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condomgate · 2026-10-20T10:43:19+00:00

Just to make it absolutely clear, this isn’t about DH and I. My friend is 3 months pregnant, her husband is in shock because they were using condoms every time and not one split. She’s just admitted to me that she used a pin to poke holes in them. Now call me naive but one, I thought that a tiny pin hole would not be able to get somebody pregnant and also I think this is a crime? I’m disgusted with her and I did tell her that. Regular poster, name changed. DH and I are good friends with her and her DH and I just don’t feel okay about this. I feel like she’s done something so wrong that I want to avoid them for as long as possible.

PollyBell · Today 02:16

So if a man takes a condom off during sex thst is wrong but a woman can poke holes in condom and it is the man's fault?

Missey85 · Today 03:20

Arlanymor · 20/10/2026 11:50

Yes you can get pregnant. It's called stealthing. It's illegal in some countries.

Just going to put this here: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/crime/stealthing-germany-woman-jailed-condoms-b2073579.html

It's reprehensible behaviour.

It's illegal here in Australia 🇦🇺

WhatsItAllForAnyway · Today 04:32

Just for interest, I once tried poking holes in condoms just to see if you could actually not tell it had been done. I had read some article about it, did it in front of DH, then threw it out. No deception involved. The pin pushed the condom out the hole it made in the wrapper. You'd honestly have had to have been blind to not be able to see the wrapper wasn't intact, and even then, you'd have been able to feel it.

If you really can do it, it's amazing anything could get through a hole so incredibly fine (even with sperm being miniscule), but it's a horrible deception. Best he has a vasectomy now.

grinandslothit · Today 04:52

Did she explain why she did that?

Hopefully her husband will now get a vasectomy

Walkden · Today 05:26

If you really can do it, it's amazing anything could get through a hole so incredibly fine (even with sperm being miniscule)

Not really; sperm are the smallest cells in the body. The head is only a few micrometers across. A pinhead is at least a mm wide.

WhatTheHellsGoingOn · Today 05:33

WhatsItAllForAnyway · Today 04:32

Just for interest, I once tried poking holes in condoms just to see if you could actually not tell it had been done. I had read some article about it, did it in front of DH, then threw it out. No deception involved. The pin pushed the condom out the hole it made in the wrapper. You'd honestly have had to have been blind to not be able to see the wrapper wasn't intact, and even then, you'd have been able to feel it.

If you really can do it, it's amazing anything could get through a hole so incredibly fine (even with sperm being miniscule), but it's a horrible deception. Best he has a vasectomy now.

I guess you could poke the hole one side and not go all the way through to the other while still damaging the condominium. The other person wouldn’t see it. Also not every woman (or man if the woman hands it to them opened) scrutinises the packets while their partner puts one on. Even if they made packets impermeable to needles a man could still tamper with it quickly while they were putting it on with their back to their partner, or woman could before handing it to them to put on.

It’s criminal behaviour and yes rape.

Credittocress · Today 05:36

WhatTheHellsGoingOn · Today 05:33

I guess you could poke the hole one side and not go all the way through to the other while still damaging the condominium. The other person wouldn’t see it. Also not every woman (or man if the woman hands it to them opened) scrutinises the packets while their partner puts one on. Even if they made packets impermeable to needles a man could still tamper with it quickly while they were putting it on with their back to their partner, or woman could before handing it to them to put on.

It’s criminal behaviour and yes rape.

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https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2003/42/part/1/crossheading/rape

Sexual Offences Act 2003

An Act to make new provision about sexual offences, their prevention and the protection of children from harm from other sexual acts, and for connected purposes.

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2003/42/part/1/crossheading/rape

FannyCradocksDoughnut · Today 05:38

The pin hole will stretch when it's put on and the tadpoles will escape

iamnotalemon · Today 05:39

SummerAsh · 20/10/2026 12:11

How many men examine condoms for pinprick holes before sex?

Can you imagine it… “Wait a minute, love. Before we go any further, I just need to turn the light on and inspect the condom for tiny holes… I’ll roll it out and blow it up first, and see if I can hear any hissing… If not, I’ll roll it back up and put it on. Would you like the light left on or off once I’ve done this?”

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😂😂😂

iamnotalemon · Today 05:41

I think this is awful and she should be ashamed of herself really.

WhatsItAllForAnyway · Today 05:44

WhatTheHellsGoingOn · Today 02:08

Or he naively (stupidly) trusted her. If she told him she was on the pill he’d have believed her if he assumed she wasn’t a selfish, fucked up human being

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You should be able to trust the person you're with. We tell men to take responsibility for their own contraception, so you can hopefully trust your partner not to mess with the condoms.

I mean, we have one where we just didn't bother with the condom and neither of us bothered to check whether we were in the riskiest time of the month or not. I hold us both responsible for that one.

NautilusLionfish · Today 05:46

AgeingMillennial · 20/10/2026 11:44

Meh.

Do they have kids? What’s the situation?

Don’t blame her if he’s strung her along for years or similar

Would it also beok for a man to do this to a woman and get her pregnant?