Sil charging for one off babysitting

[Dalalalada]

I feel quite angry about this and i probably shouldnt.

I habe never asked her to babysit and tonight the sitter pulled out at the last min, and we are going out for my birthday tonight tickets are bought and paid for.

I was panicking trying to find somone else on the sitter site and dp called sil who will be at home cause her partner is out.

She said she would need payment!

For some reason its really rubbed me up thr wrong way!

Aibu?

[RockNRollMartian]

Yeah, I'd either ask for payment next time she needed a favour or find myself 'unable' to help.

The first time you've ever asked, she could have just done it as a favour. It's strange to expect payment, when you've done favours for her before without expecting to be paid.

[CherryHug]

My time is valuable, I would expect payment as well, especially at such short notice.

[LivingLaVidaBabyShower]

@Dalalalada

She has form for cf.
She is 29.
She had no previous plans tonight.
Ive never ever asked her ti babysit before the children mid primary aged.

I am hurt tbh! I do loads for her 😞

yanbu
whadda scummy auntttttt

STOP DOING LOADS FOR HER!!!

[LolaSmiles]

My time is valuable, I would expect payment as well, especially at such short notice
I hope you pay every relative and friend who ever helps you out then.

[10yearwarranty]

On the face of it YABU because why should she do it for free? Then you later mention that you do "loads" for her so maybe YANBU.

[Muselyforbreakfast]

I can’t get past you choosing to ask a stranger from an agency to look after your kids rather than their aunt, because she wants paying too. Yes she’s cheeky but I would never have left my kids with someone they don’t know unless it was an emergency.

[Platax]

I am hurt tbh! I do loads for her

Next time tell her you're going to charge.

[Welcometothejingles]

Start charging her for the favours that she asks you from now on. No more freebies anymore, she's shown her true colours.

[Songoftheseas]

She’s a cf for asking for payment - she should just say no if she doesn’t want to babysit. I will say that I wouldn’t be keen to babysit for my SIL if asked, I’ve already done it several times and it was never appreciated or indeed reciprocated now that I have a young child myself! Reading your post though I can see that you do a lot for her, which makes it even worse that she is trying to charge you.

[Chickychickydodah]

Tell her you will pay then write a list if all the things you have done for her and deduct / don’t pay her ..

[Iputthetrampintrampoline]

Pay her OP then lesson learned the hard way as most of them often are, Never ask again and never do anything for her again, Put it down to experience, She is very rude,

[DroopyClematis]

Glad you've found a sitter.

Think it's time to step away from doing 'loads for her.'

[HikingforScenery]

It’s said on here all the time that no one owes another childcare, even family.
You’re asking for her time and she’s telling what it’s worth. It’s up to you decide whether it’s worth that to you or not.
Sure I never charge for babysitting children of friends or family, emergency or otherwise. However, only she gets to decide the conditions for her offer.

[MoneyConfused]

@HikingforScenery

It’s said on here all the time that no one owes another childcare, even family.
You’re asking for her time and she’s telling what it’s worth. It’s up to you decide whether it’s worth that to you or not.
Sure I never charge for babysitting children of friends or family, emergency or otherwise. However, only she gets to decide the conditions for her offer.

Oops late to the party.

Glad it’s all sorted

[motherheroic]

Don't see the issue to be honest, why wouldn't you just give her the money you were going to use for the baby sitter. Not to mention it was last minute.

[A8mint]

What sort of favour and how frequently?

[2bazookas]

That's fine,pay her for the babysit. Business is business.

So, next time she comes for a coffee or a meal, present her with a bill....

[JudgeJ]

@TurnUpTurnip

Tbf when my mum had my kids she use to say I was suppose to pay her for having them. Wasn’t regular but she still said I was suppose to give her money for it 🤷‍♀️

Wow, I've missed a trick for 16 years! We/I have had the children in varying numbers overnight, 3 or 4 days, off school ill, hospital appointments etc etc and I have never expected anything, I would have been annoyed if it had been suggested even!

[Riverlee]

I’d feel annoyed as well.

Have a lovely birthday evening!

[billy1966]

You do loads for her and she asked for payment?

Do you feel foolish?

Well if you donI suggest you remember that.

She is really rude to ask for payment and I would be doing sweet fxxk all for her in future.

[Grabmygran]

What kind of things do you do for her? Make sure you ask for payment next time

[Santaischeckinglists]

Now you know her true feelings.
I would rather have left mine home alone than ask my now ex sil!!
Never watched hers either but she had fee child care on tap off the ils.
Who watched mine once.. When we moved. I went and put them to bed and was there for 7am as requested.. They never even gave them a bowl of cereal!!

[CherryHug]

@LolaSmiles

My time is valuable, I would expect payment as well, especially at such short notice
I hope you pay every relative and friend who ever helps you out then.

I do indeed :)

[starfishmummy]

I know you have now found someone else but maybe next time she wants some help from you, then tell her you need paying.

[Arethechildreninbedyet]

I would email back and say 'Lol, imagine! Is that a yes?'

Stop doing shit for her she sounds petty.