TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 33- huddle up and bring on the BFP's

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Mumlili8 Sun 17-Nov-19 00:01:26

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to get and give support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy and baby. Pregnancy and child loss is the most awful thing anyone can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

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Mumlili8 Sun 17-Nov-19 00:15:47

🐧 🐧 🐧 🐧 🐧 🐧 🐧 🐧 🐧 🐧 🐧 🐧 🐧

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This is a wonderful supportive group for anyone TTC after the loss of a pregnancy or baby. Together we can get through he rollercoaster of TTC and get our baby penguins xx

Roll call, I will start

Age 38
8 miscarriages to date mc, mmc, cp, cp, mmc, mmc, cp and cp. Not hopeful this cycle. Waiting to ovulate but usually do cd10 or cd11 I'm now cd12 with not a shadow on opks and cbfm says low still. So possibly an anovulation cycle.

Baby dust to everyone xx


Started to tag if someone else can continue x

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Mumlili8 Sun 17-Nov-19 00:21:22

@ReeRi hi hun this the new thread. As to your question about spotting, I have had this before hun. As long as it doesn't last too long, get worse or is painful I'd say your ok. Some time you can get spotting when you ovulate, when the egg breaks through the folic wall. If your worried though check on with the doc. Otherwise it could also be abit of old blood dislodged by dtd. Hope your OK and good luck and fingers crossed 🤞 for that bfp this cycle x

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Mumlili8 Sun 17-Nov-19 00:28:07

Correction to my roll call post I'm currently cd9 not 12.

Im currently going though Rmc clinics, I'm waiting on results from a cervical biopsy and have an appointment with gynaecology for suspected Asherman's syndrome.
Most recent blood work suggested that I'm approaching menopause, so I'm feeling rather nervous about how long I've got left and how long all the investigations are taking. Hoping I will get my rainbow 🌈 baby xxx

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Mumlili8 Sun 17-Nov-19 00:36:29

@Murree @ChangeyMcChangeChange

If I've forgotten anyone please tag them x

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Sunflower1608 Sun 17-Nov-19 01:04:23

Age 31
Blessed with 3 children.
In a new relationship been trying to conceive for 7months, 1 MC in September at 6weeks.
Currently on CD7

MrsMGE Sun 17-Nov-19 07:06:32

Hello everyone!

Age: 33
MMC June 2019
TTC since March 2019
Currently TTCing for my rainbow baby 🌈 - firsr one to take home.

TwinkleStars15 Sun 17-Nov-19 07:42:44

Thanks @Mumlili8 flowers

Age 31
TTC #2
One missed miscarriage at 11 weeks and one natural miscarriage at 5-6 weeks.
Cycle #6 CD20 AF/BFP due 27th
Have Factor V Leiden blood clotting disorder so have to be on Clexane throughout pregnant and for a year or more after.

I struggle to keep up with thread as it’s so fast paced, but I do read the updates daily. Good lock to you all for your rainbow babies flowers

JimSlim Sun 17-Nov-19 09:28:52

Hello. Wanted to join if that’s ok -

I’m early 30s. Have one healthy child, and since having her I have suffered a mmc at 20 weeks, cp, then mmc at 12 weeks.

I have an appointment with miscarriage clinic this week and am just desperate to be pregnant again but also terrified of the idea. Not officially ‘trying’ until next cycle, but I was convinced that I may have been pregnant this week. Got a negative on a Sainsbury’s early test yesterday though so looks like it’s not my month. sad

Murree Sun 17-Nov-19 10:26:49

Hello on the new thread!
I'm 34
TTC #1 for 2 and a half years
Just miscarried at 5 weeks, was the first time pregnant x

ChangeyMcChangeChange Sun 17-Nov-19 10:59:05

Hello on new thread

39, a year TTC this time
Two years to conceive my first daughter who has just turned two
Treatment for endometriosis in August
MC/cp at five weeks earlier this week

strawberrye Sun 17-Nov-19 11:18:05

Hi @Mumlili8 thanks for the tag, I'm often popping in to read how you all are, sorry to see so many new faces. How are you doing? I'm thinking of you a lot and sending you all my baby wishes.

