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Right-wing press perpetuating hate over Widdecombe

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YourHateIsShowing · 16/07/2026 08:41

The Daily Express and others claiming the reaction to Ann Widdecombe’s death has somehow “exposed the left” as hateful, is nonsense as usual.

There is hate on the left. Without question. There’s also hate on the right. There are totally extreme nut jobs on both sides, too. Neither side has a total monopoly on either. But I think it’s pretty lazy to not see past the noise and understand the origin of hatred on any side of conflict. Context is everything. And most can agree with that when it comes to certain situations. As a mother, I understand the hatred a mother would feel towards a drunk driver who ended their child’s life through one careless selfish decision to drive home from the pub intoxicated. Or for worse crimes we know exist. I’m using these examples simply to make the case that our value systems should be consistent. Not to imply the level of harm is the same in all cases. That would be an overreach.

Ann Widdecombe was a deeply controversial politician. She was unapologetic about her views on immigration, LGBTQ+ rights, welfare and poverty. I remember her response when challenged about people who couldn’t afford a cheese sandwich: her answer amounted to, “Don’t have a cheese sandwich then.” I’ve watched her for years as a speaker on right wing conservative talking points; she dedicated her life to politics, but very often in ways that supported the structural degradation of groups of already marginalised people in society. So I loathed what she stood for and I make no secret of that.
And why should others who were actually targeted or harmed by the spread of her views suddenly be expected to pretend she was a saint because of what happened to her? Or be quiet? Widdecombe was anything a saint and anything but quiet throughout her political career. Death doesn’t erase public record.

What I will say though, is this: what happened to her was awful. Abhorrent. What happened was utterly disgusting, AND so were her views on a lot of things. Views that had influence. That doesn’t mean she deserved what happened to her. I feel for her, and her family. She would have been scared. She has my empathy for that. In spades. But I certainly don’t think others who were the focus of her intolerance should be expected to rewrite history or suppress honest criticism of the suffering she supported within society, out of respect for some weird convention that says we should only speak well of the dead. I don’t buy into that.

I’m sure Ann loved her family, had close friends, and watered all her house plants. I don’t see the world in terms of heroes and villains. We can be either at any time under different circumstances. But for those who’ve maybe read 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, you may also find truth in the words of Covey who said “we are what we repeatedly do”. If you repeatedly lie, guess what? You’re a liar.

There’s truth in that, even though I mostly see people on a spectrum and not in the binary. I still see the small compounding decisions they repeatedly make, and more importantly how those decisions impact others. We can also accept conflicting ideas, where good people commit a bad act, for good reason. It’s complicated.
But overall, some people leave the world a tiny bit kinder, fairer and more compassionate as a result of those compounding decisions met with their sphere of influence. Others leave it more divided, more fearful or less equal. Most of us fall somewhere in between. And most have little influence outside our immediate circle.
Ann had more than the average bod, so I hold her and other public figures to a higher standard. She didn’t stack up, for me.

Ann Widdecombe accepted and even defended policy that saw totally unnecessary poverty and hunger (children included), in the 6th richest country in the world. She stood against abortion in cases of rape. And she consistently fought against gay rights. She repeatedly contributed to this. This is who she was. What she stood for. And what those who support her stand for.

So what the right read as hatred among the left today, in the wake of this awful event that brought her world views into sharp focus, I read as an intolerance not of her skin colour, or her sexual orientation, or her nationality, but of all she stood for and against; all she was intolerant of in people without choices.

Karl Popper’s paradox of tolerance explains this best, I think. If you’ve not come across it, it’s essentially characterised by an intolerance of intolerance itself. The difference is this: to be intolerant of someone’s skin colour, ethnicity, or other things they cannot change, such as their sexual orientation, or even level of poverty, certainly if you’re still a child born into it, is not the same as having an intolerance of those who punch down at them from a place of privilege.

