Dh and I have been together a long time but things have gone down hill in the last 18 months as he appears to have had a mid life crisis. He has taken up a hobby which seems to take priority over his family - out several times a week,always messaging people on FB, spending hours doing stuff which is hobby related. He has not worked for several years and only wants to do work related to his hobbies and interests which obviously limits his options. I am getting really fed up with funding this lifestyle when I work all hours to pay the bills. If I complain he says that I am just 'jealous' because I have no friends or hobbies .
He goes out every Sunday until around 4.30 usually. Today he has called to say that he may be around an hour or so later and to sort dinner out for myself and dc. I asked why and he said it was because he got there a bit later today. I know that the club packs up at a certain time and when I pointed this out he admitted that the club was packing up but that he was going to a friend's house for tea and a chat . What annoys me is that he initially wouldn't be honest about why he was going to be late. Also, being an hour late doesn't affect our dinner time so why say that?
A while ago he injured himself and ended up on crutches for several months. He told me that he had tripped up at a garage whilst getting petrol but it later transpired that it was his hobby that had caused the injury. There are lots of other little things where he hasn't been honest and I now never know whether to believe him or not. Have considered divorce but he has nowhere to go and can't support himself financially and I can't afford to buy him out in any case .
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Would this lack of honesty annoy you?
reallyhackedoff · 31/05/2015 16:29
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