TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

Does anyone else still feel pregnant after having a MC. I've had this 5 times and with everyone I know im not pregnant anymore, but this time is really different, for a start this time it hurt, not tons but felt like early labour pains, I do know im being stupid and its gone, but I feel like my belly is still bloated and just feels different. I wasn't any further along this time than any other, just feel weird still but have no other symptoms, other than waking early at 5am each morning. Could this just be like when dogs have phantom pregnancies

Im consoling myself with the fact i can now go and buy a lovely coat that I was afraid wouldnt fit me soon, and also hoping to have a lovely christmas with my stepdad as it will probably be his last , so every cloud and that, but soon as ive ovulated again i'm right back on it!

Hello everyone.....Finally found the new thread

Having a funny day here, just come back from slimming world, I joined up before my first BFP but stopped going after my MMC as just couldn't face it. I'm attempting to undo some of the comfort eating a general inactivity over the last few months. Ended up chatting to another new lady who is 7 months pregnant, due a couple of weeks before I would have been. So hard, just looking at her bump. Sort of managed to say what happened to me but have a feeling I just waffled nonsense at her.

Has anyone else been cheating Temps? I've just started this month. I'm having such an odd cycle. Last month I was pretty much back to my normal 26 days, got a positive OPK CD10/11 so I thought I'd be back on track. This month I had strong Opk's Cd7 & 8 (too early?) a little temp spike on CD7 followed by a drop for the next 3 days. One and only chance to DTD CD9 as DH has been away, had what I thought were strong over pains all the next day. Temple is now back to normal, not raised....not sure if I ov'd early or not at all, no clue. I thought temping would confirm opks but it seems to just have freaked me out more.

Really, really trying to muster up some festive spirit but itstill just not happening!

anne sorry, no, nobodies ever asked for tissue to be tested, although I did consider asking about it this past week as Id read they can establish something from it.

The 1st time it happened I did go to the hospital but was scooted out of there with a photocopied sheet with info on having a misscarriage at home, since then i've never bothered going but now wonder if i had each time would they take it more seriously?

*charting not cheating...... although looking at mine I may as well have!

Monkey lol I've never charted, and have thought about it, but don't you need to do it for several months to see a pattern? Due to being on the pill and then catching quickly, I never bothered.. I might see how this cycle goes and then try..

Anne that's interesting you got a bfn straight away...I had an MVA so they did an internal scan after to check nothing was left and all clear. It's 12 days now post MVA and still getting bfp...so frustrating.

I have randomly started worrying about getting pregnant again today, as as soon as I do, I know I'll be worried sick that the same will happen again until we get past the 12 week mark...if even then!

Also I know it's shit that we're all here, but I'm glad that we are here for each other...it's nice to have a busy board

Olivers. After my first mc I ov'd and conceived again straight away before my HCG had fallen down to below 5 so it is possible!

Thanks Mrs, I had heard that that happens, so keeping everything crossed...It was a shed load of ewcm over the weekend (sorry tmi!) we will see I guess...

Totally agree Olivers, we'll get each other through Lovely bunch of people.

It was week or so after, I'm sorry your still haven't got yours. Worth calling the epu? I was told to test 2 weeks after the surgery but couldn't be arsed waiting. A clear ultrasound is really reassuring though. You were 10 weeks?

With my early mc the month before I conceived exactly 10 days later. It was a miracle. It ended tragically but I was the happiest I've ever been for 12 and a half weeks and I want that again. The old wives tales about being mega fertile after a loss were true for me. Bit gutted we can't take advantage of it now!

Sounds like the care part was a bit lacking with your first loss Buddah, that's awful! Have you been on the miscarriage association website? Has a useful chunk on recurrent losses. As this last one ended up with the MVA it was easy for them to take the tissue and they did the standard 3rd loss tests, whatever those are.

We can't decide whether we're hoping there was something wrong with it or not.

I had that this cycle oliversmummy about 2 weeks after MVA and af arrived pretty much on schedule so while a lot of stuff I read said not to expect to ovulate first cycle after I'm 100% sure I did, and when I would have expected to as symptoms were all the same as normal.

In theory you shouldn't ovulate while you're still hormonally pregnant but the whole thing can be a naffing mystery so trust your body.

Thanks Anne the epu didn't tell me anything about testing again after, it's something I've taken upon myself. They just said to wait for af before trying again, advice which dh and I both unanimously agreed to ignore and go for it all guns blazing the week after I stopped bleeding!