Ann Widdecombe was openly homophobic and believed science should one day cure it, as if being gay were a disease to be eradicated. That’s a profound intolerance of something people cannot change. The same cannot be said of a worldview built on prejudice, bigotry or theocratic ideology. Those are beliefs. They’re decisions. They can be questioned, challenged and changed. Even after death. And if she and others like her directed more of their intolerance towards harmful ideas, rather than towards people for who they are, and for that which they cannot change, we’d have less hatred on both sides. But the root of that hatred, is glaringly obvious when you actually take the time to analyse it. Spoiler alert: it’s not coming from the left.

So this headline can get in the bin.
Where it belongs.

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Cyclebabble · 16/07/2026 10:39

Some of the output has been quite shocking. Even on the BBC's politics programme the commentator Daze Aghaji when asked about her murder just said "a lot of people will not be grieving her death". No shock at a murder, just that comment. That is before we get to the comments from a University of Aberdeen worker. My views do not concur with Weidecombe's at all, but I did find some of the comments really out of line.

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 16/07/2026 10:40

EasternStandard · 16/07/2026 10:25

‘You reap what you sow’

On a thread about a murdered female ex MP

Are you sure you want to endorse it?

On previous post they've used 'live by the sword, die by the sword ' so I suppose we've got to give them props for recognising that they're usual retort would go down like a bucket of sick on a thread about a woman who's been brutally murdered.

TempestTost · 16/07/2026 10:42

Whisperingwaters · 16/07/2026 09:36

And just who is responsible for the public discourse deteriorating to such an extent?

A toxic combination of a steady diet of dehumanisation & demonisation that passes for 'free speech' these days teamed with a removal of rights isn't going to end in kumbaya.

Its going to end in escalation. Injustice breeds vigilantism & violence. Hate breeds hate. So pointing the finger at the consequences does nothing to fix the solution.

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Dehumanisation, hmm.

What is interesting here is that quite consistently people who knew her personally, across the political spectrum, said she was a likeable, kind, and compelling person.

That doesn't happen when someone dehumanises others.

There is a really flat discourse on the left at this point in history. I would say this hasn't always been the case, but I think that it is at something of a low point in terms of its intellectual life.

One area where people seem to have difficulty is understanding that discussing questions such as - what is the best way to reduce poverty in the population - can be more complicated than , if you don't vote to give them a cheese sandwich you want people to starve.

Similarly, discussions and opposing views on the nature of public institutions, what actually constitutes a right and what those rights mean, cannot and should not be reduced to "taking away rights".

In AW's case with gay marriage, the nature of the discussion is along the lines of "can rights exist relative to reproductive role?" The progressive left's belief that they can't is really not the only game in town, and the fact that they think there is no other game that isn't some kind of bigotry is more to do with outright ignorance about other perspectives than anything else.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 16/07/2026 10:44

Whisperingwaters · 16/07/2026 10:37

Hate speech refers to public communication that expresses animosity, disparages, or encourages violence against a person or group based on protected characteristics like race, religion, sex, or sexual orientation.

So yeah it comes under the purview of hate.

So you'd obviously characterise Bash Back Trans as a Hate group then?

And Sarah Jane "if you see a TERF, punch her in the fucking face" Baker?

And the countless dehumanising statements made about Jewish people and attacks on Jewish targets, I hope you denouce those as well?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/07/2026 10:47

FlirtsWithRhinos · 16/07/2026 10:14

Reading this post, it struck me very strongly that both the accusations of hate and the hate itself are coming from the same side.

There is a powerful movement today that is so sure of its own rightness in all things that it feels entirely entitled to avoid hard questions by claiming that even to ask them is "hate". To avoid looking at the consequences of its values and sibboleths by claiming dissent or disagreement can only be motivated by "hate".

And so they create for themselves an environment where normal rules or morality don't matter when it comes to their political opponents. Anything is justified against people who hold different views to them because "haters don't deserve any better".

It's terrifying, and it's playing out in real time now.

