TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

Hi can I join this thread. I've recently just had a miscarriage in November. I've just finished first af since the miscarriage so will hopefully be trying to conceive again this month.

Morning all! Another busy day on the thread yesterday! Sorry to read some of you were having wobbly days, they are inevitable when you have been through so much both physically and emotionally. This ttc journey is so hard, I don't think you have any idea until you start on it. It also makes me realise how lucky I was with DD. Hope you are all feeling better today.

Wow brenna that is a spectacular effort in making sure you dtd!!

Legend I've read the SMEP this time as well, giving it a go this cycle (although I haven't yet informed DH of this plan!) I need some lifestyle adjustments too, I definitely enjoy too many glasses of wine and eat too much sugar but then I'm conscious I don't want to give up the treats in life...balance is what I'm going to aim for!

Welcome Kirsty sorry you are here too,

I was saying to DH last night that 2017 can't be as bad as 2016 has been, I really hope that 2017 is the year of sticky BFPs for al of us!

Morning everyone, Can I just start by saying Brenna A+++ for effort! Sounds like you had quite a night!

To the girls who were having a tough day yesterday, I hope today is a better one for you. This ttc rollercoaster is rough sometimes!

Welcome to the group Kirsty I'm sorry you find yourself here though x

And as for me? I'm currently CD 35!! Waiting for af to show up so I can get back to ttc properly! I've already dug the thermometer out so I'm just waiting for the witch to show so we can get going again Never wanted to see her so much lol

Hope you all have a lovely day

Hi all again. I was feeling pretty positive yesterday as I didn't have any spotting all day but today it has started again and I don't feel sick at all anymore so I think mc 3 is going to start properly probably tomorrow judging by how the last 2 went.

I worked out yesterday that both the others started at exactly 6 weeks5 days. So this one is a little earlier as I was just 6 weeks on Monday. Thankfull I'm not in work today anyway so trying to not think about it too much but feeling very teary right now. It could still be ok right? Please let it still be ok.

Good morning Sing there is every chance that it still could be okay. Do you not want to try and get into your EPU? See if you can get a scan, it would stop your mind racing at least as then you would know?

Feeling very odd here today and last night...funny tummy cramps like I needed a poo but nothing doing (sorry tmi) and today my tummy is cramping and feels very empty if that makes sense? Really not sure what's going on! Am 2 weeks post MVA, so it could be ovulation I guess if we treat that as an AF, although I had all the signs of ovulation over the weekend and it's too early for implantation cramps, no?

I too am trying really hard (though not at all successfully!) to be good at the moment. I felt like I completely let myself go when I got my bfp in October and ate anything I wanted. Consequently I have put on about a stone, and was looking 20 weeks pregnant by 8 weeks (no joke!) so I really really want to lose some weight before getting pregnant again, my BMI at my booking in was 29, it's never been so high! I am usually around 26.5, so really want to get that back down...

Hugs to Eleven. My 12 week scan was supposed to be on the 10th anniversary of my dad's death. I was anticipating something positive to lighten what was a hard day. I hope you recover quickly.

Hi Kirsty so sorry you are here. Welcome to the club nobody wants to be in.

I really hope this one surprises you Sing.

After all that effort my temps are still low and i haven't ovulated yet. Oh well - silky nightie tonight (after was have done the christmas party for the kids group we run).

sing I had similar with my ds, Id already had a mc so was terrified anyway of anything similar, but around 5-6 weeks I started spotting, it went on for a few days, then nothing. I also didn't have any symptoms up till then apart from massive aching boobs, was scared when they went. Fingers crossed for you [hugs]. And im also having trouble same as you making it past the 6 week mark. would love to know what it is that at nearly 6 weeks it just stops.

Sing really hoping this one works out for you.

To all that are approaching their fertile window or in the tww, good luck and hope you all get bfp's either over Christmas or early in 2017!

Hi guys can I join please, it's been over a year since my miscarriage and I'm still waiting for that elusive BFP, just looking for a bit of hand holding xx

Thinking of you Sing, so worrying and stressful. I agree about contacting the EPU. Worth talking to someone! They might be able to help.

Does anyone know if the tests they run for RMC vary depending on how far along the losses occur? The reasons clearly vary, and as you say Buddah, there are key stages of development where it seems to go awry. Wishing all those of us at this stage the answers we need x

Welcome Kirsty and Starry, in the midst of the crapness and sadness of pregnancy loss I've found nothing helps like talking to people in the same situation. Being able to share the good, the bad and the ugly, no such thing as TMI, technical stuff and emotional and a handhold when needed x

This is, sadly, the thread for me- glad I have found you all.

I had a MMC back in the summer, I started bleeding on the day of my dating scan and was 13 weeks

It was baby number 2, our LO is 2 years old & I feel very lucky that everything worked out with my first pregnancy.

Currently on cycle 5 since MMC.
I am 38 so don't feel that there is time to waste on more miscarriages!

Now on CD29 (positive OPK around day 16), no spotting yet (noticed I seem to get this a day or two before period starts) & trying not to overthink things.
My periods were all over the place after the miscarriage.

Over the last 3 months my cycle days have got shorter- from 30 days, 28 and 26 days last month.

Have never been familiar with my proper cycles as I took the combined pill for over a decade, and have fallen pregnant without having a true period after stopping the pill.

So I'm now not sure what to think...not holding my breath & trying to keep away from the Ovia app!

It's been emotional the last few weeks- seeing so many new babies pop up on Facebook...and I should have had my new baby in my arms last week godammit

Good luck to you all

A few things have changed this month- no longer doing BBTs, allowed myself a handful of OPKs from day 14. Some days not even looking at the Ovia app- didn't go as far as deleting it though!

