Mansplanied

[Mimmi78]

I have been told by my boss to apologise for saying to an external colleague, “thanks for mansplaining to me”

Yesterday was a busy day, lots on, I work in busy financial services role, interact with lots of external stakeholders at other company. The interaction was,
me - hi can I have this thing
him - no because of this, then, tacked on end a full explanation of how thing works.
for context 27 years in my industry, know how thing works. Explanation not required. I should just have said it in my head but my skirt pocket was fresh outta Fs to give.

Boss sympathetic but just wants it to go away, demands written apology, let’s get to it ladies, help me write the best apology for this one.

this ? is a question mark, it is put at the end of a question, I asked the questions of you, what you read in to the questions is down to you, maybe you should look at what I was responding to for some context clues.

Please.

You said:

"You must get really angry when looking in the mirror, or is it that this is the wrong kind of sexism?

Are you also the sort of person that men must get in touch with their feelings and then get upset when they do, as have many posters on here?"

So,

Have you got actual answers to my questions, or are you the sort of person who throws accusations of sexism around to shut women up but avoids putting their money where their mouth is? Can you answer my questions with anything more than vague handwaving, or do you know you don't really have anything of substance, just projection and superficial tit for tat that ignores the context in which sexism operates?

Are you brave enough to reply properly, or are you just going to carry on running scared, claiming it's sexist of women to point out the sexist dynamic that turns patronising into Mansplaining and not acknowledging the reality that women say they do experience mansplaining, and that plenty of men agree they witness it? Are those people all lying, do you think?

Just questions, obviously.

(And BTW, the PP who was banging on about hyperbole while also, like you, avoiding the actual content of my posts, got deleted.)

Have you got answers to mine?

You don't seemto like it when people respond to your posts in the same way that you post.
I have already answered about mansplaining. are you "brave enough" to read those posts properly?

Brilliant post

"You must get really angry when looking in the mirror, or is it that this is the wrong kind of sexism?

Neither. Your founding assumptions are flawed.

Are you also the sort of person that men must get in touch with their feelings and then get upset when they do, as have many posters on here?

No. I have no idea who these other posters are, nor why you brought them up, but your feelings about them are not relevant to me or to my argument. You do seem angry about them though, is that why you are projecting your anger at me?

As to Mansplaining, I did reply to you. Several times. Including a well reasoned post explaining the dynamic and, indeed, acknowledging that not only can both women and men be patronising without it being gendered but that in some circumstances the usual gender dynamic can operate the other way.

Your reply : "Thanks for "splaining" that to me, but like so many you are happy to hide your sexism behind gendered wording. By all means continue to be patronising and prentending that both sexes are not as guilty as each other for doing it."

So yes, I have indeed read your posts properly. And to give you fair treatment, I read them again. And what really stands out is that there's no actual argument from you here, just a flat dismissal and doubling down on your original unevidenced claim, followed by the last few petty digs.

You will, I'm afraid, have to do better.

Any time you want to engage with actual examples of sexism to put context and weight behind your empty assertions, I'm here.

Until then, I doubt I'll bother replying. Not because I'm scared, but because you simply aren't offering anything of substance to discuss and I'm bored now.

Have a nice evening.

TLDR. didn't read past the first oft repeated sentence.

It is very clear that this isn't going anywhere.
And that from my POV you don't have any real interest in engaging properly.

And you have a good evening too.