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iamawagama · 11/07/2018 13:36
Oh one more question. What's the best thing about your house? Assuming it's a mansion...What's a cool thing that you have in it that the average person doesn't have or wouldn't have heard of?
Three dishwashers. 😂
And come xmas time I use them all haha.
Honestly though we don't have anything that the average person wouldn't have heard of.
One of my favourite things is my panic button though, while DH stays away. You hear of people targeting footballers houses when they are away so I've got a panic button right near my bed.
Sunshiness · 11/07/2018 13:44
Do you not worry that you might end up resenting your DH later on in life, as you had to give up your career for him? If you say it is now "your job" to be there for him 24/7. Does that not make you quite dependent?
Thank you for answering all these questions, it's so interesting 
iamawagama · 11/07/2018 13:50
Do you not worry that you might end up resenting your DH later on in life, as you had to give up your career for him? If you say it is now "your job" to be there for him 24/7. Does that not make you quite dependent?
Yes, very dependent.
It's a weird one because I do love being at home and doing all the house stuff, it also means I can go away when I want to and I have a lot of freedom in that respect. BUT I do want something to do as well, like a hobby of some sort to get some of 'me' back. I don't want to go back to what I was doing as it was so high pressure and stressful.
I'm lucky in that I don't have to work for financial reasons (which is why I volunteer regularly) but I'd like to be more than just a wife/mum.
Wish I was good at photography, or could be a stylist, or had a musical talent or SOMETHING! Anything! Haha.
HollowTalk · 11/07/2018 14:30
You're good at writing and you're very funny. Why not write a novel based on a woman who meets a young footballer on his way up and what she loses in order to be with him and her relationship with the other WAGs? You can see from this thread that people would read it! And you could be completely anonymous. Never ever admit it's you.
AdaLoveless · 11/07/2018 14:38
Thanks for your replies, OP.
I spent a fair bit of time from time to time with the wives and partners of the squad when DH worked for the PL club, and I think only one of the women I met worked.
I mean, I get entirely that you can end up moving around quite a lot at the higher-end clubs, and some people just aren't career-minded anyway, but there are always ways of making two careers work, especially if money for flexible childcare isn't an issue.
And in fact, one of the unexpected and nice things about having a footballer husband/partner struck me as being that, while they work weekends and some week nights during the season and obviously there are international trips too, in fact the average working day for a footballer is very short, and mostly they were home for the day shortly after lunch, and able to spend a lot of time with their children.
AdaLoveless · 11/07/2018 14:44
Sorry, I never asked a question! Why do you think more footballers' wives/partners don't work?
Obviously, there's a lot of money coming in, but I'd work whether it was financially necessary or not which I think is true of a lot of people and it just struck me that it would be equally valid to see that money as allowing you to work by funding flexible, good childcare. That was the other thing as well as being partnered up very young, these women seemed to have begun having children very young, too. The women who tended to be at these events women who worked at the club on the commercial side, or like me who were wives of those who worked there, had a completely different parenting profile, and had had our children far later, by and large.
Also, OP -- who is/was the Secret Footballer? or have there been several?
arabellahorseyhorsey · 11/07/2018 15:10
My DS has been at school with three PL families and I'm going to out Liam Rosenior as being the nicest, most generous, open hearted guy. Always a smile, a Hello, fab with starstruck Dads kids and generous with his time. Love that family.
Am currently sharing the school car park with someone who is in Russia this month and we ignore him slightly more than he ignores us.
iamawagama · 11/07/2018 15:40
Why do you think more footballers' wives/partners don't work?
Speaking for myself, the job I had just wouldn't have worked with us moving around. Also I was finding it stressful and really long days so was glad to see the back of it in a way.
Also in a completely Waggish way I love being free to go for lovely lunches with DH. As you mentioned it's quite a short working day for him through the week and it's nice to go have some pimms in the sun when we can!
If they do particularly well in a match on a Saturday for example the gaffer might say "have Sunday Monday off, report in Tuesday afternoon" and so we can call my/his mum to come watch the kids and we can scooch over to Paris/Rome/Barcelona for a few days. The dream!! I wouldn't be able to do that with my job.
So basically, I don't work because I like to live the life of Riley while we can 😩😂
I'm aware it won't last forever. And I do have great qualifications and could go back to work if/when needed
iamawagama · 11/07/2018 15:43
Have your children ever been bullied as a result of your DH’s antics or career?
No there's some gentle ribbing with a loss sometimes but nothing too bad. I have heard of managers children getting slack in schools. In a way managers are in a worse position as they can be let go at any time during the season
AlisonCHaynes · 11/07/2018 15:57
You have already mentioned the homophobia, so do you know any pl players who you know, or strongly suspect are gay,? Is this an 'open secret', or just secret. And do they have wags and. Children. Based on what you know, do you think a pl player will come out anytime soon?
AndWhat · 11/07/2018 16:48
Fab thread.
Did you buy your large house outright or do you have a huge mortgage to go with it?
Do you make regular savings or have a backup plan should your DH suffer a career ending injury or lose form and dropped?
I worry about these footballers who just have their career ended in seconds in their 20s or 30s
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