It's interesting that PP referenced Popper's paradox, because he also went on to say:

"I do not imply, for instance, that we should always suppress the utterance of intolerant philosophies; as long as we can counter them by rational argument and keep them in check by public opinion, suppression would certainly be most unwise. But we should claim the right to suppress them if necessary even by force; for it may easily turn out that they are not prepared to meet us on the level of rational argument, but begin by denouncing all argument; they may forbid their followers to listen to rational argument, because it is deceptive, and teach them to answer arguments by the use of their fists or pistols. "

#NoDebate is the opposite of what Popper was advocating. It's only those who will not debate yet still seek to impose their values over others that we should consider limiting.

Well said.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/07/2026 10:49

Cyclebabble · 16/07/2026 10:39

Some of the output has been quite shocking. Even on the BBC's politics programme the commentator Daze Aghaji when asked about her murder just said "a lot of people will not be grieving her death". No shock at a murder, just that comment. That is before we get to the comments from a University of Aberdeen worker. My views do not concur with Weidecombe's at all, but I did find some of the comments really out of line.

It’s really fucking unnecessary. No one is expecting you to “grieve” but hold off on the smarmy comments just after the woman was brutally murdered.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 16/07/2026 10:52

GwenPost · 16/07/2026 10:19

Widdicombe's opinions stemmed from her Catholic faith. She was unswerving in her convictions and traditional values and for that I admired her greatly

Why would you admire someone who delegates their moral viewpoint to a bunch of rules made up by a load of men 2000 years ago?
To me it just shows a lack of critical thinking.

And to then insist that everyone else follows their rules.
I'm not sure what the word for that is but it's certainly not admirable

This demonstrates a lack of understanding of Christian theology. Christianity is not a set of rules written by men 2000 years ago, though some Christians admittedly act as if that was the case so the misunderstanding is understandable! The Bible contains opposing views and philosophical / theological debate, though I would argue that there is a thread of consensus running through it, and the development of first a Jewish and then, for those who accept the New Testament, a Christian worldview. There are sophisticated arguments and poetical depictions of concepts (for example in the book of Job which struggles with the problem of suffering), not just the simple maxims imagined by people who have never engaged with the texts. There is the humorous tale of Jonah who didn't like what God was telling him. There are flawed heroes, marginalised women such as Rahab, a "sex worker" who was applauded for her faith and actions, and many other varied characters displaying the whole range of human behaviour types.

As I'm sure you realise, there is still a lot of debate within Christianity, and Ann Widdecombe will undoubtedly have had her views challenged by other Christians. Christians are not all fundamentalists, and they are not all liberals.

Applepe · 16/07/2026 10:53

Absolute left wing waffle, trying to make excuses for the hate spewing from the left over Ann Widdicombe’s murder. The left were gleefully celebrating the violent death of a woman at the hands of man because she had views and opinions that they won’t tolerate, because according to the left their view is the correct one and violence is the only answer if you oppose it. Ann wasn’t homophobic, she had many gay friends, but she held her religious beliefs in high esteem. I suggest you go to a local mosque and tell them that their views on homosexuality are intolerant and see how that goes down. Unlike the left, Ann Widdicombe accepted opposing views and didn’t force her opinion.

MarieDeGournay · 16/07/2026 10:53

WiddleWaWa Now, I have been pushed into what you would describe as 'far right'. I don't feel far right. I don't hate anyone. I don't judge by skin colour or sexuality and I absolutely wouldnt discriminate based on that. But I do now feel that TWAM, that womens spaces should be for biological women only. That The TQIA++++ is detrimental to the LGB. And I also strongly believe that it is Gods will that the sanctity of marriage be between a man and a woman.

I'm puzzled by this part of your post, WiddleWaWa - what part of 'that TWAM, that womens spaces should be for biological women only. That The TQIA++++ is detrimental to the LGB' do you think makes you 'far right'?

That sounds like standard feminist, including lesbian feminist, fare, and indeed probably what most average members of the public believe too.
It is a set of beliefs often expressed on this board, by women who have been would be considered 'left wing' all their adult lives - trade unionists, campaigners against the blatant racism of past decades, workers in refuges..

