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AIBU to not let my 17 year old daughter go to the cinema at this time?

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sweeel · 27/07/2026 15:54

Basically, my 17 year old daughter wants to go to watch the new Spider-Man movie at 845pm this Wednesday, and she's going to the town about a thirty minute drive from us because that's where her friend is (and this is a town we are very familiar with etc. we used to live here but it's still obviously not super near as a local cinema).

She'll reach there by about 730 and hang out with her friend for a bit till the movie but the movie is about 2 hours 20 mins + adverts so I don't think it'll be finished till close to 12am. Then I have to go and collect her and I'm really worried about her safety of being out so late at night and I feel like I shouldn't allow her to go because it's so late and it will be dark by that time obviously even though it's summer...

She booked this time because all the other times were sold out and she wanted to see it specifically on opening night but I'm having serious doubts.

OP posts:
Pinkchickenwine · 03/08/2026 07:30

NDFB · 03/08/2026 06:36

There's a roomful of people with yes older teens laughing so out loud! Re-read your response LOL.

Very odd

Mummyoflittledragon · 03/08/2026 10:48

Same @Pinkchickenwine

CandidRaven · 03/08/2026 13:59

Mine is 17 and she does what she likes she's not a small child and I trust her to be responsible which she is.

mrswhiplington · 03/08/2026 15:12

TheignT · 02/08/2026 17:09

Made me smile. I was married at 17, admittedly not the most sensible thing I ever did. I'd have been safer at the cinema

😅 I was working full time in Manchester at 17. We'd go off to the pub after work and I'd be getting in at all hours. I only used buses. No lifts for me.

ThatRareGreySheep · 03/08/2026 19:14

Davidpowell · 01/08/2026 18:54

At 17 my daughter was working in a bar/restaurant.

this was a pain as it meant many Saturday night late pickups. We did have a reliable taxi driver until he became less so and had to be reported!

She is now a strong bolshy no nonsense young adult of whom I am extremely proud.

at some point you have to relax the controls

I wish my parents did this with me. Suddenly it was "you're 18 not my problem" and no discussions about how to find a job, let alone keep one.

"employers wont handhold you" how the fuck is that applicable to being mobbed out of a workplace by several coworkers + the manager when you show up early, ask if there is more you can do whenever you've done your current tasks trying to keep busy, and are generally sociable and try to engage with your coworkers with a positive attitude?

Rebeldiamond1 · 05/08/2026 10:50

ofcolitas · 27/07/2026 15:58

Do you like to have a few drinks before bedtime in order to help you sleep OP? Because in real life it was always the mothers who liked a drink who didn't want to do the late night drives.

If so, just don't drink for that night.

What nonsense is this. Its usually someone who wants to be in bed asleep that doesnt want to be up late doing pick ups.

Teddybear23 · 05/08/2026 10:58

sweeel · 27/07/2026 15:54

Basically, my 17 year old daughter wants to go to watch the new Spider-Man movie at 845pm this Wednesday, and she's going to the town about a thirty minute drive from us because that's where her friend is (and this is a town we are very familiar with etc. we used to live here but it's still obviously not super near as a local cinema).

She'll reach there by about 730 and hang out with her friend for a bit till the movie but the movie is about 2 hours 20 mins + adverts so I don't think it'll be finished till close to 12am. Then I have to go and collect her and I'm really worried about her safety of being out so late at night and I feel like I shouldn't allow her to go because it's so late and it will be dark by that time obviously even though it's summer...

She booked this time because all the other times were sold out and she wanted to see it specifically on opening night but I'm having serious doubts.

I totally agree and can't believe the number of people thinking you are being unreasonable. In this day and age, young women are NOT safe anymore being out at such a late time and without male company.

Lentilcakes · 05/08/2026 11:41

She’s 17 and going to the cinema - not sure what the problem is, sorry!!
What does she normally do of an evening?

Lentilcakes · 05/08/2026 11:42

Teddybear23 · 05/08/2026 10:58

I totally agree and can't believe the number of people thinking you are being unreasonable. In this day and age, young women are NOT safe anymore being out at such a late time and without male company.

Absolute nonsense - she’s not clubbing round town, she’s going to the cinema and being picked up.

Cherrytree86 · 05/08/2026 11:48

Teddybear23 · 05/08/2026 10:58

I totally agree and can't believe the number of people thinking you are being unreasonable. In this day and age, young women are NOT safe anymore being out at such a late time and without male company.

@Teddybear23

what do u mean in this day and age? It’s not anymore dangerous now than it used to be

Pinkchickenwine · 05/08/2026 11:56

Teddybear23 · 05/08/2026 10:58

I totally agree and can't believe the number of people thinking you are being unreasonable. In this day and age, young women are NOT safe anymore being out at such a late time and without male company.

Statistically the male company that know her are most likely to abuse her.

So do young women never go out?

Also, don’t teach your daughters that it’s only safe to be out with a man.

VestibuleWeaver · 06/08/2026 07:16

Teddybear23 · 05/08/2026 10:58

I totally agree and can't believe the number of people thinking you are being unreasonable. In this day and age, young women are NOT safe anymore being out at such a late time and without male company.

Absolute drivel.

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