It's definitely fainter than it was about 5 days ago, but still there, I'll do another over the weekend and if now different will call my gp. As I had a scan in theatre after the MVA I know there's definitely nothing left..

We will see I guess!

You never know Olivers

I didn't even think to test after my first mc but after my 1st erpc, I had alot of pain so put up with it for 6/7 days then OH dragged me to an OOH Dr, who was very rough and rude and when he did the pg test, I can remember he just stood in the middle of the room said nope you're definitely not pregnant anymore and threw the test with its blaring white bfn onto the table in front of me. I swear if i wasn't in so much pain I would've floored the bloke! .... Anyway getting to my point lol I was completely clear after my erpc and it only took a week from the scan to get my bfn, so like I said you never know

Oh and another thing ladies, after 6mths of the whole ntnp "break" thing. We we had a chat last night and have decided to get back on the ttc bus properly next cycle

So .... erm ..... YAY!!!

Hi all. We went away for a romantic weekend. It was lovely. Back to earth now though.

I was planning to clean the oven tonight, however I suddenly have more EWCM than I have had in 8 months and my temp dipped this morning. I guess I am swapping the rubber gloves for a silky nightie this evening.

Ooh, good plan Brenna, have a gorgeous night! And Holly, get back on it!

Btw, that doctor sounds like a right wanker, I can't believe he was so callous and horrible. People like that who can't/won't be caring and professional shouldn't be anywhere near people full stop - never mind people in pain, ill, scared, vulnerable etc. Gives me the rage.

Thanks Holly...time will tell I guess it would be so lovely to get a genuine bfp in time for the new year, new year, new pregnancy..and good luck with ttc again! What a tool that doctor was, I don't understand how anyone can be in that profession and not have compassion for people who are suffering, it makes me so

Nice plan Brenna and good luck!

Thats ok Olivers and Anne I plan to lol Just waiting for af to show up, although I think I might be in the tww, not entirely sure though. A little in limbo atm so we shall see how it goes...

Brenna You're second plan sounds alot better than cleaning the oven lol

Was going to say too that out of all the Drs we've seen that I've only wanted to string 2 of them up and he was obviously 1 of them. So I guess we've been lucky really

Oh and thanks for the good luck wishes Olivers Sorry, I didn't read the message properly. I'm shattered, no idea why though. Been really quiet today

Hi all, I'm in a bit of a messed up state today as yesterday I did a test which was positive (hooray) and today I started spotting, cue leaving working in a hysterical panic thinking here we go again. So far no further spotting but my previous 2 mcs (at 6 and 7 weeks) started with very light spotting so I'm not hopeful. Hate this limbo of waiting for it to happen, no choice but to go back to work tomorrow and wait and see either. Urghh

Oh sing, I know there is nothing I can say to make you feel less worried or better so and I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Brenna definitely sack off cleaning the oven!

The thread sure has been busy today.

Oh no poor you sing.
I just met with a friend at lunch today who had two miscarriages in a row, she then went on to have baby after. She said third pregnancy was horrendous. She spotted, had no symptoms etc etc. So what I am trying to say is that every one is different (pregnancy that is) and I really hope that it is all just a random implant bleed or something.

Oh Sing, I second Emily and Miami. Hopefully it is just a random implantation thing or your body settling into it. I hope it goes your way chick. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Hi Ladies

I hope it's ok to join this thread. I am 13 days post surgery for an ectopic pregnancy. I also had an early miscarriage (5+3) back in May this year.

I already have a Dd (3 in March) and a Dss (10), which I feel very lucky for, but would love to complete our family with another.

How do you dust yourself off after each disappointment and carry on?

Hi Sarah I joined this group yesterday asking a very very similar question.

Everyone here is lovely and just being able to talk openly and not worrying about making anyone feel awkward about my losses and ttc has made me feel a loads better already and it got me out of my 'hole' yesterday.

I'm sorry for your losses chick

Thanks Holly and apologies for repeating what you'd already put!

After a year of ttc and with a miscarriage and now an ectopic, I can't help but think that maybe it's time to call it a day and enjoy what I've already got. Rather than going through the tww each month and then being moody / upset when the dreaded af arrives.

I know I'm probably still to raw to make a decision so will give it some time, try to enjoy Christmas then take stock in the New Year.

And Holly, you're right it is good to be able to just talk!

Any sorry Holly (and everyone on the thread) for your losses