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Dating thread 169: You know that tingly feeling you get when you like someone? That's common sense leaving your body...

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JeSuisPrest Thu 05-Sep-19 14:19:33

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Thread 169 open for business, roll up, roll up...

Mytimeoneday Thu 05-Sep-19 14:21:18

@JeSuisPrest Thank you for the new thread!!

supercali77 Thu 05-Sep-19 14:23:12

hahaha. New thread lols. Thanks Jesuis

lifegoes Thu 05-Sep-19 14:26:34

Love the new thread.

And @Mytimeoneday I'd just let that one go from okcupid. It happens loads on OLD. You can match with someone on tinder never hear from them.
Match and chat and then they disappear.

It's just all a numbers game unfortunately

Notcoolmum Thu 05-Sep-19 15:31:03

Haha. Loving the thread title. We can indeed lose all common sense in the hormone rush of meeting someone we like...

WhatWhyWhen Thu 05-Sep-19 15:50:06

Found you, LOVE the title grin

CocoKoko123 Thu 05-Sep-19 15:53:06

Thanks jesuis for shiny new thread.
So to answer others questions - have been with bf for 6 months.has met parents, dc once/twice respectively, yes has 1 dc of his own.didnt want to rush things due o experience with parents are also advising not to rush things.hmm good for thought.

CocoKoko123 Thu 05-Sep-19 15:53:27

And thanks for all your words of wisdom!

MoreNiceCereal Thu 05-Sep-19 16:00:25

Love the new thread!

I've been pondering over the interactions I've had with various men over the past few months and can honestly say I've learned a little bit more about myself every time. I would quite like to have something a bit more solid and steady someday, though.

SBD1 Thu 05-Sep-19 16:01:49

I can think of a better title for the thread....who else you giving your blueberries to.

I'll be asking the damn question once he replies to me.

He's a medical person (not a doctor) so is out all day visiting clients and I'm feeling needy today. I don't know whats happened to the independent woman who hates people in her personal space. I tell you now, I really want him inside my personal space.

supercali77 Thu 05-Sep-19 16:03:14

I really want him inside my personal space hehehe

HairyArsedMan Thu 05-Sep-19 16:04:51

So I had a breakdown. Not a full fledged emotional breakdown grin My car conked out and I was left to my own devices for 4 hours on a motorway slip road pondering life as I waited for a recovery truck to tow me home with HGVs whistling by inches away from me. The aptness of the situation really made me laugh, as I realised life is indeed very short, and risk is high, and waiting for recovery is indeed a very long process.

I decided then that I really didn't want to be cut off from my home: a great relationship. Back on Bumble next week smile

Ta for the thread @JeSuisPrest !

FMFL Thu 05-Sep-19 16:05:59

Love the title! Hi all!

Notcoolmum Thu 05-Sep-19 16:15:34

Welcome back @HairyArsedMan

How old are the DC @CocoKoko123 ?

Neverexpected2 Thu 05-Sep-19 16:34:10

Thanks for the shiny new thread JeSuis 😊

Have my date with new iron MrWade tonight. Still makes me smile, still being respectful. Trying not to get my Hope's up for this one as they usually come to nothing but isn't the point of going on a date to be slightly excited about it 🤷‍♀️ I think if this is another let down I may take a break for a while - my apps are already snoozed.

SBD1 Thu 05-Sep-19 16:36:53

@supercali77 I meant exactly how you interpreted it

lifegoes Thu 05-Sep-19 16:41:57

I think we guessed that @SBD1 😂

SBD1 Thu 05-Sep-19 16:45:56


He better text me back tonight or I'm going back on bloody tinder and having a temper tantrum. Not sure which order

lifegoes Thu 05-Sep-19 16:48:58

When did you last hear from him? Sorry I'm just trying to catch up. I remember your blueberry comment ha. But not sure of the other details have you DTD yet? @SBD1

Mytimeoneday Thu 05-Sep-19 16:52:36

@lifegoes yes you're right, going to chalk it up to experience! Groan....just bloody delete me rather than leave me hanging!!!

SBD1 Thu 05-Sep-19 17:05:59

@lifegoes Last night, at about 10. I'm being totally pathetic I know he's out and about all day, I don't have any worries that he's ghosting me its just I need to arrange for my ex to have DS so I can spend the night with Mr Cactus.

I'd like to DTD at the weekend and he needs to reply so we can go on a date, I can beat him at Mario Kart and then I can be rewarded with.....

I'm just being impatient and irrational but honestly, I miss his face - its only been 4 days since I saw him.... see!

KeepCalmCarryOhFuckIt Thu 05-Sep-19 17:07:43

Checking in, I'm more of a lurker than poster but I have a date tomorrow night with Mr Smooth and I'm bricking it and have even contemplated cancelling. I think he's looking for casual/fun which suits me fine but I've had a sheltered dating life up to now and so nervous, what do I wear, what do I say, argh!

lifegoes Thu 05-Sep-19 17:16:00

Ha yes @SBD1 I think a step back is needed. Don't get over-invested too soon. It ends up messing with your head.

@KeepCalmCarryOhFuckIt don't cancel. Just see how it goes. It's just a date, I always look at my dates as business meetings early on.

WhatWhyWhen Thu 05-Sep-19 17:19:10

mytime I don’t even know if you can delete on OKCupid? I’d like to clear my likes and convos on there so if anyone knows how that would be good!

keepcalm whatever you feel good on and enjoy the butterflies!

SBD I’ve lost track, how many dates are you on? I want him to set a date so you can ask the blueberry question, I’m very invested now!!!

Never - here is to MrWadw working out!!

Morenice ditto, the more you date the more you learn your own wants.

Welcome back Hairy!! 😀

Mytimeoneday Thu 05-Sep-19 17:23:25

@WhatWhyWhen you can go to conversations page and unmatch anyone there, there are three dots on right hand side. My bloke hasn't even read my message so I wish he would unmatch me to show disinterest otherwise I keep wishing and hoping for a response....

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