Today I discovered that Hinge can delete your account if as a straight male you complain about males appearing in your dating queue…

[SingleSexSpacesInSchools]

I only discovered this after having made two reports, and it’s Sunday, so I suppose I’ll find out tomorrow if they are going to follow through.

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I'm sure someone will be along in a minute and ask why it has to be a thing in a relationship at all but given the case I’m following through it sort of has to be out there!

Are you having a mantrum again? 😉

Chose a gender critical dating app

If only that was possible, but such things are not allowed anymore, just like Giggle, the minute they appear the Alphabetties invade the space, infest it with their ideology and kick out anyone who objects.

Is a dating app pushing the following narrative?....

Don't be a straight man. Be prepared to accept women with dicks as potential love interests.

So, be bi or gay. If not, you're banned.

Bisexual guy here who also doesn't want to date any trans identifying males. I like a cock or a fanny but the idea of a surgically created hole in a male perineum or an intact male posing as a woman with a cock & fake tits really gives me the ick. Likewise for a trans identifying female with a beard, fanny & no tits.

So creepy

’here are my boundaries about who I want to date. This app not respecting them is a bit upsetting’

’you seem a bit hysterical’

LGBTQ+ ideology is a muddle.
Gay conversion therapy is (rightly) a big no-no.
However, being actually gay or lesbian - or actually straight - and saying so, gets you kicked off dating apps and accused of being a "genital fetishist".
Which is also weird, because apparently kink-shaming is a big no-no too.
As they say, make it make sense.

Don't be daft, they are male, that's just a fact. Are you normally triggered by basic language?

Couldn’t agree more. Very immature too

I’ve noticed on Reddit a few incredulous comments previously along the lines of “it’s almost as if the TERFs think we’re men”.

Yes, we do. Because you are.

This dating site recognises that trans women are women. If you don't believe that, this is not the dating site for you. You are not going to change their mind by throwing a hissy fit and typing in all caps. I'm honestly surprised you haven't been kicked off already.

They are literally male. the very definition of "trans woman" is male - who identifies as a woman - you could not ever be a female who identified as a woman, and be a "trans woman" - it's the very definition of the word.

I look forward to them trying and me suing the shit out of them for doing so.

You are not going to change their mind

I would standby, if I were you. The right side of his history is in front of you, and you're walking backwards

creepy mk2

man wanting a dating app to respect his preferences about the sex of the people he wants to date is ‘throwing a hissy fit’

honestly, can you hear yourself? It’s red bunting central

When he signed up, he accepted their terms and conditions. It's a private company offering a service. They do not have to be transphobic. If transphobia was commercially successful, they'd set up a gender critical dating app. I'm sure there is a space in the market for one.

He thinks he has found a loophole in "reporting trans women" by reporting them as male. It's not a loophole.

Pick another company. If you can't find one, either don't pick people you think are trans, or go to a super-fun gender critical meet and greet.

’our terms and conditions clearly state that you must be a-ok with finding yourself on a date with Fred in his blouse and eye shadow even though you’ve said that you are only interested in women’

i mean, do you think Fred has literally changed sex when he donned his skirt or something? Do you think that will ‘turn’ the OP? Have you ever met any humans?

This sounds like the kind of grift JKR might support. Good luck!

Would it be transphobic to tell trans women/men they are welcome to use the app but must identify themselves as trans?

That seems sensible to me? Everyone knows where they stand and avoids any awkward misunderstandings. People who are into trans women/men or genuinely don't mind can also find what they are looking for. Benefits everybody.

To be fair, the OP has proven himself entertainingly tenacious on a separate matter

A hissy fit for expecting woman to mean woman, not man? For expecting a dating app to understand what heterosexual means?

I do like a hobby.

Apologies. I shouldn't have assumed. My bad. 😬

Interestingly you actually can, and some people do - but I am not given the option to say "Looking for cis women only" which I'd not like but would at least understand

as I said earlier I'd be quite happy for trans ID males to appear in the female listings if they a) had also said they were trans women and in my filtering, I was allowed to say bio females / cis women, whatever.

You know that little thing at the end of any terms and conditions where it says something like, this does not affect your statutory rights? Yeah?

Well guess which takes precedence, a T&C Hinge wrote using ChatGPT or, the Equality Act?

I'm going to give you three guesses how well it goes for service providers who refuse service based on protected characteristics xx