DS is transgender (ftm)16 and happy

[crazyhat]

He is ftm (female to male) and 16, he has been on Testosterone for 7 months and is getting top surgery (breast removal) at 17, over summer. I want to help people understand transgenderism, as I see a lot of casual transphobia on here. Feel free to ask any questions about transitioning, anything is okay to ask, I just want you to understand.

If you have a DC in a similar situation I can help.

What is it that you think people don't understand OP?

And please do report 'casual transphobia' as I haven't seen any.

What do you mean @OrchidInTheSun?

Do they even do breast removal surgery on under 18s?
Where in the world are you OP?

@orchardintheson its not awful! It's great to see how he's changed and is so much happier now. I'd rather a happy son than a dead daughter

@cherriebaby we are in UK, the surgeon is located in Hull

@codename i have not made pour judgements, he made them himself and fully consented to everything he's doing. He knows it's on him if he changes his mind

Crazyhat, looks like you are new to MN (2nd post?) so perhaps you need to get to know the site better.

You're letting a child chop off perfectly healthy body parts? Jesus christ, why didn't you at least wait until they're eighteen and the responsibility is on them? What doctors are agreeing to this?

This is a genuine question so please don’t think that I’m being transphobic because that isn’t my intention.

How have you reconciled letting your child have such life-altering cosmetic surgery so young? Teens change so much, wouldn’t it be safer to ask him to wait a couple of years?

@handsoffmyrights i have browsed the site many times but never posted

Do you believe that humans can change sex OP?

How are you making sure your child knows they have your full support and hopefully the support of their friends and family if they desist or detransition?

Has your child had any advice from fertility specialists about their likely fertility and options going forward?

Is your child on the autistic spectrum?

Hes been "out" for many years, and I know it's right. He is very bright and attentive, he's fully aware what he's doing. He's never been female and I can see the pain it causes him

It's great that he's happy and you're supportive, but I hope he doesn't rush into surgery. 17 is very young to take such a huge step.

Out of interest, how many women did you and your son speak to who have grown out of their gender dismorphia?

How long has it been since he decided to transition?
How long did it take from going to visit the GP to being seen by a specialist?

I made some terrible decisions at 17. Wasn’t immature for my age, was just your average 17 year old.
It’s far too young to do something so drastic and irreversible.

Nothing happened to my son. He's not autistic or anything else. He has anxiety but linked to transgenderism. He did have severe depression but since starting testosterone it has lessened a lot

@midgebabe we haven't really spoken to any, we spoke to medical professionals rather than a few first hand experiences by people who made mistakes.