TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

Just checked my pot of ubiquinol and it's 300mg

Some days I take 2 tablets, not sure why, guess I'm just trying to throw everything at it

Yeah my DP always says not to worry about what other people have or are doing, but it is hard when it seems so easy for everyone else, but not for us (obviously I know it might not be easy behind closed doors, it just appears that way!)

here's to a positive 2017!

Finally got my BFN today, feeling sad and relieved at the same time which is weird, but at least we can get going on trying again now...DTD last night, but DH doesn't quite understand the timings and the way we did it will not make a baby hes at his work's Christmas do today so doubtful I'll get much out of him tonight

I get the pregnancy announcements, I am keeping everything I have crossed that no one I know announces in the next couple of weeks as they would likely have been due at the same time as me

Oliversmummy- I know it's a bittersweet feeling getting that negative result. I couldn't wait for mine but it still took my breath away when I saw it. It was four weeks ago today I got my BFP, how things have changed!
All the best for you and fingers crossed for lots of New Year good news!

I know it's crap Olivers but at least you know now I suppose? Sending hugs and

I'm STILL waiting for af! CD36 and all I'm getting is cramps few other symptoms but trying not to symptom spot lol Come on Mother Nature I want to get going again!!

We're doing Xmas this weekend as kiddies are off to their dads next weekend. I've just been mean and wrapped up a 3Ds (which ds2 hasn't shut up about) only I've put it in a box the size of a half a table, then another box in that one, then there's about 11 layers of bubble wrap and paper like a pass the parcel. He's going to be un wrapping it for ages hehehe

Does anyone else play little tricks like that? Ds2 is 13 and got a great sense of humour, so I think he'll appreciate it

That's tough olivers but at least it draws a line under things. I remember being so relieved at the negative as it meant we could start again.

Had to test with my GP today as she wanted to prescribe certain antibiotics. Swore I wouldn't even buy a test Unless AF was late & should have stuck to that. Balled my eyes out yet again when she said no. It's the hoping I hate, I've decided. Pulling yourself together, starting again, letting a little chunk of hope in & then it's gone. And I've only been doing this for 2 cycles now, it must take such tremendous strength to keep going.

Anyway, off to my xmas party so painting on a smile & pretending tonight. Fresh hope tomorrow... Look after yourselves

Oops, I thought you lot were quiet!

Will catch up in a sec but my update is. AF due any time. Not sure when I ovulated but CD31. BFN yesterday but I think it may have been too early. Avoiding alcohol at DH's request since I drank before getting a BFP the last 2 times and he wonders if it's related. No problem - I will know one way or the other by Xmas day.

Symptom spotting a bit. Hungry, tired, flashes of nausea, mild stretchy cramping rather than usual AF cramping, muscle soreness, lack of spotting.

Expecting AF anywhere up until cd35, so not in the clear yet but just maybe....

Fingers crossed Bertie!

Olivers I know what you mean about the weird mixed up feelings of hoping for a bfn. I'm going to test on Monday. Just hope I get mine before Christmas so that I can try and focus on having a nice time with family.

DH and I are having our Christmas party tonight which we have every year and was planned before this last MC. Pretty much everyone coming knows about all my MCs. I'm feeling massively apprehensive about it. I know everyone will be lovely and sympathetic but it is often people being nice that tips me over. I'm really worried about getting upset and not really having anywhere to escape to. Must remember not to get top tipsy or I will definitely cry!

I hope everyone else has nice weekends planned.

Edens Sorry you're having a tough time.

Holly We always used to wrap presents like that in my family! It became more and more elaborate as DSis and I got older... just had to disguise what everything was so you didn't know!

For anyone worrying about age, I read a fascinating thing the other day which said that the figure we have for 35 being a sharp downturn is actually based off a really old study done in the 1700s (!) and was based on number of babies born, nothing to do with actually whether people were actively TTC or not, and apparently more modern studies show a much slower decline (though there is still a higher risk of chromosomal abnormalities.) The article was saying that it's very likely that in the 1700s most women felt they had enough children by the time they were 35 and so either stopped having sex or actively avoided sex during their most fertile time. I thought it was astonishing! It's here if anyone fancies a read: www.bbc.com/news/magazine-24128176

Oh Emily
That sounds tough, but in a way if they all know they will understand if you get a bit overwhelmed. Which in some ways I find more comforting then when people don't know. It was my Christmas do from work last night and I didn't go. My team know what's happened but not many others and I just couldn't face it. Also we've been married a year and people ask those awkward questions now, I just mostly call them out as being twats and tell them that they don't know what is going on in our lives and to fuck off. But I needed to be more then a week away from another mc to be able to tough it out, if that makes sense.
Anyway I hope tonight goes well, I am sure people will be lovely and well meaning.

