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Guardian: weaponised emotional blackmail from 14yo 'trans' athlete

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teawamutu · Yesterday 17:40

The Guardian's rearguard action on reality continues. Apparently the problem is not the parents and authorities who conspired to lie to this boy, coddle his delusions, disadvantage all girls around him in the service of his own wishful thinking etc etc etc: it's definitely the people who pointed it out:
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/jun/17/trans-athlete-no-one-should-face-vicious-attacks

I am prepared to feel a little sorry for the kid, who couldn't have been exposed like this if the useful idiots around him had done their fucking jobs. But the Grauniad can fuck off with the tired 'beee kiiiind' shit as a solution. Been there, binned the t-shirt. We want our shit back.

I’m a 14-year-old trans athlete. No one should face the vicious attacks I have faced | Lina Haaga

People understand gender differently, and I was taught to respect all ideas. But the vitriol I recently experienced was not a healthy debate

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/jun/17/trans-athlete-no-one-should-face-vicious-attacks

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EvieBB · Today 02:30

Heggettypeg · Today 02:05

The question is: what definition of "a girl" is he using and where (and whom) was he getting it from?
Depending on what narrative he's absorbed, he could have reached different conclusions about himself.
"Boy's body but likes girls' company and typically girlish activities" could be interpreted as "boy with fairly unusual tastes, but nonetheless a boy", or "really a girl and born in the wrong body". People don't explain themselves to themselves in a vacuum.

Great post:)
Yes, absolutely agree.
Of course, its vital to explore all possible narratives to ensure that the correct conclusion is reached :)

QldGCandproud · Today 05:42

DumpyVictoria · Yesterday 19:54

That's a false equivalence. Your anaconda is not telling you it's a gerbil, is it? It's not saying it has a gerbil's brain inside an anaconda's body and, as a result, knows it's a gerbil despite the anaconda casing.

In the unlikely event that an anaconda told me that it was really a gerbil inside but had the wrong body, I would believe the anaconda. I would get the anaconda an appropriately-sized gerbil wheel and some gerbil friends. That would be the kind and humane way to treat a trans-gerbil, whether you believe the anaconda or not.

HTH

Did you really just say that? 🤣🤣🤣

QldGCandproud · Today 05:52

DumpyVictoria · Yesterday 20:17

Because skin colour is purely a matter of melanin. Gender is much more complex than that and involves hormones, brain chemistry, brain structure, and the intersection of all those things with psychology.

Oh, so you're an evolutionary biologist then? Please direct me to one of your most recent publications?

Seethlaw · Today 06:05

DumpyVictoria · Yesterday 19:47

For as long as I can remember, I have known I am a girl. That certainty is as instinctive as knowing I am right-handed. It is difficult to explain to someone who has never been transgender or loved someone who is, but I have never lived this way to gain an advantage or take something from someone else. I live this way to honor what I know is true.

Transgirls are who they say they are. No one has the right to tell them who they are or aren't. She says she's a girl. Very obviously, her brain and body do not match up.

You might not like that they exist, you might deny their existence, but that doesn't make it true. Transgirls and transwomen do exist, and they just want to be left alone to live in their preferred gender in peace, same as us ciswomen. It must be hard when you were AMAB but are in fact female.

Transgirls and transwomen do exist, and they just want to be left alone to live in their preferred gender in peace, same as us ciswomen.

But in return, they must let women and girls alone too, which is what this one didn't do, by stealing a girl's spot on the race and a girl's victory. If you want peace, you must give peace too.

Soontobe60 · Today 06:06

DumpyVictoria · Yesterday 20:33

No, because those are crimes, and feeling that you're a woman even if AMAB is not a crime, is it?

What does ‘feeling like a woman’ mean?

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · Today 06:11

A certain poster sounds like a King-size Troll, I think you've all been had.

Soontobe60 · Today 06:19

DumpyVictoria · Yesterday 21:02

I found something that says she's saving up for top and bottom surgery.

Let’s not use euphemisms here. He’s saving up for silicone implants in his chest and removal of his genitals. That will make him an infertile man unable to father children, to have sex (but that’s ok because the cross sex hormones he takes will have stopped any sex drive he may have had), and give him a lifelong wound in his perineum. None of the above will make him female. It will, however, make him a eunuch.

