Being called 'flower' by a professional male is not on?

[Elendon]

So I'm getting quotes for work being done to my house and one man, who is a professional in his trade, kept calling me 'flower' over the phone. He's coming tonight to assess the work needed doing, and to be honest, he's my only hope in getting the work done.

Do I just smile and nod?

[TwitterQueen1]

I can't get excited or cross about these things. He will be dealing with strange women every day and as an alternative to 'love', 'duck' or similar I don't see it as a problem. I think it would be hard for him to remember everyone's names.

[JeReviens]

If he's your only hope I suppose you'll just have to grin and bear it but just reading your OP has put my twat radar right on edge! Flower my arse! I hate that kind of thing!

[chestylarue52]

I like it, personally

[Racmactac]

Really you can't find anyone else?

Perhaps just look at him and say my name is ..... every time he calls you flower.

How annoying

[Penhacked]

He probably uses mate too. I personally wouldn't cut my nose off to spite my face.

[HipsterHunter]

In sheffield Flower and Pet are totally OK!

[daisygirlmac]

It depends where he's from as well, I'm oop north and don't mind flower, love etc as it's used a lot by men and women where I come from. I think intent is important! If it's a regional term meant kindly, no problem. If it's a deliberate attempt to put you down, he can fuck off

[mummmy2017]

It's quiet common in certain areas, and meant nothing wrong.
if you don't like it, tell him, but I am sure he will do it not to be rude but as it's his default greeting.

[gamerchick]

I call people flower as well... and hinny. Talk about uptight.

I find it more weird when people use my name repeatedly during a conversation. Stobbit

[Elendon]

I do think that if I did had a male partner and he was the point of contact he would probably have called him mate (and I would hope that male partner would be equally riled at being called his mate). But still, it's his profession, a skill that is much needed.

I don't mind love but it certainly did put my twat radar on edge.

[Redcrayons]

Wouldn't bother me in that situation.
It's no different to the cashier in Tesco calling me 'love'.
If he asked to speak to 'my fella', I'd go elsewhere.

[annielouise]

Not bothered either. If he was Glaswegian he might call you 'doll'. My auntie would call all younger women that in certain situations.

[gamerchick]

You need to tell him it offends you so it can put his twat radar on edge. One of 'those' customers

[IloveBanff]

JeReviens Showing my age but your "Flower my arse" immediately made me think of a scene in Carry on Nurse involving a daffodil (used in place of a rectal thermometer)

[ZeroFuchsGiven]

I call people flower as well... and hinny.

Me too, I certainly don't do it as an insult or in a derogatory way, and I say it to men too.

[Elendon]

I do live in the North West and understand terms of endearment. But I don't come from here (I'm a blow in despite living here for 20 years).

So it's okay then? Just seems incredibly old fashioned. But it does set my teeth on edge (and I'm not looking forward to meeting him).

[CaretakerToNuns]

YANBU.

All these awful "flower", "petal", "sunshine", etc names are just microaggressions that males like to use to attempt to assert their dominance over women.

[Justhadmyhaircut]

Given that flowers are beautiful and smell lovely it wouldn't bother me.
As a Geordie I call people pet but it's not implying they are a dog /pig etc. It's just a friendly term. .

[MrsOverTheRoad]

Call him petal back. That'll let him know.

"Here we are Flower...I've measured up"

"Ah well done Petal!"

[MrsOverTheRoad]

In fact...a new term of endearment everytime you speak to him!

Petal
Buttercup
Sunshine
Bonny Lass

[Judashascomeintosomemoney]

Hmmm, in this context YApossiblyBU. Shame you can't test the theory but if you had a DH present and he called him MrElendon, then yeah, be outraged, be very outraged. If, however, he called him mate, or worse, around here it's often geez', then it's really not worth spending a thought on.

[Elendon]

I think I'm being a bit precious. He's probably salt of the earth and will do what he thinks is best.

I just couldn't get over the 'flower' in each sentence. Is all.

[gamerchick]

So wimmin doing it is....... asserting dominance over both sexes?

Me too zero, if someone objected I would give them a wide berth in future as it will indicate they're hard work in general.

[coddiwomple]

I would just smile and nod.

YA not BU to be annoyed, but the same way you'd be annoyed to be called "love" or other weird ways to address a random stranger.

I am being called "mate" at work occasionally. Odd, but as long as it's not by the junior, I am not that bothered.

[Freddystarshamster]

All these awful "flower", "petal", "sunshine", etc names are just microaggressions that males like to use to attempt to assert their dominance over women

I'll bet you're a right laugh at parties....