I don't see anything even remotely 'far right' about what you now believe.

And as for 'I also strongly believe that it is Gods will that the sanctity of marriage be between a man and a woman.' - that's not 'grating' at all to me.
I don't believe in God, so I have no opinion about what her will is about marriage or anything else.
However, I was always careful to say that the campaign for marriage equality was a campaign to extend to homosexual citizens the same right to enter into the legal contract of marriage as heterosexual citizens.

Whether churches choose to offer marriage ceremonies to same-sex couples is, I believe, their business. Some do, some don't. Some lesbian and gay people are, like yourself, people of faith, and it is up to them to intervene with their churches about same-sex marriage.

As long as I have the same legal rights as my fellow-citizens, I leave the theological debates to the believers.

So your strong belief in God's will about marriage isn't right-wing either, it is a position on the doctrine of whatever church you belong to, which could also be held by someone who would otherwise be described as 'left-wing'.

There are trans activists who say - very loudly and very aggressively - that we're all hate-fuelled right wingers because we believe that TWAM, that womens spaces should be for biological women only. That The TQIA++++ is detrimental to the LGB.

They're demonstrably wrong. If that's you're basis for feeling that you are 'right wing' now, I don't think you've shown anything right-wing in what you say are your beliefs.
Maybe you have other opinions that are 'right wing', maybe you have a different definition of 'right wing', maybe you like being called 'right wing', I don't know.

But somebody who doesn't hate anybody, doesn't judge by colour or creed, believes in free speech and that everybody, including women, are entitled to human rights - you sound like you'd fit in very well in any of the circles of vaguely 'left-wing' lesbian feminists I've had the pleasure to mix with🙂

TempestTost · 16/07/2026 10:53

pleuo · 16/07/2026 09:55

Exactly this. It is perfectly possible to disagree with someone's opinions or lifestyle without hating them. But I think people who don't understand this are projecting their own inability to separate ideas from emotions. They have strong negative feelings towards people they disagree with and they can't understand that other people don't - they can disagree and feel actually quite positive.

It is also entirely normal and respectful that when someone dies, particularly in such a terrible way, for a period of time all we express is lament or pity. Commentary and criticism can come later. By starting up a dialogue about the deceased's morals or view so soon, the OP is demonstrating the lack of courtesy and respect that has just become normal and is creating the general atmosphere of 'hate'.

I think your first paragraph here is really important.

Many of the people who comment this way - and it really is a lot I'm afraid - have a really immature and undeveloped emotional intelligence.

This seems to me to be true IRL of many of the BeKinders I know. To the point that quite a few of them seem to have what almost seems to be some kind of deficit.

One lady I know in particular always comes to mind, she is a supporter of all BeKind initiatives and truly can't seem to comprehend when people she knows are in fact kind don't also jump on board with all of these causes. Or in fact even when people seem to have different takes, in what to her is a non PC way, on what's going on in a novel. The reason she comes to mind in particular is because she is a child psychologist and well respected locally in her profession.

I find myself wondering if people have always been like this, including people in jobs where they should be highly emotionally intelligent? Or has something gone wrong and there are now more people like this? And is it true, as it seems to me at times, that they are clustered on the left? What is going on with it all?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/07/2026 10:54

pleuo · 16/07/2026 10:31

It's not ignorance, I just don't agree with you about the power imbalances you are identifying. You have a simplistic approach to power in which you pick the side you prefer and ascribe all the power to the other side.

Exactly.

CornishDaughteroftheDawn · 16/07/2026 10:56

Whisperingwaters · 16/07/2026 10:04

You'll hear people saying that Palestinian violence is 'understandable' because of the years of oppression, but the same people will say that Israelis should be expected to behave with responsible moderation.

Another sterling example of both sidesism in the service of cry bullying. As if Israel hasn't for decades inhumanely provoked such an inhumane reaction….just so they could justify further inhumane ethnic cleansing & land theft. It's the far right's MO to provoke people with no legal recourse to barbarity only to point to their barbarity as justification for oppression.

