Any Witches Here? Part 6

[speakout]

Or Wiccans. or Pagans? Or anyone who is interested in a magical path or feels some magical stirrings.

A place for support, learning, swapping ideas and magical inspiration

All welcome.

Woops- part 5 finished so soon- hope you can find us here!

It did finish abruptly! It's amazing how fast it can move at times.

I've spent the last 2 days with the dead but it's time to return now to the living. Freezing cold though it may be!

Glad you found us Elphame- caught me on the hop- I dodn't manage to add a link at the end!

Welcome to number six, one of my favourite magical numbers!

Here's a list of the previous threads

Part 1
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/philosophy_religion_spirituality/3241689-Any-witches-here?pg=1

Part 2
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/philosophy_religion_spirituality/3338025-Any-Witches-Here-Part-2?pg=1

Part 3
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/philosophy_religion_spirituality/3366411-Any-Witches-Here-Part-3?pg=1

Part 4
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/philosophy_religion_spirituality/3404406-Any-Witches-Here-Part-4-Edited-by-MNHQ?pg=1

Part 5
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/philosophy_religion_spirituality/3437092-Any-Witches-Here-Part-5?pg=1

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THank you!

Hi everyone.

To take my mind off the various political car crashes that are happening at the moment:
what's everyone planning for imbolc?

TheABC Public ritual at a local stone circle (must actually finish the planning for that...), and a coven ritual. I don't have the energy at this time of year to do more than the absolute minimum.

It's a big one for me though so I do feel rather guilty that I'm not doing more

When is imbolc - my connection with time is hampered with lack of sleep, GSCE options and a stupid work project where the goal posts get moved just when you think you are ready to hit publish.

Sorry to post and run apparently I need to go buy tea

Hey everyone, so lovely we have thread no 6!
Thank you Speakout xx

Hello!

Made it over

Imholc is 1st/2nd Feb

It's a time when I treat myself to something (very long story)

And plan for the year

It has association to fertility rites if I'm not mistaken?

BartonHollow
In response to your last post on thread 5 - I too had a friend who i kept in my life despite my misgivings because of how long the friendship had been part of my life. It is a kind of grieving to lose a friendship like that but it does get easier. I don't miss the way I used to prickle all over when she said things that were utterly unfounded, and frequently hypocritical too. I do still bump into her as we live in the same area, but I cast a spell to keep her at arms length and it seems to work.

I have had a much better day today, I had my first session with a personal trainer and the exercise and sense of achievement has really boosted me.

I have basically been forced to reevaluate the entire relationship and have been unpleasantly surprised

I simultaneously realised that as a generous and empathetic person I seem to attract users and narcissists in friendships and repeat the same patterns, of being there for someone and then finding they aren't there for me.

Currently wondering what lesson I need to learn that the universe is trying to teach me...

BartonHollow I’ve tried to attempt a pm you a ritual I’ve used before in a similar situation.
I wish you a gentle few days with lots of space to heal.

I am the same, generous and empathic and in my past I also attracted a string of users in friendship.

I learned balance and I learned to say 'no' far more often. Intuitively I knew when I was being taken advantage of but I am that person who always takes the sick puppy home. Well, I did. I figured out that if a friendship is genuine you can say no, and they take it with grace.
I have still gone the extra mile where I shouldn't have done - my most recent experience with a friend was intense and I gave 80% and she gave 20% but she was in a difficult situation. She still is, and I have had to walk away. Helping her was damaging me, and my family.
Each person is different, each friendship is different. We have to determine where our own boundaries are and then preserve them.
It's not easy if you are the sort of person who always wants to help.

queenrollo

Same here- I attracted many users in the first part of my life.

I have learned though. And through working on my own self respect I have nurtured my own power which means I can help support those that really matter in my life.

I think in the particular friendship I'm referring to I was a rescuer/supporter for too long

and when it came to the point where I was no longer able to rescue and in need of support myself I was dispensed with. In a sort of "no, you rescue ME, you go the extra mile for ME, I don't do that for you, and if you can no longer do that buh-bye"

I'm sure that her version of the same scenario is different, but I did once see something she said about how other people viewed her former relationship

Basically everyone envied them

I don't think I saw her once without saying to my DM afterwards "wow I've got 99 problems but at least I'm not in a relationship with THAT arsehole" (her XP)

People create their own narrative and sometimes that's not based on reality.

And sometimes they want to reinvent themselves and to do that they rid themselves of people who know too much truth

Thank you for the PM @bettybiggestballs it is much appreciated

Thanks Barton
I suspect that I shall be paying vast amounts of money for car repairs, dealing with GCSE option finalisation and doing long distance driving for Imholc. If I am lucky I might get time to do something more magical but based on life atm it is going to take a lot of careful planning and less sleep to fit it in.

Imbolc is a lovely festival, isn't it.

I like to do a thorough clean and tidy of the house, clean windows to let the light in. I smudge and cleanse. and bless my home.
I bring in snowdrops and catkins, place white and green candles around.

I will maybe do some Tarot reading, plant some seeds indoors- some Basils and make intentions as I plant. I will visit the river and wash my hands and feet to cleanse fo a new start.

Speakout You're very welcome!

Merry I hope it's a success, let me know

Imbolc - not even thought about it yet, there's a total lunar eclipse on 21 Jan at 05:11
Best viewing window is from 04:42 to 05:44
and it's a supermoon too.

Found you, phew! Thought I'd lost you all!

Thanks to everyone who asked about my dog. He's doing really well thank you. The vet gave him antibiotics and I need to keep his tail covered. Our vet (who is lovely) think it's stands a good chance of healing. The alternative is amputation, which I can't bear to think about.

Sokere you asked about disposing if written work. I bury mine if it's something I'm trying to manifest. Or if it's something I want to let go of, I'll burn it. I do wonder what the neighbours must think if they see me digging in the garden in the dark!

I'm excited for Imbolc. I'm going to a special 'return of the light' sound bath, which I'm hoping will be really magical 😊

Just flying by to pull up my cushion by the fire 🧹

Lovely to be here on a shiny new magical number 6 thread, thank you speakout 💜

I’ll need to catch up- things seem to be moving fast around here!

Took in some lovely sea energy after work today

Love to all x

I really want to be able to burn candles but it's a multi flat build and it has individual and building wide sensitive smoke alarms. It's not a tower block it's more of an apartment complex but we have been requested not to burn candles and I'm fairly certain I would be fined and receive a warning if I set the fire alarm off.

(Thanks for listening everyone btw, you're all great, lets get back to witching)

Morning everyone.e to keep moving.

A freezing cold morning here- minus 4. Just lovely, I will have to scape my car before heading off to yoga this morning.
A busy day ahead, so just have to keep moving!

My energy is high and mood good right now, I am happy to share some around.

@BH
I completely get where you are coming from. I find the same . It has been so starkly apparent in the past few years. Users and narcissists. I end up drained, resentful and disillusioned again and again. It has begun to make me very wary of people generally. I find I get drawn into other people's problems and dramas, trying to help, support and be there for them. Yet they barely ask me a question and are disinterested when I need support. It's interesting how many here feel the same.