Sil charging for one off babysitting

(197 Posts)
Dalalalada Sat 20-Nov-21 12:55:45

I feel quite angry about this and i probably shouldnt.

I habe never asked her to babysit and tonight the sitter pulled out at the last min, and we are going out for my birthday tonight tickets are bought and paid for.

I was panicking trying to find somone else on the sitter site and dp called sil who will be at home cause her partner is out.

She said she would need payment!

For some reason its really rubbed me up thr wrong way!

Aibu?

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IslaInthesun Sat 20-Nov-21 12:56:22

Awful.

MaizeBlouse Sat 20-Nov-21 12:57:09

Oh wow that'd annoy me too. I have babysat many times for family and would never have charged! Do they have kids?
I'd rather pay an actual babysitter than a family member. CF!

LynetteScavo Sat 20-Nov-21 12:57:34

Unless she's a teenager and has a little baby sitting "business" she's ridiculous.

Aquamarine1029 Sat 20-Nov-21 12:58:03

My guess is that she has fears of being taken advantage of because she's family, and in a way I don't blame her. Some people can really take the piss when it comes to expecting free childcare.

DrManhattan Sat 20-Nov-21 12:58:39

How old is she?
I would ask someone else. That's well cheeky, especially as she's not doing anything

LawnFever Sat 20-Nov-21 12:58:58

I’d be annoyed too, if she’s available then she should just do it, does she have form for being grabby?

It’s your DP’s sister, so her nieces/nephews she’s being asked to look after?

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Itsraaaaaw Sat 20-Nov-21 12:59:37

DrManhattan

How old is she?
I would ask someone else. That's well cheeky, especially as she's not doing anything

Who said she's not doing anything?

BendyWendyCheesyFeet Sat 20-Nov-21 12:59:54

Depends if she is 16 or not. If she's an adult then totally unreasonable, if she's a teen, maybe slightly misguided.

If they ever call you in an emergency like a car breakdown, you will relish being able to tell them your charge!

joopy79 Sat 20-Nov-21 13:00:06

Maybe she needs the money, to be fair I assume you were going to pay the sitter who cancelled and she is doing you a favour.
Saying this I would never charge for babysitting my nibblings

Shedmistress Sat 20-Nov-21 13:00:35

That's well cheeky, especially as she's not doing anything

Just because a woman is home alone doesn't mean she isn't doing anything.

Ozanj Sat 20-Nov-21 13:01:13

As a childcare professional I often have people trying taking the piss when it comes to childcare. So now everybody gets charged

Shedmistress Sat 20-Nov-21 13:01:48

I’d be annoyed too, if she’s available then she should just do it, does she have form for being grabby

How is she grabby?

Wanting free babysitting is pretty grabby if we are analysing grabbiness.

Dalalalada Sat 20-Nov-21 13:02:43

She has form for cf.
She is 29.
She had no previous plans tonight.
Ive never ever asked her ti babysit before the children mid primary aged.

I am hurt tbh! I do loads for her 😞

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IncompleteSenten Sat 20-Nov-21 13:02:48

Yes, it's a bit odd. Most families do that as favours for each other
But you need the help, you had money allocated for a sitter. You get to go out, your children get taken care of and you aren't actually out any additional money so I'd just go with it.

MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry Sat 20-Nov-21 13:03:04

I’m not sure tbh. You were going to be paying the babysitter so I don’t see why it’s a problem to pay the SIL for doing exactly the same job.

RecentYears Sat 20-Nov-21 13:03:22

I think it's unlikely you have the nuances of the conversation from DH. Did he for example , tell her that the paid babysitter had dropped out and lead her to expect payment?

Of course she shouldn't expect it but if DH led her to it...?

IncompleteSenten Sat 20-Nov-21 13:03:46

Stop doing loads for her. Or charge her eg petrol money for lifts

I'm petty like that though. Fuck being the bigger person.

Dalalalada Sat 20-Nov-21 13:04:21

Of course i would habe done somehting nice like vouchers

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TurnUpTurnip Sat 20-Nov-21 13:04:48

Tbf when my mum had my kids she use to say I was suppose to pay her for having them. Wasn’t regular but she still said I was suppose to give her money for it 🤷‍♀️

DollyPartBaked Sat 20-Nov-21 13:04:50

Yeh I'd rather pay someone else

Billybagpuss Sat 20-Nov-21 13:05:06

Dalalalada

She has form for cf.
She is 29.
She had no previous plans tonight.
Ive never ever asked her ti babysit before the children mid primary aged.

I am hurt tbh! I do loads for her 😞

Pay her, next time she wants a favour charge her.

Noshowlomo Sat 20-Nov-21 13:05:12

Then you won’t be doing loads for her any more !

Porcupineintherough Sat 20-Nov-21 13:05:21

Pay her. And in future maybe do less for her.

MrzClaus Sat 20-Nov-21 13:05:25

Last minute she's had it sprung on her as you need the help in an emergency, and it's a service you'd normally expect to be paying for (hence you were on a sitters site) so I wouldn't be rubbed up the wrong way! She's helping you out very last minute in a tough situation - it doesn't matter whether she has plans or not. It's not doing nothing, it's looking after your children / child. If I was in your shoes, I'd have offered her money.

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