Dating thread 169: You know that tingly feeling you get when you like someone? That's common sense leaving your body...

[JeSuisPrest]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you. 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

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Thread 169 open for business, roll up, roll up...

@Coffeeandchocolate9

I've just been on a first date while working away with Miss Samba. She seemed cool with me being working away and dating, and she was super smart and engaging to talk with...oh and cute as. We were sat opposite each other on a table, so it was difficult to ramp up the flirting a bit, so I'm not sure if she's into me or not. Parted ways with a cheek peck and squeeze and back to my hotel.

Oddly Miss MI6 from back home (up north) just texted to say she's 4 miles away in London

Glad to see im not the only multiple dater... i have the residue of my NSA phase and theres a bit of an overlap as i go into 'real' dating.
Mr January whos been around a while - hes lovely but ive just about accepted its FWB only. I cant see it lasting much longer.
Then Mr Inaccessible who is very cute but i eventually got fed up with, and who then became much keener [facepalm] mostly text sex which i do like, plus an occasional cup of tea.
Then Mr Dominant who is also mostly text sex but i have met - i have a developing theory that most dominant men arent very dominant in normal life. Requires a bit of suspension of disbelief.

Ive been messaging a bit on match now but nothing is really developing yet. I quite like first messaging, i unleash a stream of consciousness and if they dont get it that's tough. So far they aren't.

@Coffeeandchocolate9 don't under estimate what u have my son had a 2week stay in hospital including 48 hours in intensive care on life support with viral meningitis so take care and rest..no one is worth risking your health for.

Hears nothing from Mr posh so I need to find some more some more irons.
Happy and safe dating it's nearly the weekend.

Mr Viking remains lovely, however our conversation last night tipped over into decidedly steamy territory and I'm concerned because we haven't even met yet. We've texted and voice chatted. Gah, what if there's no chemistry? Awks.

Morning all. First date with MrWade went well. We chatted easily, made each other laugh and hes very attractive. I think he was a little concerned about the age gap - hes closer to 50 whereas I'm closer to 40) but I dont really see it as a problem - hes attractive and is fitter than me for sure.

He walked me to my car after and said hed had a fab night and asked to see me again. I've agreed. There was some kissing. He then texted when we got back for a bit before we went to bed. Looks promising but I'll wait and see if anything comes of it

Ooh got a date on tuesday. Mr guitar. We'll see.

Things are going ok with Mr Skinny, we have been dating now for quite a while but I often feel like I still don’t know that much about him. His divorce came through this week and I have had to hear a lot about it, we went out last night and bumped into one of his mates so I had to hear about the divorce again, his mate was lovely though and told me I must be doing something right as Mr Skinny looks very happy compared to last time he saw him. One thing I’m worried about slightly is his financial circumstances, his divorce has cost him a lot and his ex is making him pay for almost everything for the kids on top of maintenance, I’m pretty sure he’s getting himself into a lot of debt and is spending all the time, I’m pretty good with money, never overdrawn, never owe more than I own and I’m very careful not to spend money I don’t have. Would you worry dating someone that’s in debt? I don’t plan on living with anyone until after my dc’s leave home so I’m not sure it would ever really effect me?

Anyway, I hope everyone’s having a good time dating, I kind of miss the dating game and the first date excitement/anxiety but I don’t miss all the weirdos and the dirty messages from old men 🤣

@Lovemusic33 I wouldn't worry about dating, but I'd be careful about falling for someone with financial problems. Divorce may only be a blip though, I know I've struggled at times.

It wouldn't worry me at this stage, Love. I don't ever intend to live with a partner again though, which is unusual I know.

@lovemusic33 after ex moved out I spent a small fortune of his money on new clothes and hobbies. I just needed to boost my self esteem and cheer myself up. I have reigned in the spending now so it could just be temporary for him too.

@Neverexpected2 that's a lovely update.

@MoreNiceCereal do you think men ever sext and have the same concern that they might not find the woman attractive on the date? I do think it's strange behaviour especially as I thought men were supposed to need more visual stimulation. I find it off putting that some men are able to sext / have phone sex with anyone.

Woke up to a good morning message from MrWade wishing me a good day and telling me to keep smiling because he still is 😊

Stealth my text exchange with MissTiny this week wasn't sexting but became very suggestive and cheeky, but we realised we should rein it in a bit because you just don't know whether you're going to like somebody until you meet. We've both said from our pics we find each other very attractive, but I've been here once before.
I think it tends to happen more when you've got a long period between starting chatting and meeting, MissTiny and I matched 4 weeks ago and we're meeting on Sunday.

@Ant330 I'm very excited for you and Miss Tiny!