You have a very warped and one sided view of a complex conflict.

I suggest you read up on what actually happened rather than believing everything you are fed by the ‘progressive left’. I have listened to lots of accounts by people who actually know the history and you are incorrect in your characterisation of this.

GwenPost · 16/07/2026 10:57

pleuo · 16/07/2026 10:24

I suggest that the person who dismisses an ethical system that has had 2000 years of refinement and has stood the test of time as 'bunch of rules made up by a load of men 2000 years ago' is the person who lacks critical thinking.

My critical faculties are fine thanks. But instead of personal remarks perhaps you can explain why it is 'admirable' to accept a set of moral values handed down by a religion without questioning any of it

Especially a set of beliefs that includes 'homosexuality is a sin'
Any discussion i've ever had with religious people boils down to 'because god said so'
I'm genuinely baffled by why this unquestioning acceptance is seen as a good thing

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/07/2026 10:58

Whisperingwaters · 16/07/2026 09:54

And just who is responsible for the public discourse deteriorating to such an extent?
The TRAs.

The TRA's aren't doing the dehumanising & demonising that be JKR & her incessant insinuations that trans people are mentally unwell violent sex predators.

The only people who've been systematically dehumanised are women.
And the only ones who've been systematically demonised are GC people.

Playing innocent about their callous mocking that you know happens routinely on this forum & on social media? A 'pick me!' is made in such ways.

Trans people have not lost any rights.

Oh, so the whole SC ruling changed nothing? Okaaaay.

TRAs are the only ones wishing and acting for this escalation. Women and GC people don't. So if it does escalate, it'll be clear where it comes from.

I would suggest a quick google of 'cause & effect' but that would be a waste of time.

Going to need to see a citation for that claim about JKR. Otherwise, I think you should probably retract it.

Genericfestiveusername · 16/07/2026 10:58

I'm not sure I agree that disagreeing with someone's fundamental existence isn't hateful. To me my sexuality isn't an opinion of a lifestyle, it's there whether you live it or not. Disagreeing with something fundamental or suggesting or hoping it should be cured isn't neutral or loving, and is hateful to imo, because its completely rooted in the christian logic of "hating the sin not the sinner" which is how the defenses of her opinions sound here, "she hated my sexuality but not me" and I'm quite surprised that women especially queer women would give such an old fashioned patriarchal agenda the time of day. It's fine to admit her opinions were our of date, completely unfactual discriminatory and hateful without agreeing with murder.

WiddleWaWa · 16/07/2026 10:59

@MarieDeGournay Like I said, I don't believe I am far right but I think the general perception of my political views would be that, especially from the left. People I used to associate with have labelled me as such. It's the same situation as the people on England Marches, who are concerned mothers living next to HMOs, are labelled by our own Priminister as Far Right and hateful/divisive for being concerned about the levels of unvetted immigrant males from dangerous countries being allowed in.

So I don't feel I am far right, no. I feel my views are very middle of the road but I was pointing out that many women who were previously labour supporters/left feel they have been moved over to the right. Not by their own violation but because of the shift in the goalposts/ the sliding scale.

Edit to say it almost feels like it's a battle between common sense/ reality and the left sometimes.

So many of their arguments are rooted in non tangible things driven by emotion and feelings. Which are important of course, but we cannot base rules, laws and legislation on feelings because they vary so much from person to person. We need to stick to science, facts and statistics.

Additup · 16/07/2026 11:00

That's a lot of words to say you really didn't like Ann Widdecombe and you're glad she's dead but its okay for you to speak ill of the dead because she was was a nasty right winger and you're a lovely lefty.

Go and polish your halo OP and while you're at it try and learn some class.

Seethlaw · 16/07/2026 11:02

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/07/2026 10:58

Going to need to see a citation for that claim about JKR. Otherwise, I think you should probably retract it.

I asked for it - twice. Nothing so far. You'd think it would be easy, if she does it "incessantly"...