For those that don't know me I'm currently over on the grads thread as I'm 24 weeks pregnant. I was on this thread for around 18 months TTC #1 and had 3 early losses before 6 weeks. Diagnosed hypothyroidism and seen at Tommy's in Coventry after a horrible appointment at my local recurrent miscarriage clinic, saw the lovely Professor Quenby and was given progesterone pessaries to use from 7dpo and continue if BFP at 14dpo. I fell pregnant on that and used the pessaries until about 14-15 weeks in this pregnancy. Apologies if this post upsets anyone but I felt so despondent that there were very few people like me with recurrent chemicals that I would have appreciated hearing about someone's story which was similar to mine.

Try to keep strong ladies, and on the days when you feel like you can't keep strong, remember you are a superhero just for keeping going from one day to the next. Sending you all loss of hugs and rainbow baby wishes 🌈

SunStruck Sun 17-Nov-19 13:55:21

Hi ladies,

I must admit I've been stalking your previous thread for a while, but didn't join just yet only because the thread was so long and it felt a bit daunting! 😄 I've been active on another thread with some lovely ladies, two of them actually here: @MrsMGE and *@LASandOtto*, you know me. Most of the ladies on that thread have already graduated quite a while ago though, and I'm a bit behind!

This is me:

36 years old
First child, TTC since February
MMC at 10 weeks in May
MC at 4-5 weeks in October
Currently 7 or 8 DPO

I've been lucky to catch on the second cycle each time, but it did take ages between the mmc and the cycles to go back to normal. I needed a 2nd d&c due to retained products. This second time which was natural, I've gone back pretty quickly (for me. My cycles are long), so let's see.

I also have polycystic ovaries (not the syndrome), I don't know if this might make my cycles longer.

@MrsMGE and @LASandOtto missed you guys! 🥰🤗

Avocuddles Sun 17-Nov-19 14:45:51

Thanks @Mumlili8 for setting up the new thread!

About me....
@Avocuddles (naff username inspired by a pair of pyjamas that has stuck for a while now!)
Age 36
TTC #1 since June 2018
2 MCs in May and September this year, both at 7-8 weeks but pregnancies had stopped developing at c5-6 weeks. Saw a heartbeat second time round but was measuring behind so knew then that it was unlikely to work out.
Under the Leeds fertility clinic due to long and irregular cycles, though haven't had any medical help yet, just numerous tests.
When pregnant I take Enoxaprin injections and aspirin due to history of deep vein thrombosis which makes my pregnancies high risk.
Have had a couple of months off TTC for the sake of my mental health and relationship, and feeling in a far better place now than I did after the first MC. Ready to start actively trying again and not sure which I'm more scared of, not conceiving or falling pregnant..... confused

MrsMGE Sun 17-Nov-19 15:07:45

Heeey @SunStruck, sista ❤️ Good to see you here. Glad you've had a good holiday, fingers crossed for this month.

I've taken a month off much like @Avocuddles for the sake of my mental health, and it was the right thing to do. Currently getting into the Christmas spirit and stocking up on Baileys and mince pies. This is a lovely group, similar to the one we've been on before, lots of awesome, strong, interesting and like-minded ladies. Our other thread went quiet because everyone is now far along in their pregnancies, I half expected that it might naturally fizzle out as a result. But, great company here, welcome back ❤️ xxx

Avocuddles Sun 17-Nov-19 15:15:44

@SunStruck welcome! Seems like our circumstance are quite similar. How long are your cycles normally? When I first came off the mini pill mine were ridiculously long, 60+ days, though think they've averaged out more like 35 days over the past few months. It's so frustrating!

MrsMGE Sun 17-Nov-19 15:31:08

Also... re the name of the thread, does anyone know the background story? I'm really curious. We're all like penguin-mums, huddled together for comfort and support, and hopefully soon with our baby penguins on the way. Is this the idea behind? Who was the original author? It's a lovely name🐧🐧🐧 xxx

SunStruck Sun 17-Nov-19 15:48:46

@Avocuddles oh yeah very similar! And age too 😄 my app (Naturalcycles) say 39 +- 6 days which is a huge variation. It's not completely accurate as the cycles have been messed up after my first mmc, so I think it is around 35-37 days normally probably. I ovulate very late in my cycle and have a short luteal phase, maybe 8-9 days. I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriages 😔 so are you under investigation now because you're over 35? Or won't they do it until you've had 3 miscarriages (I've heard that's the case wiTH NHS - I live abroad so I'm not sure).