I am going to London for the day tomorrow with Mr Ad. He is a Londoner so is going to show me some less mainstream sights. He also booked and paid for the (first class) train tickets and wouldn't hear of me giving him any money. Not used to this at all as no-one has ever really treated me...I've always paid my own way, which I'm fine with. It's not about the money at all but it's so nice to feel special for once.

@lifegoes I keep telling myself its ok I’m cool, I’m chill - I didn’t fancy him at the start at all weirdly. I can’t tell you why, I knew I was instantly comfortable in his presence (I have personal space issues) but I didn’t want to jump his bones. It’s been a slow burner but now I’m like uuuuhhh hey boy. I think we kissed after 3 weeks and that’s when it clicked for me. I’ve been assaulted a couple of times in my life and was really overweight so been very aware of my physicality and I still hate hugging people. I explained it to Mr Cactus and he said its okay, when you’re ready and he’s been slowly invading my space. Started off with a hug and then I’ve made a conscious effort every time I’ve seen him to hug him although I’ve had to “announce” I want a hug hahaha.
I know he likes me a lot…but I like him too much and do not want to get hurt when I’m a single mum and potentially vulnerable? It wouldn’t be the end of the world but I would 100% pine for him. I’m debating about whether I should talk to him about it but I don’t want to scare him off. It’s a bit intense innit.

@WhatWhyWhen Uhhhhh how many dates… I’ll go by how many days I have seen him. 9 times since August 10th? 4 of those including staying the night at respective houses. Coffee date, 2 cinema and food dates, and then a few of those are just hanging out playing games together or watching TV.

So….I knew this would happen, but he messaged me when I was on my way home from work. I knew all along he was just busy at work which is why I kept telling myself off haha. We’re going out for dinner on Saturday night and I’ll stay over. He didn’t say that directly, but he said he can’t do Friday because he has work on Saturday morning MEANING HE WANTS TO STAY UP LATE GET ME YEAH.
After a couple of glasses of wine on Saturday I’m going to be like, dude, its been a month and you should know I deleted Tinder and I want to know if you’re giving anyone else your blueberries. I’m pretty sure what the answer is but I want to know if he’s still swiping on Tinder.

Went to Tesco last night to buy a date outfit, found something I really liked but when I put it on I realised it’s not going to work, I’ve still got weight around my lower torso and it made it look a lot worse so back to the drawing board. Maybe I’ll head off to Primarni in the morning. I also realised…all my underwear is granny pants. LOLOLOL

@StealthNinjaMum I haven't really thought about it from a man's pov. I'm pretty sure he won't have any problems with attraction when we meet - he's been pretty clear how he feels about my looks/personality. I am more worried about myself, I seem to be quite.picky in real life.

You can never tell, and I'm always afraid photos will give a false impression of me.

@notallitseemstobe I get you, I look better in photos. My face is slim but I still have a couple of stone to lose. Mr Cactus doesn't seem to mind though

I'm in hospital mainlining paracetamol like a boss rn I'm not quite sure why I couldn't just take some tablets

Got pretty scary symptoms overnight. I'm here to have every test under the sun. Current theory is urine infection

@Coffeeandchocolate9 My sympathies, I had a similar thing over the bank holiday weekend and beyond. Sudden drop in energy levels, massive fever, pouring with sweat, absolutely banging headache - really severe right into the back of my head and neck waking me up in the night with an immensely stiff neck, falling asleep every 5 minutes.

I had thought it might be viral meningitis but a 7 day course of antibiotics cured it - it was a lingering bladder infection that had got out of control as I had become run down after missing a couple of nights of sleep. Good luck with sorting it, and take it easy - it's probably the worst period of illness I've had in adult life, barring chicken pox.

Shitwith nothing special, just going for a drink in a pub over her way. I'm driving though as she lives about 45 mins away. It's a 1st date so we'll see how it goes, if we get on well then I can imagine it may extend to dinner later as we're meeting mid afternoon.
She did tell me that if we get on well then she'll show me her white bits (she's been on holiday) although she may not have meant on Sunday 😂
Coffee sounds like you're in the right place, hope you're on the mend soon!
Sunshine have a lovely day out tomorrow, it's always nice to be treated 😉
Love if he has money issues, then they're his problem not yours. However it sounds like while continuing to show he's a good dad he's being taken advantage of. I've been there so can sympathise, but what he's doing doesn't sound sustainable.

@shitwithsugaron That's really positive!

I'm sorry to hear Mr B's DC is still in hospital but I'm really glad things are better with him and you and now with his ex...that's a huge step!

New on this thread

Was seeing someone for past month and a bit, 4 dates, had agreed we are dating exclusive. Woke up to have been blocked on WhatsApp without any idea of why, he seemed sweet and genuine and we had smagreed at the beginning that if we lost interest in each other we wouldn't ghost as its a shitty thing to do.

Having a really hard time coping with this, as I really fancied and feelings had started to develop. I am at a loss on what to do, besides going back to the app 😭