Seethlaw · Today 06:23

DumpyVictoria · Yesterday 20:31

There are lots of different types of girls and women. Cis, demi-girl, non-binary, and lots of others.

The fact that those other genders exist doesn't take away from the existence of AFAB people.

Although I suppose it does, if you don't believe that trans people are who they say they are.

But why anyone would persist so strongly in refusing to believe that some people are who they say they are, I don't know. I don't know why it's so very hard to believe that sometimes the brain and the body don't match up. Male and female hormones drive so much of our behaviours and preferences and those hormones flood our brains. I don't know why it's so hard to accept that some people have the set-up of the other sex inside, and therefore feel exactly like a member of the opposite sex even if the body says otherwise, and how painful it must be to live in that disconnect.

I'm one of those people. My body is female, but for whatever reason, my brain sees it as male.

Thing is: my body is still female. Whatever my brain thinks, doesn't change that reality. My brain abberrantly seeing my body with narrow hips doesn't change the fact that my body has large hips. My brain thinking I "should" be male, doesn't change the fact that I'm female.

I'm female. I'll never be male. That is reality. That is the truth. And it's really not the end of the world.

It's people like you who make it hard for all those trans kids to accept who they are, by insisting that if they and everyone else really, truly believed very, very hard, then they could in fact become the other sex. That will never be true, and you should be ashamed of peddling such a hurtful lie, which prevents those kids from ever finding peace and fully accepting who they are, in all their complexity.

Lifelover16 · Today 06:25

DumpyVictoria · Yesterday 20:35

I think it's a matter of hormones and brain chemistry rather than thinking. Trans women tend to talk about FEELING as if they're female, rather than THINKING themselves into it.

And how do they know how a woman feels? They are men.

Seethlaw · Today 06:29

DumpyVictoria · Yesterday 20:42

No, because they are criminals.

Ah. The good old, "Only good trans people get to have their trans identity respected." I think it's the third time I've seen this argument put forward in one way or another, in as many days, on this forum. This new breed of TRAs don't seem to realise how deeply transphobic they are.

Soontobe60 · Today 06:30

DumpyVictoria · Yesterday 21:36

Since they are criminals who are convicted of rape, they've forfeited their right to be believed that they are who they say they are.

Hahahaha! Bingo!
You've just blown your whole argument that TWAW out of the water here dear. Did you know that within the female prison estate there are women who have murdered others, who have committed horrific acts of violence? But we don’t say ‘oh, you’ve done this terrible crime so we can’t lock you up with other women’? Do you think they couldn’t possibly be women in view of their crimes?
An acquaintance of mine was attacked by a man in a shop for men cosplaying at being women. He attempted to rape her. He was imprisoned in the female estate then benefitted from surgery at the tax payers expense - breast implants and laser hair removal. He then went on to become a darling of the Labour Party with his photo taken in parliament. Meanwhile, she still suffers panic attacks years after. Will never trust men again. Cannot be intimate with men. Her life is in tatters. All because society panders to men with fetishes.

news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/manchester/3161209.stm

https://www.thenorthernecho.co.uk/news/7119186.transsexual-locked-killing-lover/

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-5440153/Trans-convict-invited-speak-House-Lords.html

Transsexual locked up for killing lover

A TEENAGE transsexual was locked up yesterday after he admitted killing his gay lover in a row over a sex change operation.

https://www.thenorthernecho.co.uk/news/7119186.transsexual-locked-killing-lover/

WerewolfOfLoudon · Today 06:44

DumpyVictoria · Yesterday 19:59

Or....you could believe that transfolk are who they say they are, and if you did, all the things you mention would make a lot more sense to you.

Denying their reality is a bit hateful, tbh.

Like Isla Bryson, "Paula" Stanton, Jessica Smith, Ciara Watkins, Alexandra Stewart or Serenity Johnston?

Seethlaw · Today 06:46

Pingponghavoc · Yesterday 21:06

You have to worry about people who not only believe 4 year olds theories, but encourage them to live by them as they grow up.

You know... That's kind of terrifying to me. Because I absolutely was a trans kid, who thought I should have been a boy. And the idea that I might have said so at the age of 4, when I don't remember anything about being 4, and then my entire life would have been completely altered because of something I wouldn't even remember saying... Yeah, it's terrifying. The idea that my mother, my family, my teachers, my doctors, everyone, would have encouraged me to believe that I would grow up to have a male body, that I just had to take pills and then undergo massive surgeries, and I would, one day, finally, have a male body, a male life, just like other boys... It's absolutely terrifying to me.

