No Eleusis - grandparents have a different role to play. Children's upbringing is the responsibility of parents. Grandparents have done their job of bringing up children and ought to be allowed the pleasure without the burden of being with little children. I think, like you, that children ought to have lots of adults to interact with and grandparents can play a wonderful part in that, but they ought not to be laying down the law or doing chores for children. My daughter loves going to her grandparents, but I would never expect grandparents to care for her while I am working, except in an emergency. I think it's lovely for children to have holidays with their grandparents, days out and treats that parents can't provide/afford. But I don't want to spoil that lovely relationship by making grandparents regular carers.