Today I discovered that Hinge can delete your account if as a straight male you complain about males appearing in your dating queue…

[SingleSexSpacesInSchools]

I only discovered this after having made two reports, and it’s Sunday, so I suppose I’ll find out tomorrow if they are going to follow through.

• [This paragraph has been removed at the OP's request]

I'm sure someone will be along in a minute and ask why it has to be a thing in a relationship at all but given the case I’m following through it sort of has to be out there!

In what world does the sexual orientation’ ‘straight’ denote ‘attracted to people of the same sex’?

Brighton?

Okay imagine if OP could tick a box that meant he didnt see only saw straight women, would that solve his issue with seeing trans women in his feed?

Or would that just mean that he only saw women (and trans women) who say they are straight?

I think the latter. He would see anyone who says they are a woman and are only attracted to men.

So who he would exclude is anyone who says they are a woman but are attracted to men and women (and perhaps other GIs, too). Some of those would be bisexual biological women. I don't think OP necessarily wants to omit this group (bi biological women) from his searches.

What would solve OP's problem is the ability to see only biological women. If the site wants to, it could achieve this by ensuring members record both their biological sex and their GI and to punish users who aren't true to their word. With this feature, OP would be able to filter out trans women which is what he wants to do.

OK, so its not transphobic if a transwoman claims he's straight (ie into men) and Hinge started to give him profiles for women because he can just scroll past and it doesn't matter that it invalidates his claim to be a straight woman - you'd say exactly the same right? No big deal, just scroll on by?

It's not intolerant to only want to date the opposite sex. To say anything different is rape culture.

Not to answer for the other person, but nobody is entitled to attention or attraction. It isn't discrimnatory to not be attracted to someone. Furthermore, nobody knows you scrolled on by so literally nobody can be hurt by it.

What someone could be hurt by is if you messaged them abuse for showing up in your feed. Many of my female friends have got that from men who have swiped positively on them just to send an abusive message about their presence on the site.

But I thought you couldn't tell the difference! How can you possibly be reporting them as male when they look the same as (if not better) than biological women???

I think he said he did make such reports in the OP but he might not mean he reported their profile, just that he made a general complaint/suggestion.

of course it’s about sexual orientation-the OP’s

he is straight. He doesn’t want to be paired up with men, even if said fellas enjoy role playing as women

I’m a bit puzzled about why that’s not obvious to you

I can’t imagine what benefit there is for the app not to have that feature tbh. Seems like it would save a lot of hassle all round.

Hinge treats trans women as women. So, if you are interested in women, sometimes trans women will appear as suggestions. If you don't like that, leave the app or just scroll by. I'm sure it's irritating for transphobes, but those are the choices.

Your hypothetical app treats trans women as men. Yes, it would be transphobic, but we are talking about a transphobic app which any sensible transgender person wouldn't join. The solution would be for the trans women to either leave the app or accept this weird, transphobic set up where neither the people being swiped, nor the ones doing the matching would be happy.

You might do some reflection on why there are no apps like this.

Well yes

it can’t be nice for Fred in his chiffon blouse to find himself on a date with a man who just isn’t interested

much better all round to just be honest I’d have thought.

Because he hasn't reported that he cares about the sexual orientation of his potential matches. He just wants them to be biological women. He doesnt need to filter out bi women. He wants to filter out trans women. I dont get why this is difficult to understand.

Given that, according to what polling there is, only a tiny percentage of men are interested sexually in transwomen, surely it would be in everybody’s interest if users could specify whether they are interested in transwoen (or indeed transmen). Save a lot of wasted time.

I don't think it's laws so much as social attitudes that have dictated their decisions on this. I don't think they are forced to so much as their core membership not wanting that sort of distinction.

Where ‘transphobe’ = person who won’t sublimate their sexual boundaries to make a person who likes to role play as a member of the opposite sex feel happy

you really don’t know how creepy your views are , do you?

HIS orientation is straight

ergo it’s no good a dating app showing him men, even ones in frocks

are you quite alright?

That sounds like discrimination on grounds of the protected characteristic of belief.

I think there are quite a few men sexually interested in trans women. Romantically interested is a different question. Isn't that type of porn one of the most searched? That would take both people interested in being the TW as well as people interested in having sex with TW to produce those kimds of stats

He’s a big boy and can choose not swipe on people he doesn’t want to match with like everyone else.

Do you understand how search filters work on such apps?

‘She’s a big girl’

’she knew what she was doing’

’she could have just left’

creepy as all get out

It's not transphobic for a heterosexual man to not want to date a trans identified man. The fact that you even went there means you have no understanding of boundaries. You are the same as trans identified men who try to date lesbians. Trying to violate other people's sexual boundaries and accuse them of 'transphobia' for not wanting to date a different sex from the one they are attracted to is rape culture. It is coercive and very, very wrong.

Those are not remotely comparable situations

Well Hinge claims to be about long term relationships. Even if it weren’t. There would be nothing compelling straight men to exclude transwomen. I’m sure no transwoman would want to be ‘dated under false pretences’ anyway.

Edited to repeat. What polling there is suggests the percentage of straight men sexually interested in transwomen is tiny.