@MrsMGE yes I thought you looked like a great group, just like our other one! But since everyone's so far along in their pregnancies I also don't want to keep talking about temping and ovulation, I'm sure it gets boring 😆oh you're Christmas planning sound amazing. I'm being healthy during the weeks, gym 5 days during the week and eating clean, but I'm not giving up my wine or treats on the weekends 😄 not going to restrict myself now until I get the BFP! I really think it just stresses you out. I'm trying not to think too much about it (obviously still trying to dtd around ovulation, but I'm not thinking about a BFP day and night). It's nice to have other things to look forward to! This trip was good for my mind and soul!

Mumlili8 Sun 17-Nov-19 16:12:15

Hi ladies. Great to see some of you made it over here.
I had a little surprise this afternoon. I use the clearblue fertility monitor in the morning and easy@home opks and clearblue digital ovulation tests in the afternoon. This morning I got a high fertility, (I don't normally mention this to DH as it builds to much pressure and we then run into performance issues. I only ever tell him when it's a peak and hope for the best) luckily DH woke up this morning in a very good mood wink wink and to my surprise I got a peak opk x 2 about 30mins ago. This is unusual for me as I usually get 2 or 3 days high before peak. DH is also away for the next 2 days so this mornings dtd couldn't have been more luckily timed lol. I just hope I actually ovulate with in 36 hours this cycle as it took 4 days from peak to ovulation last cycle, by which time we had stopped dtding because I thought it was an anovulation cycle. So fingers crossed lol

@strawberrye lovely to hear from you and congrats on the healthy pregnancy hun x please keep us updated.

Welcome to the new ladies and sorry you find your self part of a club no one ever wants to join. I do hope that this thread is of some comfort at such a horrible and lonely time.

Baby dust to you all xx

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Mumlili8 Sun 17-Nov-19 16:13:52

Oh my last blood results showed that my estrogen and tsh were up a bit. Do any of you ladies know how to bring these down naturally?

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Mumlili8 Sun 17-Nov-19 16:18:55

@MrsMGE hi hun. Yes that is exactly the idea behind the 🐧 huddle. I don't know who originally started the first thread but I've been here since thread 14 and it's always been the penguin 🐧 huddle. I love the idea and often refer to this as my penguin family lol I think I'm the longest standing member of the penguins and I guess that makes me the mother penguin and feel it's my duty to keep it going lol (that's really sad isn't it)

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MrsMGE Sun 17-Nov-19 16:27:52

@Mumlili8 No, it isn't sad. There will always be that one mother-penguin, it so happens it's you at the moment, but it won't be this way forever ❤️ Very grateful you've started the new thread to keep the huddle together - together stronger! Good luck this month Xxx

@SunStruck I'm glad you're feeling better. You're so on it, I'm very impresse, especially considering your second MC is still so recent. I've kind of let go now, allowed myself to feel sad or rubbish at times, and just doing my best. That's enough. Since I've let go, things have become so much better as well, I haven't got a military routine of exercising etc., but I try to do something every day too. Also prepping healthy meals for the week, meditating etc. I found not planning things also helps, I go with the flow now and remind myself to do what's good for me every day, this attitude helps me with actually doing something. Xxx

ReeRi Sun 17-Nov-19 16:30:14

Hi @Mumlili8 Thank you for the new thread and for responding to my concern about spotting. Hopefully it is nothing to worry about.

Fingers crossed for you this cycle with your peak and timely BD!

Age 35
DD1 was born sleeping at 40 weeks in February 2019
TTC#2 since April 2019
MC at 4.5 weeks in August 2019

DD will always be our #1 so while TTC#2 the next baby would (hopefully) be the first child we bring home 🌈

Pleased you are doing well @strawberrye

MissSparkles81 Sun 17-Nov-19 17:14:48

Hi Ladies .. Ive just came across this thread. Ive been hanging around the miscarriage thread the past week but looking for some support in trying to move forward I guess.

Im 38 and have been with my partner for 4 years. He has a 5year old from a previous relationship and up until this time last week I was 9 weeks pregnant with our 1st baby.

I found out after a scan that our baby stopped growing at 8.5 weeks and I didnt want to have surgical or medical management. I ended up in A+E anyway which was horrific.

Anyway I guess I am hoping to hang around and get some tips on TTC after a loss from people who so sadly understand.

MissSparkles81 Sun 17-Nov-19 17:15:51

Meant to say we have been trying since March 2019 with one possible chemical or a dodgy test (who knows) hmm

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