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/07/2026 11:03

You’d think.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/07/2026 11:04

Also, while we’re on that topic, women who enable men who claim to be women to shit on other women are the most cringeworthy “pick mes” of all time.

TempestTost · 16/07/2026 11:08

Genericfestiveusername · 16/07/2026 10:58

I'm not sure I agree that disagreeing with someone's fundamental existence isn't hateful. To me my sexuality isn't an opinion of a lifestyle, it's there whether you live it or not. Disagreeing with something fundamental or suggesting or hoping it should be cured isn't neutral or loving, and is hateful to imo, because its completely rooted in the christian logic of "hating the sin not the sinner" which is how the defenses of her opinions sound here, "she hated my sexuality but not me" and I'm quite surprised that women especially queer women would give such an old fashioned patriarchal agenda the time of day. It's fine to admit her opinions were our of date, completely unfactual discriminatory and hateful without agreeing with murder.

Who is disagreeing with anyone's "fundamental existence"?

I am quite sure that is something that AW would not have agreed with, it would be very much against her religious convictions and every actual interaction she ever seemed to have with people.

Shortshriftandlethal · 16/07/2026 11:10

YourHateIsShowing · 16/07/2026 08:41

The Daily Express and others claiming the reaction to Ann Widdecombe’s death has somehow “exposed the left” as hateful, is nonsense as usual.

There is hate on the left. Without question. There’s also hate on the right. There are totally extreme nut jobs on both sides, too. Neither side has a total monopoly on either. But I think it’s pretty lazy to not see past the noise and understand the origin of hatred on any side of conflict. Context is everything. And most can agree with that when it comes to certain situations. As a mother, I understand the hatred a mother would feel towards a drunk driver who ended their child’s life through one careless selfish decision to drive home from the pub intoxicated. Or for worse crimes we know exist. I’m using these examples simply to make the case that our value systems should be consistent. Not to imply the level of harm is the same in all cases. That would be an overreach.

Ann Widdecombe was a deeply controversial politician. She was unapologetic about her views on immigration, LGBTQ+ rights, welfare and poverty. I remember her response when challenged about people who couldn’t afford a cheese sandwich: her answer amounted to, “Don’t have a cheese sandwich then.” I’ve watched her for years as a speaker on right wing conservative talking points; she dedicated her life to politics, but very often in ways that supported the structural degradation of groups of already marginalised people in society. So I loathed what she stood for and I make no secret of that.
And why should others who were actually targeted or harmed by the spread of her views suddenly be expected to pretend she was a saint because of what happened to her? Or be quiet? Widdecombe was anything a saint and anything but quiet throughout her political career. Death doesn’t erase public record.

What I will say though, is this: what happened to her was awful. Abhorrent. What happened was utterly disgusting, AND so were her views on a lot of things. Views that had influence. That doesn’t mean she deserved what happened to her. I feel for her, and her family. She would have been scared. She has my empathy for that. In spades. But I certainly don’t think others who were the focus of her intolerance should be expected to rewrite history or suppress honest criticism of the suffering she supported within society, out of respect for some weird convention that says we should only speak well of the dead. I don’t buy into that.

I’m sure Ann loved her family, had close friends, and watered all her house plants. I don’t see the world in terms of heroes and villains. We can be either at any time under different circumstances. But for those who’ve maybe read 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, you may also find truth in the words of Covey who said “we are what we repeatedly do”. If you repeatedly lie, guess what? You’re a liar.

There’s truth in that, even though I mostly see people on a spectrum and not in the binary. I still see the small compounding decisions they repeatedly make, and more importantly how those decisions impact others. We can also accept conflicting ideas, where good people commit a bad act, for good reason. It’s complicated.
But overall, some people leave the world a tiny bit kinder, fairer and more compassionate as a result of those compounding decisions met with their sphere of influence. Others leave it more divided, more fearful or less equal. Most of us fall somewhere in between. And most have little influence outside our immediate circle.
Ann had more than the average bod, so I hold her and other public figures to a higher standard. She didn’t stack up, for me.