And then! Then to slowly realise, as I grew up and went through those steps, that people had LIED to me, and that I would in fact NEVER have a male body, that I would NEVER have a functioning penis, that I would NEVER be able to become a biological father... Ugh! That part is pure nightmare fuel. Realising that everyone LIED to me, my loved ones, my trusted ones, and that they supposedly did it out of LOVE, so I can't even express how fucking betrayed and HURT I am in the end...

Wow. I had a truly shitty childhood. I often tell myself that, "It could have been worse still!" But the idea that it could have been THAT worse, just because of something I might have said at the age of FOUR, chills me to the bones.

EvieBB · Today 06:55

Ereshkigalangcleg · Today 00:58

The adults in his life should have told him he couldn’t be a girl, because he is a boy. Rather than indulging misogynistic nonsense.

Why? I strongly believe there ARE cases where your body and brain do not match up. Even historical texts show that - most notably Indian texts.
Why is it misogynistic for you body and brain to not be aligned? What an odd thing to say. It's just a fact. It's physiology. All sorts of "mistakes" can happen when the embryo is forming.

I went to school with a 'girl' who was intersex .....she literally had a cross between a penis and a clitoris. Shit happens. Rarely of course. But it happens. You could clearly see she was neither a boy or a girl but chose to wear a skirt and identify as female (and had a female partner after leaving school). I knew this because I was friends with her brother.
FWIW I still strongly believe in safe spaces for women and do not think that biological males should be able to compete alongside women

EvieBB · Today 06:59

QldGCandproud · Today 05:42

Did you really just say that? 🤣🤣🤣

😂 BUT it's a fair point!....and humane

EvieBB · Today 07:04

Seethlaw · Today 06:46

You know... That's kind of terrifying to me. Because I absolutely was a trans kid, who thought I should have been a boy. And the idea that I might have said so at the age of 4, when I don't remember anything about being 4, and then my entire life would have been completely altered because of something I wouldn't even remember saying... Yeah, it's terrifying. The idea that my mother, my family, my teachers, my doctors, everyone, would have encouraged me to believe that I would grow up to have a male body, that I just had to take pills and then undergo massive surgeries, and I would, one day, finally, have a male body, a male life, just like other boys... It's absolutely terrifying to me.

And then! Then to slowly realise, as I grew up and went through those steps, that people had LIED to me, and that I would in fact NEVER have a male body, that I would NEVER have a functioning penis, that I would NEVER be able to become a biological father... Ugh! That part is pure nightmare fuel. Realising that everyone LIED to me, my loved ones, my trusted ones, and that they supposedly did it out of LOVE, so I can't even express how fucking betrayed and HURT I am in the end...

Wow. I had a truly shitty childhood. I often tell myself that, "It could have been worse still!" But the idea that it could have been THAT worse, just because of something I might have said at the age of FOUR, chills me to the bones.

Yeah of course that would be crazy! If my 4 yr old said such a thing I would absolutely presume it was just a phase or just a child being a child who didn't yet know themselves.....I would certainly not encourage anything ... BUT if ten years down they were still insisting they had been born in the wrong body and felt suicidal as as result I think I'd have to listen to them....

EvieBB · Today 07:07

QldGCandproud · Today 05:52

Oh, so you're an evolutionary biologist then? Please direct me to one of your most recent publications?

You don't have to be a scientist to have empathy believe that some kids feel suicidal because they truly feel their bodies and brains don't align 🙄

SinnerBoy · Today 07:09

DumpyVictoria · Yesterday 20:14

You hate being referred to as a ciswoman, well, that's how transgirls and transwomen must feel when they're referred to as men.

Cis, in this case, is a confected term, coined by activists, with no meaning in the real world; it's irrelevant and unnecessary.

Trans "girls" and "women" are boys and men, it's accurate and true to describe them thusly. Nobody is required to lie and pretend that TIMs are female, fortunately.

TheKeatingFive · Today 07:14

EvieBB · Today 07:07

You don't have to be a scientist to have empathy believe that some kids feel suicidal because they truly feel their bodies and brains don't align 🙄

The only reason they feel they their 'bodies and brain don't align' is because people like you have fed them that.

