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to ask why people still do not believe that Islamophobia doesn’t exist and therefore doesn’t need an official definition?

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AdvicePleas · 02/08/2024 00:43

This is a question for the general public , After the recent events , where a horrific unimaginable event that has left a community and parents shattered , reeling from the loss of their babies - the first thing that a significant group did was to attack who they thought were to blame.
and it was the Muslim community.
without verification , confirmation , the hatred was palpable -it was always there.

As a muslim ; every time something like this happens, I know all of us pause and are frightened whether the perpetrators are Muslim and - when they are not - then there are no fingers pointed to whether their religion is to blame for their actions.
the entire community isn’t put to trial.
I am so sad for the senseless loss that the parents and families are going through.
My heart goes our to them,
as my friend who is a hijab wearing Muslim said earlier today -thank god he wasn’t Muslim otherwise they would have come and killed us in our sleep. It hit me to the core how much some people hate us?
I feel this is an injustice to my 70 year old mother who prays 5 times a day, loves her god and has not harmed a single person in her life , my sister who is a confidant professional woman but will not travel out of multi cultural areas for fear of being attacked.

still the government refused to put an official definition for Islamophobia?
having grown experiencing huge levels of it in the early 90/ , I feel that those that do not believe that the Muslim community are hated by other for simply being Muslim are just ignoring it or are part of the problem .
I feel sad for my children , who don’t speak the language their parents speak, only belong to this country but look visibly different and belong to a religion that is hated so much and the government can’t protect them.

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pandasorous · 02/08/2024 06:27

Edingril · 02/08/2024 05:49

So what is life like for people that live in Islamic countries? Are they perfectly happy and free to do what they want and men and women and children are treated fairly and being of a different culture/background/social class/ sexualising orientation/religion are all treated well and accepted by the other communities living there?

If so great, if not then how is it any different to what people say about Britain and the British?

depends on the country.

also just because a country has a lot of Muslims or calls itself islamic Republic of so and so doesn't make it islamic.

for eg. saudi is the most unislamic I can think of in the world. they say they have shariah laws, they don't. the basis of their existence is against fundamental islamic principals.

there is no country in the world as of right now that is an "islamic country"

pandasorous · 02/08/2024 06:32

Ponoka7 · 02/08/2024 01:15

He could be an incel. The choosing of that event and the choosing of the Women's hospital hasn't been decided based on nothing.
During Covid the Mosques were still providing prayer for men. The women were protesting and trying to raise public awareness. But they were beaten down by the Equality act and sex not being protected. But not really beaten down as such, more just mumbled about and ignored until it went away. Life across many countries is appalling for women. Which is why religion and culture needs to be seperate and then education about Islam started. I think that education on what Jewish people have contributed was always the way to govto remove the hatred. However I will never accept a religion that tells me that I'm a second class citizen.

no one is asking you to accept Islam. you are free to believe what you want and others are free to believe what they want.
Islam absolutely does not treat women as second class citizens, quite the opposite. Muslims obviously have issues with misogyny, as do people of all backgrounds.

the majority of mosques in the country are run by old men who are playing village politics and they don't just exclude women, they exclude the whole community.

plenty of mosques were open to women during covid, except when they were totally closed to everyone. perhaps you should worry more about paedophilia in the Catholic church than a few old men getting power trips on being on control of mosque committees?

pandasorous · 02/08/2024 06:34

LightFull · 02/08/2024 02:09

Well it doesn't help that many Muslim women and their children do not integrate even now with members of their community

DC not allowed to parties with their school friends they've been invited to

Muslim mothers never going on mum nights out when invited

It's really sad actually

Obviously this is not always the case but very common nevertheless

have you done a study and have any solid statistics? no? are you relying on your personal experience?
what a surprise!
a lot of Muslim women and their DC go out, socialise etc.etc.

Fairyliz · 02/08/2024 06:35

pandasorous · 02/08/2024 06:24

why do you assume Muslim women are "not allowed" to come out for a drink?
they choose not to if they are practising Muslims
me or any of the women I know don't need anyone's permission to do anything. we go wherever the fuck we want.

I don’t assume I asked a Muslim woman to join a group of mums on a night out and she told me Muslims couldn’t drink.
Was I supposed to tell her she was completely wrong?

pandasorous · 02/08/2024 06:36

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what is your source for 90% of terror attacks being done by Muslims? I would love to see your stats

Usercyzabc · 02/08/2024 06:38

AdvicePleas · 02/08/2024 00:43

This is a question for the general public , After the recent events , where a horrific unimaginable event that has left a community and parents shattered , reeling from the loss of their babies - the first thing that a significant group did was to attack who they thought were to blame.
and it was the Muslim community.
without verification , confirmation , the hatred was palpable -it was always there.

