Good evening,
It’s been a busy day for me and it’s nice to curl up with a night time tea by the aga.
speakout I can’t believe we’re racing towards a thread number 7 at such a pace! I love that 
Ive been taking in and acting on the valuable advice and ideas you’ve all given me. You’ve really helped me. I’d have been freaking out on my own with this. Thank you 🙏💖
All is still calm and I had a lovely moment of connection with my (late) dad earlier when I was mulling something over as I drove and was ‘answered’ by one of his favourite songs on the radio from the cd we always used to listen to when we drove together.
sockportal I loved reading about you reaping the rewards of your work. I admire what you’ve done, it’s not easy to change patterns like that and agree that the play dough is definitely magic! Bee loving is certainly an attractive quality in a man in my book! 
Sok1ere thank you for that. Definitely useful and noted with gratitude x
Hills I hope things soon calm down for you, or at least that you can find some moments respite amongst it all. I don’t know, if horse whispering works on people then maybe toddler techniques aren’t that crazy an idea?!
queenrollo I sympathise. I did well for the large part with my DS father, like you managed to pick my battles and successfully co parent but once in a while he would have a strop and it would really push my buttons.. as you so wisely say, a reminder of why they are exes. I hope the energy dissapates as you soothe yourself with the candlelight. I used to do a lot of chord cutting when DS was younger!
Violet I’m sorry, I can’t seem to tap into/find any shadow work books.
I’ve always found shamanic journeying helpful for shadow work but I learnt with a teacher. I’ve found journeys to retrieve parts of my soul that have fractured very powerful.
I also really relate to Jungian perspectives on shadow work ( I realise as I write this that I do seem to come back to Jung a lot in my practice!)
Here’s a few articles I found that I thought were good and I’m hoping might spark some ideas about how your shadow work might progress.
I think there’s a really important point in the second one about not doing shadow work when you’re traumatised/grieving etc. By going through it you are doing it and to try and dig deeper at that time could be damaging.
A recurring theme is that these things will bubble to the surface when we’re in a safe place to deal with them, it feels to me like this is what’s happened with you having this dream.
scottjeffrey.com/shadow-work/
www.google.co.uk/url?sa=i&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwjl-J7g3tfgAhUPDxQKHZ1BC6wQzPwBegQIARAC&url=https%3A%2F%2Fcauldronandbrew.wordpress.com%2F2016%2F02%2F10%2Fshadow-work%2F&psig=AOvVaw2FJSsVcjUxibPGo-J26Lnh&ust=1551213503923542
www.wildwoodcircle.com/jungian-psychology-in-wiccan-study/what-is-the-shadow-in-jungian-psychology/