Its natural to feel uncomfortable with aspects of your own body. Telling children that that's because they were born 'wrong' is stupid and dangerous.

loislovesstewie · Today 07:15

EvieBB · Today 06:55

Why? I strongly believe there ARE cases where your body and brain do not match up. Even historical texts show that - most notably Indian texts.
Why is it misogynistic for you body and brain to not be aligned? What an odd thing to say. It's just a fact. It's physiology. All sorts of "mistakes" can happen when the embryo is forming.

I went to school with a 'girl' who was intersex .....she literally had a cross between a penis and a clitoris. Shit happens. Rarely of course. But it happens. You could clearly see she was neither a boy or a girl but chose to wear a skirt and identify as female (and had a female partner after leaving school). I knew this because I was friends with her brother.
FWIW I still strongly believe in safe spaces for women and do not think that biological males should be able to compete alongside women

'History' also thought that some people were witches, were in league with the devil and could do magic. Now we know that doesn't happen. BTW 3rd sexes in India were actually effeminate men who were allowed to wear female clothing and prostitute themselves. It wasn't done due to concern, it was making use of them, in reality they were despised.

loislovesstewie · Today 07:16

loislovesstewie · Today 07:15

'History' also thought that some people were witches, were in league with the devil and could do magic. Now we know that doesn't happen. BTW 3rd sexes in India were actually effeminate men who were allowed to wear female clothing and prostitute themselves. It wasn't done due to concern, it was making use of them, in reality they were despised.

Edited to say intersex isn't used as a term. It's DSD.

TheKeatingFive · Today 07:17

EvieBB · Today 01:07

Do you think so? Did his parents lie to him though? Maybe they just allowed him to feel however he felt...and over the years those feelings didn't change.
I don't know....
I think kids tend to know their own minds by the age of about 10 so if he still felt like a girl, perhaps he really was born in the wrong body.
I do think it's entirely possible you can have a difrently gendered brain that doesn't align with your physical genetics.
Having said that, I also feel strongly for the rights of women.
I feel that there should be separate toilets and chaning room spaces for 'transgenders'.
I certainly don't agree that biological boys should be allowed to compete against girls (however they feel inside). Absolutely unfair to women.
Thankfully my two DDs are girly girls and love being girls and feel like girls etc.
But if this was different I would have kept an open mind and not 'affirmed' anything either way - I would just let my child be themselves...and see how things developed for them. ...I would wait and see if it was a phase or not....so hopefully I wouldn't have influenced them either way...just allowed them to work things out for themselves. I don't think we give kids sufficient credit for knowing their own minds.
Just my opinion...just a thought...

What is a 'gendered brain'?

How did this differently 'gendered brain' finc itself in the 'wrong body'?

Where is the right body?

Seethlaw · Today 07:18

EvieBB · Today 07:04

Yeah of course that would be crazy! If my 4 yr old said such a thing I would absolutely presume it was just a phase or just a child being a child who didn't yet know themselves.....I would certainly not encourage anything ... BUT if ten years down they were still insisting they had been born in the wrong body and felt suicidal as as result I think I'd have to listen to them....

Yeah. Except that's not what happens, is it? That's not what happened in this case, and it's not what happens in the case of all those kids who "discover" it at a very young age, and are encouraged, and taken to a gender clinic at the age of 8 or something. My nightmare is what happens to these kids, so it's no wonder they become suicidal later on.

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · Today 07:19

EvieBB · Today 07:04

Yeah of course that would be crazy! If my 4 yr old said such a thing I would absolutely presume it was just a phase or just a child being a child who didn't yet know themselves.....I would certainly not encourage anything ... BUT if ten years down they were still insisting they had been born in the wrong body and felt suicidal as as result I think I'd have to listen to them....

Better a live 'trans' child than a dead child, right. 🤯

Elbreth · Today 07:21

DumpyVictoria · Yesterday 20:17

Because skin colour is purely a matter of melanin. Gender is much more complex than that and involves hormones, brain chemistry, brain structure, and the intersection of all those things with psychology.

Wow, you're very confused. Do you think race does not intersect with psychology? Do you think race and skin colour are the same thing? Why are you reducing race to "melanin" for the sake of your argument? It is far more complex than that. Rachel Dolezal did not pretend to have darker skin than she does. She pretended to be a black woman. Race is a construct, like gender.
Skin colour is a biological fact, like sex.

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