As a muslim ; every time something like this happens, I know all of us pause and are frightened whether the perpetrators are Muslim and - when they are not - then there are no fingers pointed to whether their religion is to blame for their actions.
the entire community isn’t put to trial.
I am so sad for the senseless loss that the parents and families are going through.
My heart goes our to them,
as my friend who is a hijab wearing Muslim said earlier today -thank god he wasn’t Muslim otherwise they would have come and killed us in our sleep. It hit me to the core how much some people hate us?
I feel this is an injustice to my 70 year old mother who prays 5 times a day, loves her god and has not harmed a single person in her life , my sister who is a confidant professional woman but will not travel out of multi cultural areas for fear of being attacked.

still the government refused to put an official definition for Islamophobia?
having grown experiencing huge levels of it in the early 90/ , I feel that those that do not believe that the Muslim community are hated by other for simply being Muslim are just ignoring it or are part of the problem .
I feel sad for my children , who don’t speak the language their parents speak, only belong to this country but look visibly different and belong to a religion that is hated so much and the government can’t protect them.

I am terrified of Islamic extremism, but then I was on the tube during 7/7, and had colleagues and friends in the twin towers. You can tell me it was an inside job too if you like, doesn’t change my complete fear of backs packs on the tube. Do I hate Muslims, absolutely not, I spend Eid with friends and family.

What I hate is racism, and culture clashes, no respect for host countries, their codes of conduct, and lack of rights for women, I don’t like entitlement and refusal to contribute to society, that goes for governments too as they are a lot of the time the cause of civil unrest.

hth

ApiratesaysYarrr · 02/08/2024 06:39

MrsBrightsidde · 02/08/2024 01:59

The anti Muslim backlash was sparked because social media made a bunch of assumptions. In the hours after the attack it was rife with posts that the attacker was man named Ali who came over on a boat last year. Even good old Laurence Fox posted that before the police confirmed otherwise. And that alone shows what Muslims have to face.

A white man killed 3 people in Bushey and no one protested. A non white man killed 3 people in Southport and the rumours and false allegations started culminating in the hate riots.

And someone linked to one of those X posts on Mumsnet

Usercyzabc · 02/08/2024 06:41

Forgot to add I had ancestors in the crusades too…probably both sides going by 23 and me.

pandasorous · 02/08/2024 06:41

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I've looked at the stats and the hatred towards Muslims is far far more prevalent than antisemitism (not that it diminishes the seriousness of antisemitism ofc). disclaimer I don't remember how the number looks when considered in the context of population ratios

MyBirthdayMonth · 02/08/2024 06:41

I think there is a double negative in your title.

Usercyzabc · 02/08/2024 06:42

MyBirthdayMonth · 02/08/2024 06:41

I think there is a double negative in your title.

lol unhelpful but lol

pandasorous · 02/08/2024 06:43

Fairyliz · 02/08/2024 06:35

I don’t assume I asked a Muslim woman to join a group of mums on a night out and she told me Muslims couldn’t drink.
Was I supposed to tell her she was completely wrong?

yes practisingMuslims don't drink. but she chooses to follow that. no one is locking her at home forcing her not to go for drinks. that is just her choice.
some Muslims still go out for drinks (but have a non alcoholic drink), others are more observant.

Usercyzabc · 02/08/2024 06:45

pandasorous · 02/08/2024 06:43

yes practisingMuslims don't drink. but she chooses to follow that. no one is locking her at home forcing her not to go for drinks. that is just her choice.
some Muslims still go out for drinks (but have a non alcoholic drink), others are more observant.

Would anyone exclude their sober friend, or someone in AA. My sober friends would be mightily pissed off to not be invited out because they’re detoxing, recovering alcoholic, or whatever.

MoobyMoo · 02/08/2024 06:45

pandasorous · 02/08/2024 06:43

yes practisingMuslims don't drink. but she chooses to follow that. no one is locking her at home forcing her not to go for drinks. that is just her choice.
some Muslims still go out for drinks (but have a non alcoholic drink), others are more observant.

You don’t know that.

There’s lots of abuse in the culture precisely because it promotes that.

FinalInstructionstotheAudience · 02/08/2024 06:45

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Wtf?

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AmyFFismyhomegirl · 02/08/2024 06:46

Coming back to the point of the thread-defining Islamophobia-is there an internationally recognised definition as the ihra definition of antisemitism? Or a nationally agreed/proposed one? I looked for one because of an issue that came up at work (I'm not Muslim btw, but this issue is v relevant in my role). I couldn't find a definition, and it's actually pretty difficult to define in a meaningful way, beyond say 'acts aimed at a person who is or is perceived to be Muslim which are motivated by their religion'. And that example is pretty crap (just me giving a possible example). For instance those acts could be positive. You also probably want to just make it criminal offences motivated by Islamaphobia. But we have that legislation already. You're right-a definition would help-probably one like the ihra definition with examples, but it's actually really hard and prob needs to come from the Muslim community.
If you know of a definition genuinely I'd like to see it.

Gummybear23 · 02/08/2024 06:48

AdvicePleas · 02/08/2024 00:43

This is a question for the general public , After the recent events , where a horrific unimaginable event that has left a community and parents shattered , reeling from the loss of their babies - the first thing that a significant group did was to attack who they thought were to blame.
and it was the Muslim community.
without verification , confirmation , the hatred was palpable -it was always there.

