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I'm a footballer's wife.. ask me anything???

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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 08:13

Apart from who my husband is/what team he plays for Grin

(Have set up a whole new username for this so there's no chance of it coming back to me and the Daily Mail can sod off thank you!)

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alohaberry · 14/07/2018 21:48

Smashing thread!

OP (or the poster whose DH worked for a PL club) I would welcome your advice.

I'm currently work in a leadership/ management role in a public sector role that exposes me to some of the darkest aspects of human nature, I dedicated my 20s to this sector and have been blessed with some incredible opportunities - but another decade will kill me.

I fantasise about working in a sector that aligns with other passions of mine, where I can be as equally hard working and driven but in a much more positive context - basically I would love to work in either the music industry or football industry. Do you know of any roles that exist in football that might be suitable for an early 30s masters educated career changer, or where I can research this further? I imagine there must be tons of roles in this multi-million pound industry that the general public know nothing about?


alohaberry · 14/07/2018 21:50

Doh - not doing my future job prospects much good with that grammar! You get my drift haha..


Panmum14 · 14/07/2018 23:02

I love this thread. I totally believe that you are being honest about your husband being a footballer as well.

My other half is football mad, I have learnt a lot from him over the years, not saying he is an expert or anything but all the things you say regarding transfer window, agency fees etc completely add up.

I think you are quite brave to have done this and you have made me think quite differently about footballers wives.

I would your tell all book for sure. You could always get a ghost writer.


Panmum14 · 14/07/2018 23:08

I also meant to say that in a previous answer you mentioned that your husband wore number 76 shirt and the kit was pink. (Yes I have read the whole thing).

My son and I have sat and tried to work it out from that. Trust me you canโ€™t. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚.

Which makes me love this thread even more. ๐Ÿ˜Š


BipolarSunset · 15/07/2018 11:53

@Panmum14 me and DH did the same. OP said afterwards that she wouldn't give away club, kit etc so think she was winding us up ๐Ÿ˜‰

Love the thread OP.


Ghostwriting · 15/07/2018 12:25

alohaberry, I'm a pp whose husband worked for a PL club (though you may have been directing your question at someone else entirely). He was its commercial director, having previously worked for a sports business agency after a career change much bigger than yours would be, also in his thirties. Grin Very few of the sports jobs of the type he was after are directly advertised -- they are filled via specialist recruitment agencies. Look around and see if you can get yourself on their books. Good luck.


Toptheginup · 15/07/2018 13:02

@imawagama, benefit 'they're real' mascara comes off very easily using aldi's own lacura perfume free face face wash, and doesn't sting your eyes, BTW you need to try the new mascara by benefit; badgal bang, highly recommend! ๐Ÿ˜Š


beanaseireann · 15/07/2018 14:39

DD2 used Benefit mascaras til someone recommended Chanel Le Volume to her and she binned the Benefit habit Smile.


alohaberry · 15/07/2018 15:53

Thanks Ghost thatโ€™s encouraging


SheShreds · 15/07/2018 16:06

Hypothetical question for you, OP:

It's x years in the future and your DH has retired. You're offered a job opportunity that's incredible, and you can pick which of the company's offices you work at. By remarkable coincidence, their offices are at the same places as you lived at for DH's clubs.

Which one would you pick to move to and why?

I know you can't name the club, but a flavour of the place to explain your decision would be cracking, thanks.

A part "b" of the same question: if they opened up an office in your old hometown too, would you move back there in preference of the place you chose for part "a"?


DryHeave · 15/07/2018 16:18

Does your husband have (lots of) tattoos? Has he had whacky hair styles?

Not trying to be outing, just curious!


CosmicCanary · 15/07/2018 16:40

What a lovely thread.
I really enjoyed reading that thanks OP.


AndIWouldWalk500Yards · 15/07/2018 22:27

Very glad to hear you love Leeds OP!

I know bugger all as to what's going on with our football team though. I hear DH whinge about it but I zone out.


starlight13 · 15/07/2018 23:17

Love reading this op.
My question is: what was your husband's route to where he is now? From grassroots club to a small town fc and got spotted etc or was he with an academy? Interested to know for my son, thanks!


iamawagama · 16/07/2018 10:58

Hello! I've been at a wedding this weekend and currently recovering, apologies for lack of posts!

Would the average mumsnetter recognise you on the street? Or would your name be familiar?

No I don't think so. Unless they support DH's club then maybe Smile

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iamawagama · 16/07/2018 11:00

@SqueakyBinders love the bag!!

Not sure if this was asked up thread but how many handbags do you own?

Mmmm over 20 I would say. Not quite VB status!

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iamawagama · 16/07/2018 11:01

How much longer will you be answering questions for iamawagama?

'Til you're all COMPLETELY BORED of my virtual voice. Grin

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iamawagama · 16/07/2018 11:02

Does your DH have plans/investments in place for when he is no longer able to play football? Would you then go back to work when you finally settle in one place?

He has investments so that's good but I think he's still a little y sure what he'll do once he retires from the game. I just can't picture him bowing out quietly, it's literally his life!

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iamawagama · 16/07/2018 11:03

Would you then go back to work when you finally settle in one place?

Yes I will. I'm not sure it would be back to the same career but one thing is for sure if we are both hanging round the house all day we may drive each other mad!

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iamawagama · 16/07/2018 11:08

Do you find people want to be friends with you/your kids because of who your DH is? How can you spot a real potential friend?

Well people can be extra friendly once they know. I have a lot of 'surface' friendships that I've made along the way and there's nothing wrong with that as long as you know the limit to the friendship. I would never disclose relationship troubles or anything like that. My oldest hometown friends get all that, poor things haha.

In the last club we were at I thought I had made friends with a neighbour but it soon became obvious she was more of a fan-friend after she would turn up almost weekly at the weekend with a bottle of wine and random hangers on to 'you know I wouldn't normally do this but can XYZ come in and meet your DH because they're such fans and I told them we live next door and they didn't believe meeee!'

(I'm aware how long that sentence/paragraph above is.... maybe my future isn't in publishing!)

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iamawagama · 16/07/2018 11:08

How can you spot a real potential friend?

I wish I knew for sure! Trial and error so far Grin

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iamawagama · 16/07/2018 11:10

Does your husband have (lots of) tattoos? Has he had whacky hair styles?

No he's very vanilla Grin

He did have a slightly wacky hairstyle when we first met but I gently encouraged him to change that (ehhhh what's going on on top of your head?!)

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iamawagama · 16/07/2018 11:12

what was your husband's route to where he is now? From grassroots club to a small town fc and got spotted etc or was he with an academy?

He was scouted at a very young age and signed to an academy from about 12 or 14 (I can never remember). It was one of the top clubs and he stayed in the academy for years but didn't break through to the first team. He then signed to a lower league team at 18 (ehhh I think) and worked his way up Smile

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torthecatlady · 16/07/2018 17:18

Was the wedding in Essex by any chance? A relative of mine just got married in a castle this weekend just gone.


AhhhhThatsBass · 18/07/2018 12:23

Did you find an appropriate red/gold handbag?

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