Ann Widdecombe accepted and even defended policy that saw totally unnecessary poverty and hunger (children included), in the 6th richest country in the world. She stood against abortion in cases of rape. And she consistently fought against gay rights. She repeatedly contributed to this. This is who she was. What she stood for. And what those who support her stand for.

So what the right read as hatred among the left today, in the wake of this awful event that brought her world views into sharp focus, I read as an intolerance not of her skin colour, or her sexual orientation, or her nationality, but of all she stood for and against; all she was intolerant of in people without choices.

Karl Popper’s paradox of tolerance explains this best, I think. If you’ve not come across it, it’s essentially characterised by an intolerance of intolerance itself. The difference is this: to be intolerant of someone’s skin colour, ethnicity, or other things they cannot change, such as their sexual orientation, or even level of poverty, certainly if you’re still a child born into it, is not the same as having an intolerance of those who punch down at them from a place of privilege.

Ann Widdecombe was openly homophobic and believed science should one day cure it, as if being gay were a disease to be eradicated. That’s a profound intolerance of something people cannot change. The same cannot be said of a worldview built on prejudice, bigotry or theocratic ideology. Those are beliefs. They’re decisions. They can be questioned, challenged and changed. Even after death. And if she and others like her directed more of their intolerance towards harmful ideas, rather than towards people for who they are, and for that which they cannot change, we’d have less hatred on both sides. But the root of that hatred, is glaringly obvious when you actually take the time to analyse it. Spoiler alert: it’s not coming from the left.

So this headline can get in the bin.
Where it belongs.

You have no idea how Ann Widdicombe talked to and treated people who were gay, or who disagreed with her religious beliefs, in her everyday life.

The measure of someone is in how they treat other people they come into contact with and in how they talk about other people.....not in the political views they hold.

Holding to the 'correct' or 'righteous' political views is no guarantee that you will treat other people with compassion or respect in your daily life; or be tolerant towards those that disagree with you. In fact some of the most intolerant and vitriolic and hateful behaviour is often displayed that those proclaim the 'correct' or righteous views.

Be the change you want to see. Don't preach it.

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 16/07/2026 11:13

"...isn't neutral or loving,.."

And if it isn't either of these it must be hateful, not disrespectful, or rude, impolite, or even pompous but straight to hateful.

Seethlaw · 16/07/2026 11:14

Genericfestiveusername · 16/07/2026 10:58

I'm not sure I agree that disagreeing with someone's fundamental existence isn't hateful. To me my sexuality isn't an opinion of a lifestyle, it's there whether you live it or not. Disagreeing with something fundamental or suggesting or hoping it should be cured isn't neutral or loving, and is hateful to imo, because its completely rooted in the christian logic of "hating the sin not the sinner" which is how the defenses of her opinions sound here, "she hated my sexuality but not me" and I'm quite surprised that women especially queer women would give such an old fashioned patriarchal agenda the time of day. It's fine to admit her opinions were our of date, completely unfactual discriminatory and hateful without agreeing with murder.

I don't see someone disagreeing with something I am or do, as disagreeing with my fundamental existence - unless they are calling for my outright death. As long as it's, "I don't think this is okay, but I respect your legal right to do it anyway," it's not hateful to me. Hate only comes in when they go, "You should be officially punished for it, and I will campaign for that."

Genericfestiveusername · 16/07/2026 11:17

TempestTost · 16/07/2026 11:08

Who is disagreeing with anyone's "fundamental existence"?

I am quite sure that is something that AW would not have agreed with, it would be very much against her religious convictions and every actual interaction she ever seemed to have with people.

Uhh by literally arguing science could hopefully cure them? As though there's something wrong with someone being homosexual, as well as being active in blocking our right to marry. I see it the same a misogynist arguing they don't disagree or hate the existence of women, if you impose enough restrictions on women and perpetuate misogyny, you really can't claim to not hate women's existence you just believe xyz.