As a muslim ; every time something like this happens, I know all of us pause and are frightened whether the perpetrators are Muslim and - when they are not - then there are no fingers pointed to whether their religion is to blame for their actions.
the entire community isn’t put to trial.
I am so sad for the senseless loss that the parents and families are going through.
My heart goes our to them,
as my friend who is a hijab wearing Muslim said earlier today -thank god he wasn’t Muslim otherwise they would have come and killed us in our sleep. It hit me to the core how much some people hate us?
I feel this is an injustice to my 70 year old mother who prays 5 times a day, loves her god and has not harmed a single person in her life , my sister who is a confidant professional woman but will not travel out of multi cultural areas for fear of being attacked.

still the government refused to put an official definition for Islamophobia?
having grown experiencing huge levels of it in the early 90/ , I feel that those that do not believe that the Muslim community are hated by other for simply being Muslim are just ignoring it or are part of the problem .
I feel sad for my children , who don’t speak the language their parents speak, only belong to this country but look visibly different and belong to a religion that is hated so much and the government can’t protect them.

This has been totally driven by the media.
Think the British state is now treating Muslims how they treated Catholics 300 years ago. Used to kill us and imprison us and ban us and hang draw and quarter our priests.

FinalInstructionstotheAudience · 02/08/2024 06:48

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Why were you pushing them on the swings? Are you a relative?

pandasorous · 02/08/2024 06:49

Usercyzabc · 02/08/2024 06:45

Would anyone exclude their sober friend, or someone in AA. My sober friends would be mightily pissed off to not be invited out because they’re detoxing, recovering alcoholic, or whatever.

exactly
and sometimes its possible to make plans to include a sober friend and maybe go somewhere that serves alcohol but has a few more options for the people not drinking.
I think a lot of Muslim women feel intimidated being around drunk men and a lot of Muslim men and women feel uncomfortable being in pubs because they simply haven't grown up in that culture. or just don't enjoy it.

silentpool · 02/08/2024 06:50

There should be one set of standards in society, which applies equally to everyone.

Religious people should be free to practice and equally, expected to respect the laws and customs of the land. I think Islam needs to stop expecting protection from criticism and discussion, while also being insular and holding itself apart from Western society. Yes of course that is a generalisation but it appears to be something which is causing tension. People don't fear the familiar and integrated.

I will not use the term Islamophobic as it is a silly term, which belittles people who may have genuine concerns. I am phobic of sharks, I'm not a fan of religion.

MoobyMoo · 02/08/2024 06:51

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People aren’t scared of terrorist attacks from Hindus or Christians or Jews or Buddhists or Sikhs.

They’re afraid of them from Muslims. For a reason.

It’s an uncomfortable truth, but it’s the truth none the less. Throwing names around doesn’t change that.

cupcaske123 · 02/08/2024 06:52

AdvicePleas · 02/08/2024 01:24

There is a definition and laws in place , rightly so, for antisemitism.
what is the difference here when there seems to be enough statistics and trends that Islamophobia exists and is an issue.

We already have hate crime and hate speech laws which include religion.

pandasorous · 02/08/2024 06:54

AmyFFismyhomegirl · 02/08/2024 06:46

Coming back to the point of the thread-defining Islamophobia-is there an internationally recognised definition as the ihra definition of antisemitism? Or a nationally agreed/proposed one? I looked for one because of an issue that came up at work (I'm not Muslim btw, but this issue is v relevant in my role). I couldn't find a definition, and it's actually pretty difficult to define in a meaningful way, beyond say 'acts aimed at a person who is or is perceived to be Muslim which are motivated by their religion'. And that example is pretty crap (just me giving a possible example). For instance those acts could be positive. You also probably want to just make it criminal offences motivated by Islamaphobia. But we have that legislation already. You're right-a definition would help-probably one like the ihra definition with examples, but it's actually really hard and prob needs to come from the Muslim community.
If you know of a definition genuinely I'd like to see it.

to be honest, I disagree with the OP. I don't think defining or not defining won't change a thing.
look at this thread, and the views posted on here. hate, ignorance, fear.
and this is the result of decades of anti Muslim, anti Islam rhetoric in the media. can't be undone by changing definition. the only way this will change (and I say this as a conservative muslim) will -

  1. Muslims need to proactively engage with their community
  2. Muslims need to actually start acting like Muslims (improve our character, more neighbourly, contributing more to the community, embodying the virtues of our faith)
  3. there needs to be more education around muslims/Islam in school and for general public
  4. More community initiatives for interfaith (including people who are agnostics/atheists) events to promote greater understanding
OneBadKitty · 02/08/2024 06:54

We don’t know that the Southport murderer wasn’t Muslim. There are quite a few Rwandan people converting to Islam from Christianity. It’s possible he was and possible that he had been radicalised in some way. We just don’t know and should not be making any assumptions at this point.