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TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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SayItIsntSo1 Sun 11-Dec-16 08:16:50

Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs grin

SayItIsntSo1 Sun 11-Dec-16 08:20:01

Olivers, Emily, Eden

MrsY87 Sun 11-Dec-16 08:21:57

Found you! Thanks for the new thread say! Hope it's the lucky thread for us allsmile

TheLegendOfBeans Sun 11-Dec-16 08:54:11

Hello I'm here! And so is AF confused

eats more pate

Obsidian Sun 11-Dec-16 09:39:01

Can I join?

Obsidian
TTC #2
(have one DD, aged 5)
Cycle 10 (2 MC, in August and October)
36

Just started another thread about BFN at 16 dpo, but nobody's talking to me! Realise I only posted it half an hour ago, but getting desperate! Can't honestly decide whether I'd prefer AF to arrive so I can relax and enjoy Christmas. A Christmas BFP sounds great, but I would be so anxious about a 3rd MC I think it might kill my festive spirit sad

Miami81 Sun 11-Dec-16 09:56:08

Found you
Thanks say.
Obsidian - poor you. It ain't over til AF arrives, have you been tracking ov? Perhaps your cycle hasn't recovered from most recent mc (so sorry for your losses, I have also had two mc this year, April and December) and things are just gone really long for you. Be patient, and try to be calm.
I know what you mean about the Christmas BFP, it would be fab, but all that worry would be quite stressful.
I kind of also don't want to associate every Christmas in the future with this one if that makes sense. We found out about our Mmc on 29th November (4 days after original due date of previous pregnancy) and I think I may have finally passed the pregnancy sac yesterday after taking the tablets twice in the last couple of weeks. So my hope is that by Christmas I feel a bit more like myself and a bit more physically recovered then I am now.
Mrs y - agree that acupuncture is like therapy. She is the only person that I can be totally open and honest with, I don't want my friends to realise how all consuming ttc after being through mc's is. They don't understand and I don't expect them to. They are supportive and that is all I need really. If one more person tells me to relax I may cause them actual physical harm though.

TheLegendOfBeans Sun 11-Dec-16 14:08:21

Obsidian did you formerly have "Blackbird" in your name as well? I really recognise it! Also welcome to the least desirable club ever. I know what you mean about feeling like you don't want anything to mess with Christmas; I'm already at peace with AF now because of just that.

2017 will be our year for sure xx

Obsidian Sun 11-Dec-16 16:25:43

Thanks Miami and Legend flowers

Sorry for your losses too. Definitely ready for 2017. 2016 has NOT been a good year.

I've only ever been Obsidian, but it is taken from a character in a Mighty Boosh episode called Obsidian Blackbird McKnight - so that might be what you're thinking of! Should have gone for the whole thing, but thought it was a bit of a mouthful grin

Miami I'm also having acupuncture and finding it really therapeutic. Not sure if it 'works' exactly, but very relaxing and a nice break from the daily grind (finding full-time job, parenting, building work on house and Christmas prep utterly overwhelming at the moment).

Not tracking ov, but pretty sure I'm Mrs Average, e.g. 28 day cycle etc. AF still not here. Had some cramps on Friday, but gone away now. Feeling exhausted, headachy and a bit sick (but could possibly just be ill). Plus thoroughly fed up. Just want to know now, so I can move on!!!

2ducks2ducklings Sun 11-Dec-16 16:37:04

Found you!
We're opting for the 'old fashioned' way this month. No apps, no OPKs, no POAS, just DTD as much as possible.
I was obsessed last month and tracked everything and didn't go a day without peeing on a stick and it didn't end well for us. It was all consuming and not fun if I'm honest. So this time were mainly focusing on having a fab christmas and trying not to think about ttc at all. I'm not even sure if I'll ovulate this month or if AF will show up at an unexpected time, but until she does, we are going at it smile. A lot. We've dtd everyday except Friday since last Monday and twice yesterday because I usually ovulate the day after my period finishes.
My husband thinks all his Christmases have come at once. fwink

ElevenBells Sun 11-Dec-16 18:15:44

Hi ladies,

Do you mind If I join this thread? Hoping to see some positive stories from you all. My MC was at 7 wks on 9/11. Already have 3yo dd. TTC straight away. Think I ov'd on 30/11. Only tracking ov by symptoms alone though. Had BFN yesterday but not sure if I tested too early. Have been feeling nauseous which is why I did the test. Now I just feel a bit daft and like I'm in limbo sad

Miami81 Sun 11-Dec-16 18:38:25

Eleven bells - after my first mc everything was stronger if that makes sense. So when I ovulated I felt sick. It is very possible that you are earlier in your cycle then you think you are. Unless you have been tracking with OPK's or something.
Take it easy on yourself and relax if you can at all.
Sorry for your loss.

Flashinthepan Mon 12-Dec-16 09:22:17

Hello ladies. Today would have been my due date so feeling a bit shit. If I was pregnant again I feel like it would make things feel a bit better but can't go down that road until things are working better.

Miami I'm having acupuncture too and have also convinced myself I have low progesterone (my first and only pregnancy was ectopic) as since the pregnancy I have had spotting, although this is gradually improving with acupuncture. I'm just terrified if I get pregnant again the same thing will happen and then my chances of conceiving naturally will be over. Have you found anything else about how to improve progesterone levels?

