08:48
I've always thought it must be so unsettling for the family when they move clubs? Have you had to do it?
Oh my gosh, yes. Moving clubs in January, having to find a home and new schools for the kids who are leaving their old friends in a matter of days/weeks. Having to live in a hotel until you can move into your new house. Starting everything over again. It can be difficult for the children but I find it difficult too. DH basically joins a new team and he has a ready made friendship group there, all the team mates know each other from playing against each other etc. He's got a whole team of new friends, i have to start again finding a friendship group, a new place to do my nails etc haha
iamawagama · 11/07/2018 08:53
Do you have a designer handbag collection? If so what bags do you have and which do you use most days? (Sorry - I'm obsessed with bags ￼ )
Yes, I have a rather substantial collection . Mainly Chanel, some Chloé, Louis Vuitton, Tom Ford and one, just one, beautiful Hermes Kelly.
The chanels are my day to day bags and I change my bag for my outfit every day. I too, am a little obsessed.
iamawagama · 11/07/2018 08:56
How does the football season affect your life, in regards to Christmas, holidays etc?
Christmas can be difficult. In the recent years he has had to leave xmas day at 1pm to travel for the Boxing Day match. No booze for him xmas day. Which is a shame as I'm usually pissed off bucks fizz by 9:30am.
Holidays are great BUT his off season only coincides with the kids half term for one week (end of May) so we have to squeeze in a family trip and my parents will come to look after the children while we have a break just us two. He used to play international but now he doesn't it means he has long weekends a few times a year but it's the same trouble with the kids school. We don't like taking the kids out of school.
iamawagama · 11/07/2018 08:59
How much does he travel? For an away game, when does the team leave?
They will usually leave the afternoon before the match, after morning training. Sometimes they fly if it's over the other side of the country. He's often back from an away game at 2/3am if it's a long coach journey. I'll be attempting to stay awake on the sofa til he arrives home lol
iamawagama · 11/07/2018 09:11
Do you send your kids to private school?
Yes. I was so conflicted at the beginning as we both had a proper working class upbringing and want the best for our kids but I honestly don't think private school always means best. I would love to be able to send them to a GOOD local school - But unfortunately when you move somewhere new and only have a couple of weeks to find the kids a new school you'd be crazy if you think you'd be able to get them into a good local school on such short notice.
(We have 3 children. We have one each that both live with us and one together, just in case anyone was paying close attention to the timeline and confused lol)
iamawagama · 11/07/2018 09:16
Does your DH support a team himself? Other than the ones he plays for. What about you, do you support a team?
Yes, he's a Man U fan . Although when he plays against them that goes out of the window!
Myself, I don't have a fave team. I'm a jumpship and will support whoever DH plays for.
My dad always tried to drum into me that I was a fan of XYZ team and a couple of transfer windows ago DH was nearly signed there, my dad nearly exploded he eventually got signed to a rival hahaha
iamawagama · 11/07/2018 09:18
Do you worry about family life after football and how your dh will cope with a much earlier retirement than is normal?
He gets bored so easily, has to be doing something. Like many footballers he is doing his "badges" so coaching might be an option. But he absolutely will need to do something when he stops playing
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