TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

Sorry to hear your news Anne. Thinking of you and sending you gentle hugs.

Teamlentil, I guess everyone just reacts differently to these type of situations. My mum and dad both got really upset when I told them about my mc but that made me feel slightly guilty about it xx

Hope you get some quiet time Anne my mum only opens her mouth to change feet her reaction to me loosing number 6 was aw baby don't cry you have another 5..... I think she got mixed up with the reaction to trapping a finger 🙈 she meant well I think mums just want to make it better they want to fix it find a solution and stop you hurting hardest thing as a mum or dad is finding you can't fix it all the time especially hard when their heart is breaking

Can I join you ladies? I've just had an ERPC. It would have been baby number 6... I'm 44 so feeling desperately sad that we may have left it too late. I know we're extremely lucky to have the children we do, but the baby we lost was very much wanted, and now mourned.

I'm desperate to start TTC. I thought I was in the last chance saloon last time!

Hi waterfeature, I'm so sorry for your loss I had an ERPC two weeks ago, would have and been our first so finding it a bit tough, have up and down days especially as lots of close friends are either pregnant or recently given birth. We also can't wait to TTC again but going to wait for me to have my first full cycle before we try again. Do look after yourself, the ladies here are really very lovely and supportive x

Thanks v much owl. I had a natural MC 18 months ago which was awful physically but in some ways better emotionally-- because the loss was very obvious and very physical if that makes any sense. This one feels like it's just been swept away. I hadn't told many people because I was worried about another loss but that means I now feel a bit isolated.

Anyway, enough grumbling. Here's hoping for some good news for us all soon.

Waterfeature I'm so sorry to hear about your previous loss as well. Have you anyone close that you could confide in? It might be helpful to have someone to talk to about it openly? We haven't told many people either as I was also so paranoid about everything, unfortunately my worst fears were confirmed.

Hopefully you'll be able to start TTC soon when you're ready x

Hello ladies just marking my place just had a mc so back to square one,

I have read they recommend waiting a month before ttc although it took ages to conceive last time

Anyone ttc straight away?

Littlehelp

Sorry for your loss. I miscarried a month ago and I promise you it gets easier.

I was told to wait but I figured that was purely to make dating a next pregnancy easier. So I'm tracking my cycle with OPKS. I couldn't bare to wait in the end!

Do what is best for you though.

88claire

Good idea I have stacks of those back to poas 😁

@littlehelp sorry about your loss. I miscarried 3 weeks ago and was going to wait until I had a period. Now I'm just too impatient, spurred on my final scan at the hospital earlier this week, where they said I am producing an egg.

I'm desperate to be pregnant again.

How can they tell that your about to ovulate ?

Just been reading around and it does say ovulation can occur 2-4 weeks

Opk at the ready think I'm going to take a more relaxed approach though get so obsessed with 2ww and poas it ends up ruling my life

I've got to arrange with doctors my scan to confirm mc is complete I'm hoping it is as I saw the sac etc but just hope it all goes back to normal

Hoping I can get it confirmed next week anyway xx

Congratulations Holly!

Litlehelp - I had my MC 4 weeks ago and trying again since the bleeding stopped although haven't tracked my ovulation yet (I know there is probably an acronym but I get so lost!). No sign of AF yet but still early days yet. It took us 3 years each time so keen to start TTC asap.

Some absolute clangers there in terms of what people say - think some people just get so uncomfortable they just can't control what comes out of their mouths . It's so nice to have such wonderful support on this thread x

Hi may i join. I've just had a mmc although I knew in my gut. I thought something was wrong so had a private scan at 11w1d to be told baby was measuring 7w5d hb present but didn't seem strong to me. I knew my dates were right so I knew something was wrong midwife was rubbish told me as i was bleeding they would do nothing until my scan at 12w3d i was hysterical in the end the doc me in early for a week later 12w1d to be told my baby had died. I just knew. Now I'm scared to try again and feel guilty but i really want another baby i feel incomplete. I have a 15m old. I also had surgery to remove the pregnancy.