Miami81 Mon 12-Dec-16 10:02:52

Flash - my acupuncturist has put me on a low gi diet as apparently insulin levels have a big impact on progesterone and other fertility hormones. Basically my understanding is that it is actually egg quality that affects progesterone levels as it is the corpus leteum (part of the follicle that releases the egg) that secretes progesterone, so if the egg quality isn't wonderful then I think the progesterone is also a bit iffy. I have been reading it starts with the egg and it does imply that some supplements can help. I am taking coq10 which is an antioxidant which is supposed to help egg quality (and hopefully progesterone levels). Sorry for your loss and all the best with ttc.

Miami81 Mon 12-Dec-16 10:03:53

Flash - sorry today is your due date. Mind yourself today and treat yourself well.

oliversmummy26 Mon 12-Dec-16 11:14:45

Good morning ladies, and thank you say for starting the new thread. Big hugs and flowers to everyone today, sounds like the weekend has been pretty up and down for everyone.

Eden are you feeling any better now and have you managed to speak to the GP yet?

So my MC was on 1st December, and I've been having ewcm all weekend which seems odd, as I wasn't expecting it this soon..managed to dtd twice a day over the weekend though, dh is over the moon!

I'm going to try and avoid poas until after Christmas, but only once I get a bfn after mc...will do another today I think as it's about a week since the last one which was a blazing positive!

Hoping for another 1st cycle pregnancy (would be my 3rd, I seem to be über fertile) just hope this one sticks...

Have a lovelly day everybody xxx

Wombletor Mon 12-Dec-16 13:01:19

Hello
I am 12 days post erpc, had v light positive on a hpt on Saturday. I am hoping it will disappear sometime this week. We're not going to use opks this month, just DTD every 2 days, see what happens if my body is ready. I am 43 so feel like all my eggs might be 'off' now, but I did have my boy at 42, so here's hoping.
Good luck everyone x

Buddahbelly Mon 12-Dec-16 14:07:10

Hi,

Can I join here too, Sadly recognise some names on this board already sad.

I have 1 ds and had my 5th Mc last week, (1 before ds and 4 after) I've only just been referred to the recurrent mc clinic but appointments not till the 12th Jan, and I'm driving myself insane already.

has anyone already been and could give me a tip of what to expect?

Wombletor Mon 12-Dec-16 14:19:18

Hi
I've been. Had a lot of blood tests, nothing was detected except my already diagnosed thyroid and coeliac, so an empirical treatment plan was agreed and I would be monitored for the first 12 weeks in pregnancy.

HollyMay84 Mon 12-Dec-16 14:37:54

Hi ladies, I'm new to Mumsnet and I hope you don't mind me barging in but i was just wondering how do you all keep going? my OH and I have been trying so long now and idk i guess I'm just struggling atm...

SayItIsntSo1 Mon 12-Dec-16 16:48:07

Hi Wombletor and Buddah.

Holly I can't speak for anyone else, but for me the desire to have another child is what drives me on. I don't know if I'll still feel that way if I have another loss, I guess everyone has their own limits. The truth is, it's tragic but people do keep going and whilst no one else situation is 'the same' the fact that all these lovely ladies are trooping on helps give me some strength.

I am doing my best to take the counsellors advice and check out of TTC until Jan. I have to keep telling my thoughts to sod off A LOT grin

SayItIsntSo1 Mon 12-Dec-16 16:52:33

Sorry Flash, I couldn't ignore your post. I'm really sorry this is a shit day for you. I hope you're being kind to yourself.

Forgot to say, I ordered myself a ring today so I have something to remind me of my baby boy. It broke my heart a little but I think it's another step on the way. Dark humour, but I was a bit worried after that if I had recurrent MCs I wasn't sure how many rings were acceptable to me to wear confused smile

Miami81 Mon 12-Dec-16 16:59:39

Say I went for a ring too. Ended up going for birthstones as stacking rings. Yeah hoping that I don't end up with masses of rings, but wanted something that was clearly for my wee babies. Current ring is topaz and citrine as November birthstones, adding onyx as the July birthstone.
We also got a couple of Christmas tree decorations yesterday that are just little keepsakes for both of us.

oliversmummy26 Mon 12-Dec-16 17:00:35

Welcome Holly...I don't really have any advice, I've only been TTC my second since September, caught early and had a MC at 10 weeks..just wanted to say that the ladies on these boards are all so lovely and supportive. It helps me just having someone to talk to who is going through the same, it's nice to know you're not the only one..

HollyMay84 Mon 12-Dec-16 17:02:30

Thanks say , We've had a "break" (not trying but not using protection) from early this year and yh i get what you mean telling the thoughts to sod off lol The amount of times i woke up in the morning and had to stop myself reaching for my thermometer is ridiculous lol You know tho, it only takes one little thought to sneak in and you're back on that symptom spotting train again. I've been floating through and chatting with some off the ladies on here and they've given me new light on it tho and i don't feel as bad as i did this morning grin So i think i'll be hanging around for a while fsmile

HollyMay84 Mon 12-Dec-16 17:07:50

Thanks oliversmummy yh every one i've chatted to so far has been lovely grin Tried doing it for 4 and half years just me and the OH so i figured it was time to start talking to other ladies in a similar position and you've all cheered me up already fgrin

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