My sister has been hurting her son

So sorry to hear this. It is horrific.
I'm glad he had your parents and you and is safe now.

You couldn't do any more than you have so don't blame yourself.

Your poor nephew.

Surely she’ll end up in prison and I can’t imagine she’ll be allowed any contact never mind to have him back.

If she was comfortable sharing some videos with you in an attempt to show it wasn’t ’that bad’ and absolve her I can’t imagine that was the worst of it.

Has SS been contacted at the content of what was shown been shared to them , has RSPCC been contacted ?
Yes I get she is your sister , but you must not try to protect her . Tbh I would not see her as a sister from now on . She ( and her partner ) need prosecuting for what they have done and they need to never get him back .

Poor boy, this is awful.

I hope your sister and her partner end up in jail for this.

Your nephew is now safe with you parents and you could not have known what was happening if you live abroad.

Your poor nephew.

what do the videos show? Why did she think they will absolve her?

hopefully her and the boyfriend will not be able to get her back. Particularly if the abuse captured on video is bad enough to warrant him being taken out of their care. There is no doubt / ambiguity if it is on video.

That’s a devastating thing to find out. I’m so sorry. I understand why you have feelings of guilt but people who do this are often excellent at covering their tracks so even if you had been close by, you might not even have seen it then.

I’d be surprised if she will be allowed anything other than closely supervised contact, if that, for a very long time. Abuse over that long a period, clearly planned and filmed, is not something that they can just apologise for and they’ll get him back. Presuming all the checks on your parents come back satisfactory the mos likely outcome, I’d guess, is a special guardianship order whereby they would get parental responsibility. I don’t know the ins and outs of the process so don’t quote me on that, and it’s a long road, and if it started when she got with her partner there’ll be a lot of examination of that relationship too. Her chances of getting her son back will partly depend on the dynamics of that, I’d have thought, but it’s impossible to say without knowing the ins and outs of it all, and police will be involved too.

Make sure you have someone to talk to about it. This is a horrible shock for you and you need to process it, so while I’m sure you want to support your family you need to look after yourself too.

I'm so sorry for that poor little boy.

It must be awful to know that your sister has done this. And heartbreaking for your parents.

I hope that you and your family can help your little nephew recover from the trauma that he has suffered. I can't imagine that your sister will ever be allowed to have unsupervised contact again.

Kudos to the amazing teacher who helped to protect this poor child by spotting the signs and raising the alarm.

Thank goodness actions taken. Please take comfort in that. I've made genuine reports that haven't gone anywhere..keeps me awake at night how those dc are living.

I'm sorry, OP. The videos must have been harrowing to watch.

It sounds like your sister has maybe been in denial if she thought that sharing the videos would absolve her. The violence has obviously become normalised for her.

Are either or both of them being prosecuted?

Has someone given these recordings to social services and the police?

Why do you think the child is now living with his GPs?

Have there been signs in the past she is capable of this?

Your family has done the right thing by protecting him .
He sounds like he is now surrounded by good people who have his best interests at heart . He is loved .

Seems unlikely they’d be remanded in custody if your nephew is now safe and they’re adhering tk any bail conditions.

It could take a long time for a charging decision by police.

What an awful shock OP - you must be reeling.

Tbh, as long as your nephew is away from the nasty fuckers it probably doesn't make a lot of material difference how long it is until the court date, although I can understand why you are frustrated by this. The main thing is that your nephew is now safe and being cared for by your mum, and that you and your mum are continuing with his therapies etc.

The one good thing (bear with me) about your sister being stupid enough to record the abuse is that it can be used as evidence against her in court.

I am so sorry that this has happened. Your nephew has had a rotten start but he now has caring family members to look after him thank goodness. Thank goodness the school and your mum noticed that things weren't right, and reported it; well done to them.

Am so sorry this happened to the little boy by the person he should've trusted the most. Where's dad in all this?

Thankful that the family have got together to care for the little one now, I hope that he will not be permanently damaged by this experience and with the right care go on to have a calmer, peaceful life. Thankful for the school.

I also hope they throw the book at your sister and her partner and any future children they may have together are removed instantly.

When you say abuse, do you mean a smacked bum when he's been naughty kind of thing? The reason I'm confused is that she has shown videos of it, surely you wouldn't show people videos of it if you were seriously abusing your child?

Read the OP's posts. No, not a smacked bum.