Today I discovered that Hinge can delete your account if as a straight male you complain about males appearing in your dating queue…

[SingleSexSpacesInSchools]

I only discovered this after having made two reports, and it’s Sunday, so I suppose I’ll find out tomorrow if they are going to follow through.

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I'm sure someone will be along in a minute and ask why it has to be a thing in a relationship at all but given the case I’m following through it sort of has to be out there!

Don’t be obtuse. The point is the OP could (app dependent) filter out the fat women but not the male women. Why filter any out if you ‘don’t have to date’ any of them.

But how do you know they're transwomen if they don't say so? Photos can be filtered and enhanced to look completely different.

I don't imagine it benefits anyone for people to be deceived into meeting someone who's the opposite sex from what they expect. Embarrassing all round, I should think.

If he doesn't want to date trans women, he shouldn't date trans women. There is nothing wrong with that. If he doesn't want to date black women, he shouldn't date black women, and so on.

Sighs deeply...

What if they’re pretending to be a woman and he doesn’t find out until they meet?

bit awks all round, no?

That's because they are men.

It should come as no surprise that straight men don't do penises.

You can always tell, right?

Yeah, the racism caught my eye too

heaven knows how many times it needs to be explained to these people that black women and men are not synonymous for heaven’s sake. So bloody offensive

Not online with filters, no

Being catfished in one way or the other is a risk on dating apps.

But if someone hasn't said they're a transwoman and it's not obvious from their (perhaps heavily edited) pics, how would he know to scroll past?

In person, probably yes. Online, no.

He could ask everyone he speaks to early on if it is important to him. It will be a good way to find women who share his views because they definitely won't mind being asked if they are trans.

What’s the basis of your potential legal action @SingleSexSpacesInSchools ?

I would love to see what you propose be a thing.

What if he doesn't find out until after the first snog?

Not with the collusion of the app though

That is untrue. Few make you show proof of your age/weight/height etc.

Why have any filters at all then? Someone's sex is a pretty basic category for dating. Why have age categories but not sex categories. You could just reject someone if they look too old or too young for you, no search filter necessary.

Yea. That’s where ‘you can just swipe past them’ falls down. Why eliminate anyone.

Because they usually toggle filters according to the attitudes of their core membership. It's about what they want from the app. Sex is obviously of secondary importance.

I reminder of the power of filters

Sex is obviously of secondary importance.

Said no-one ever 😂

What a bizarre statement. Are you bisexual? They're the only people who would be comfortable with both men and women coming up as options on a dating app.

People spoke poorly of Feeld, but it actually lets you filter by sexuality AND gender. So you could ensure people who ID as "trans women" show up, but people who ID as "women" do.

You are still left in the same position where some TW will ID as women unless the site has a specific rule, though.

Why is it bizarre to say that the sites are designed around the needs and values of the core membership?

Oh come on. You’re really suggesting that for the majority of people the weight or age of a prospective partner is more important than their sex. Really?