Good luck Bertie.
Yeah my OH has suggested the same for our next go round, i am willing to try anything now, I mean to be fair I only ever had a glass of red wine here and there, but anything we can do. Fingers crossed for you.

Now on CD31 & no period as yet.

Had some brown spotting late yesterday & more today...trying not to read too much into it but v hard not to!

Normally get spotting day before proper period starts.

Just waiting to see what happens, getting on as normal i.e. gym & wine!

My cycles seem to have been getting shorter since settling after MMC.

Last month it was 26 days, before that it was 28 days & before that 30 days.

So if my period doesn't turn up by the end of tonight it'll be the longest cycle I've had since the MMC.

Obviously hoping for a bfp but don't want to get my hopes up & trying to rationalise that my proper period is just around the corner...!

Had family round tonight, found out another family member is expecting but MIL hadn't told me...this is the second time it's happened and I'm not sure if she is doing it on purpose or is just forgetting to tell me. I think I find it more upsetting thinking that she is purposefully not telling me x

Starryeyed that's rubbish. My dp kept his sil's pregnancy from me as he didn't want to upset me but then it was plastered all over facebook.
He still doesn't understand why I was so pissed off with him not telling me. Sometimes those with the best intentions do more harm than good. Hugs to you today xx

That's really hard starry, If she is not telling you on purpose it's most probably because she thinks it will upset you but she obviously hasn't realised that it's easier to deal with other people's pregnancies if you know in advance rather than having to hold it all together in public. Ive found family pregnancies hit harder than others for some reason. Hope your feeling better this morning x

That's definitely true ladies, the family ones are the worst, I'm feeling better this morning though, think last nights little rant was more alcohol fuelled than anything. Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend xx

I know how you feel I only found out last week that my sister in law is pregnant and she's quite far along. I feel like everyone around me is getting pregnant at the moment. I can't help but keep thinking that I would have been 12 weeks now and announcing the news if I hadn't miscarried

Yh I know what that's like. It sucks. I found out that my ex-husbands new wife is pregnant. My kids came running in all excited one day and told me. I obviously held it together but would've appreciated a heads up from ex-husband (he knows about our previous Mmcs) now I have to be as excited as the kids are when they talk about their new little bro/sis coming... Only it's not me giving them one.

On a sucky more annoying note.. STILL no af! Going to be a long one me thinks...

Hope everyone's good

Holly I hear ya - my XH is due to become a dad in Feb...when I should have been having MY baby.

I really do wish him all the best (still a twat though) but did have a bonkers 5 minutes trying to un-click my brain re; the dates.

Day 1 of shagging on the SMEP. On and off shagging until Boxing Day and then I think one or two necessary shags before NYE to "follow the plan accurately".

Everyone loves a shag here and there but I'd like to be pregnant now please sips tea

Hi, can I join please? I've just finished AF after 2 MMC in 2016.

So disheartened and sad but trying to find the strength to TTC again. I'm 38 so don't feel like waiting is in any way an option.

I'm so sorry for each of your losses.

It's totally rubbish, isn't it?

Welcome cash sorry to hear about your losses, I've been through two mcs this year as well....it's really shit but seems you just have to pick yourself up and start again,This board is great for helping with that. Fx we all get there in the end...Hopefully 2017 will be that year for us all

Fx Mrs!

Hi cash
Sorry to hear about your losses.

I am also 38, have a 2 yr old and TTC number 2. Had a MMC back in the summer, would've had baby 2 by now

After the MMC didn't bother with contraception but still not pregnancy yet, just started cycle 6.

I definitely feel that there is no time to wait & I feel sad as time marches on and I'm still not pregnant.

Very grateful to have our LO but it feels so unfair as so many seem to have their number 2 now & these are the ones who were pregnant after me.

Good luck to everyone!

I was getting excited as I made it to CD31 without any period- typically I was at work late on Saturday and it turned up good & proper!

Feel like if I think "maybe I'm pregnant..." it is going to jinx things...arrrgh TTC can drive you mad!

Also feel this is payback for twice falling pregnant v quickly & with no effort/timing/stress

I don't know whether to go and buy a test now :( Woke up expecting to have temp still high and it's fallen (just under coverline) but I slept awfully, I don't know if that matters.

Pros: I'll know one way or another. I can pee :o
Cons: It's cold, I'll have to get dressed, it might be a wasted €3.