Hi all, sorry for your losses 💐
I had a d&c on the 24th of december but still not had my period. Its now 6 weeks. How long till you got your cycles back to normal? Me and dh have already started ttc again but o tests are pos, then neg, then pos, then neg 😏 Pregnancy test last monday was neg too

Sorry for everyone loss at least we have each other to support as it's a pretty lonely experience in RL

xxx

@fluffiny31 sorry about your loss. I had a very similar experience to you. This was my first pregnancy and I knew something was wrong although I had nothing to compare it to.

I started bleeding at 12 weeks, 2 days before my scan. Went to the hospital and they were awful to me, told me to go away and wait until the scan day. When I did have the scan the baby measured 8-9 weeks. I then miscarried naturally the next time.

The hospital were absolutely useless, I even had to go back into the waiting room from the scan room in front of all these happy people. I survived this experience by having supportive friends, lovely husband and the good folk on here.

I'm scared to try again too, but I'm desperate to start a family. We have just moved house and there are two empty bedrooms waiting to be filled.

I wish you luck on your journey and everyone here will be there for you

@littlehelp they said they knew I was ovulating as on the scan they could see a follicle and it looked like I was going through the egg making process.

Sorry for all the losses . The day before my miscarriage started, I woke up in the middle of the night and just knew the baby was gone.

I'm still spotting a teeny tiny bit but today I had tons of EWCM so we are going for it. As someone (apologies, can't remember who right now) said above, it took us a very long time to get pregnant so I just don't want to wait. Plus we need the intimacy anyway - it has been a harrowing experience.

Sending love to the new people joining us

I've been back for third HCG test. The doctor said they can't explain such a small drop between the last two and gave me no idea of what to expect so it's a crappy wait and see situation. Today, I'm still pregnant, but not very optimistically!

Spent most of today in denial wondering if they've made a mistake and it'll all be okay! It won't be, but I've got nothing else to focus on.

Get on it lentil Enjoy the closeness and you never know...! x

When will you get your results Anne? I hope you don't have to wait too long.

Anne

So sorry to hear this. I was in a similar situation (pregnancy of unknown location) and found going to the EPU torturous. They were good and fast tracked me for bloods though.

I was supposed to stay in and wait for the next day for an injection or surgery but discharged myself with the promise of going back if the pain got worse and then I miscarried naturally overnight. It was all absolutely hideous though so I really feel for you.

Chin up, thinking of you!

Congratulations Holly, wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy

So sorry about your situation Anne, it sounds extremely stressful.

It's weird reading about people 'knowing' they'd lost their baby. I had little to no pregnancy symptoms and I was very weird about telling some of my close friends and had a major anxiety attack about meeting them for a pub meal the week prior to my scan due to not drinking and them all making comments about it. I just didn't want to tell them and nearly cancelled. They all asked why I wasn't drinking and I lied but one made a drunken comment that I was definitely pregnant and I was furious. Then the day of my scan, I got UTI symptoms and a tiny streak of pink blood in my underwear so I was a convinced it was a UTI and got a sample to the GP immediately prior to scan. They refused to test it and I was manic again, really angry and stressed. All the time through the pregnancy I felt relieved to get by another day without bleeding and suffering a MC but sat outside that scan room, I just didn't believe there was going to be a baby there. I was right. My baby had not developed beyond 5-6 weeks. Heartbreaking but the friends who did know and who knew how manic I was, felt I had known all along and was preparing for that to happen. So sad hearing that really as it is as if I played a part in it all by being so stressed and non-believing in a successful pregnancy.

DaddysGirl, sorry to read your story . You're right though, it is funny how you just "know". I have a DC and I didn't feel like that when I was pregnant then, but right from when I found out about it this time, I just "knew" and unfortunately I was right too. Hoping next time (really really hope there will be a next time!), I won't feel that way - and I hope the same is true for you too. Don't ever feel that you played a part in it though , it just wasn't meant to be.

I am struggling a bit with what seems like everyone I know being pregnant and due in July/August, which would had been near my due date. I am obviously delighted for them but seriously jealous at the same time. Consoling myself with a fish supper and a

Thanks to all for the welcome.

With my 3rd dc I had bleeding and my HCG didn't rise as quickly as expected though it wasn't falling. All was well and she's 13 now. I don't know if it's helpful to hold on to hope or not, Anne anyway, much sympathy from me.