Started taking ubiquinol last month (bloody expensive!), plus vitamin D & calcium supplement.
Also still taking the usual folic acid, some days taking a double dose although not really sure why.

Thanks everyone. Even though it's a club I don't want to be in it's nice to know I'm not alone and there are people who know what I'm going through. I should be going into the fertile week next week and I am feeling really apprehensive. I have already prewarned DH that he needs to be ready to go . I've started ovulation tests as I really don't want to miss my chance this month (currently cd 8) and not sure where my cycle is after miscarriage

Welcome to the new joiners, and sorry you're here.

Brenna that is a spectacular effort!

I am feeling pretty shattered, been fighting off a sore throat this week.

Still trying my best to catch/stop all my thoughts on TTC and whether this month is the month. Nothing I can do now anyway but doesn't stop me hoping.

Treated myself to a few nice things in town at lunch as I got an unexpected back pay this month. Managed to avoid buying a Barbour jacket and hated all the work clothes I tried on, so spent a lot less than I was at risk of . Really need to lose the weight I've put on.

Got a yummy lunch at Itsu (green juice and chicken rice to balance the morning biscuits!), and will be leaving early to go and lay on my bed before dd comes home from nursery.

Honestly, feel like I have nothing to fill my time if I'm not preoccupied with a million thoughts a day about TTC!

Turquoise.
Sorry to see you here, yep I should have had a baby in my arms 3 weeks ago, instead I had a second mc.
It's tough, it really is.
Anyway just wanted to say I am taking ubiquinol too, also b vits, vit d and extra folic. No harm. I have high bmi so figured I could do with the double dose of folic.
It's not like it will make anything worse.
I read it starts with the egg and have found it quite useful to have something to focus on rather then other people's babies!!!
We are taking a step back for a couple of months, to let all the new vits work (maybe) but also just to take a break, it's been a tough year.
Anyway I hope that this is your cycle. All the best with it.

Question for anyone taking Q10, what dose have you been taking?

I'm only 30, so rationally shouldn't have too much of an egg issue. But figure it can't hurt so might be one to try if we're still TTC in a few months.

I'm taking ubiquinol one a day and the dose is 100mg

I'm not taking anything as a reverse psychology type thing in the hope by not taking anything I'll miraculously get pregnant and then start taking... our brains work in strange ways. As it's been over a year of ttc since our miscarriage I'm going to head to the GP and ask for tests but can't face doing it before Christmas in case it's all bad news x

Welcome Starry and Turquoise big hugs and so sorry you're here, but we're a lovely bunch!

I have been exhausted today, feel ready to jump into my bed already...I've not been sleeping very well, my mind just won't shut down, I don't think it's necessarily thinking about TTC or the MC, but perhaps it's trying to keep itself busy to stop me thinking about it, because if I did I'd probably cry!

DH had started snoring within 5 minutes of shutting his eyes last night, so immediately went on ebay and bought him one of those stop snoring rings for £3 as a stocking filler! Then realised all I've bought him is clothes which is pretty boring, so have gone nuts and got loads of bits I can't really afford! So that makes me worry about money and I dreamt I found £100 in an envelope in my purse!

My dreams have become really vivid again which happens when I'm pregnant, so that makes me think I might be, but my head tells me I wouldn't be getting symptoms as early as two week post MC!

Crazy how minds work!

Dammit. I wrote a massive post then mn froze and deleted it when I tried to post.

In summary -
Thanks for kind words again
Sorry my posts are all mememe
Light spotting has continued today
Will most likely call gp/epu tomorrow
All symptoms have gone - sickness, achey boobs, temperature, tiredness.

Actually I still feel tired but it's more a deflated kind of feeling rather than woo I'm growing a human.

Anyway I'm going to have a bath and a cwtch in bed with DP. Fingers crossed tomorrow is not the day it's going to be. Wish I didn't have to go to work.

Keeping fingers crossed for you sing it's a horrible feeling when you think things are going wrong, I really hope your little bean sticks in there.

Had a bit of a rubbish day at work when someone told me they were pregnant and their due date is exactly what mine would have been so many people at work have announced pregnancies in the past few months it's tough when you think you should have been one of them. on the plus side I've now finished work until January so out of office is on and I'm enjoying a glass of wine in front of the tv while DH is at his xmas party!

Welcome to the newbies, sorry you are here though, hopefully you find it as good a support as I do.

Say I'm taking 100mg of ubiniquol, I'm 29 so hope my egg quality isn't too bad but decided any help can't hurt!

Thank for all the welcomes, that's really sweet.

It's so nice to have a place for support & venting feelings etc

In real life people are sympathetic but it's different when you talk to others who have been through it too.

CD29 no spotting or period so far today. Not sure what to expect or think as last cycle was 26 days, one before was 28 and the previous was 30

Trying not to read into things too much but work was quiet today so I've had many thoughts going through my head...not to mention the frequent knicker checking

Now just trying to chill out with some

Totally with you all struggling with multiple pregnancy announcements. What I'm finding particularly hard is all of the people that were pregnant at the same time as I was with my DD, have either already had another baby or are expecting another soon. Definitely feels like it should be my turn now...

sarah
Absolutely- I feel the same way too re others who have had first baby around a similar time to me, and now have had number 2 or expecting in the near future.

One old friend (only in contact via FB) had her first 6 months after me, we were in touch a lot & really reconnected.

She had number 2 three months ago.
That made me feel particularly shit, not sure why...after all, her pregnancy does not affect me having a baby.

It's so hard...

Sarah and turquoise know exactly what you mean, sometimes it feels like everyone else is having #2 other than me. Just have to remind myself that my time will come...hopefully soon for all of us