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Continuation of Polypostwonder thread

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Imdunfer · 02/06/2026 07:55

Follow on from this thread

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5532352-the-liminality-of-sex-perception-sex-based-spaces-and-bodily-autonomy?page=39

For argument sake, I understand Blaire White to be a woman. This is independent of the knowledge she chose to only undergo cosmetic facial surgeries and breast augmentation, while retaining everything else.
I think I remember reading that she politically aligns 'right' and is politically vocal about being a male, living as a trans woman. I'm not 100% sure, though. It's not a way that I could understand living, but it is financially lucrative in her case.

There is a person who declares themselves to be male.

That person chooses to live presenting as a female.

In spite of their self declaration as a male, complete with male genitals, you understand that they are a woman.

And you ascribe their understanding of themselves being male, at least partly, to financial motives.

This is either monumentally arrogant or monumentally stupid thinking, or possibly both. Or perhaps you just like playing with a largely female forum and seeing how many feathers you can ruffle.

One thing is for sure, and that is that I don't think anything you write on this subject from now on is going to be of any value to read.

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polypostwonder · 07/06/2026 19:27

Helleofabore · 07/06/2026 19:24

At least you are now honest in saying you started estrogen MID PUBERTY.

Meaning you experienced partial if not full male puberty. Despite telling us months ago you did not have any male puberty at all despite being in your mid teens.

It isn't anything different than what I've said before. Nothing in the way of sex development happened to my body until after I began taking oestrogen.

polypostwonder · 07/06/2026 19:31

Everyone else I knew was well into puberty by the time I observably started to mature. Even my younger brother.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 07/06/2026 19:35

polypostwonder · 07/06/2026 19:27

It isn't anything different than what I've said before. Nothing in the way of sex development happened to my body until after I began taking oestrogen.

Rubbish! Sex begins developing at the point of conception.

You've just admitted you went through puberty. You say you started taking oestrogen "mid-puberty".

What do you think puberty even is?

"almost immediately knocked my testosterone level to almost nothing"

Urm... I'm pretty sure someone would die if this were true, or at least be extremely, extremely unwell! I'm pretty sure @Helleofabore has a really helpful graphic for levels of testosterone that she normally has to break out when people try to say men with certain DSDs have testosterone "in the high female range", which funnily enough is also utter bullshit!

Helleofabore · 07/06/2026 19:36

polypostwonder · 07/06/2026 19:27

It isn't anything different than what I've said before. Nothing in the way of sex development happened to my body until after I began taking oestrogen.

As people have told you before, changes would have been happening to your body that you will not have noticed or remembered. You just said you were in mid puberty.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 07/06/2026 19:40

polypostwonder · 07/06/2026 19:31

Everyone else I knew was well into puberty by the time I observably started to mature. Even my younger brother.

Some people are late starters. Again, (and if true), not particularly special.

@FlirtsWithRhinos One for the book.

"Observably start to mature". Otherwise known as puberty. Used by certain trans identified males who don't like to acknowledge the p-word or its effects on them.

polypostwonder · 07/06/2026 19:40

Helleofabore · 07/06/2026 19:36

As people have told you before, changes would have been happening to your body that you will not have noticed or remembered. You just said you were in mid puberty.

Mid-puberty was well before tanner stage three.

ETA: Above is male... And for symmetry, concluded at female stage five.

murasaki · 07/06/2026 19:43

polypostwonder · 07/06/2026 19:40

Mid-puberty was well before tanner stage three.

ETA: Above is male... And for symmetry, concluded at female stage five.

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What on earth is female stage 5, have I achieved it yet?

CohensDiamondTeeth · 07/06/2026 19:48

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polypostwonder · 07/06/2026 19:58

And?

My puberty was different. Whether I disclose specific details or not doesn't change its affect on my body and how people treat me based on my body.

murasaki · 07/06/2026 19:59

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CohensDiamondTeeth · 07/06/2026 20:04

polypostwonder · 07/06/2026 19:58

And?

My puberty was different. Whether I disclose specific details or not doesn't change its affect on my body and how people treat me based on my body.

Not really all that different in that you went "mid-way" through male puberty.

But you are correct, it doesn't matter if you disclose specific details or not, because the effects on your body of the male puberty that you did in fact go through remains unchanged.

Another thing that remains unchanged is that you've changed your story from saying you didn't go through male puberty at all, to now admitting that you went "mid-way" through puberty. The politest way to describe that is unreliable narration.

Helleofabore · 07/06/2026 20:18

polypostwonder · 07/06/2026 19:40

Mid-puberty was well before tanner stage three.

ETA: Above is male... And for symmetry, concluded at female stage five.

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https://laboratories.newcastle-hospitals.nhs.uk/test-directory/testosterone-serum/

Testosterone

Male Tanner Stages (7-18 years):
Stage 1: <1.0 nmol/L
Stage 2: <15.0 nmol/L
Stage 3: 2.3 – 27.0 nmol/L
Stage 4: 6.2 – 26.5 nmol/L
Stage 5: 6.5 – 30.6 nmol/L

Female Tanner Stages (7-18 years):
Stage 1: <1.0 nmol/L
Stage 2: <1.0 nmol/L
Stage 3: <1.0 nmol/L
Stage 4: <1.0 nmol/L
Stage 5: <1.3 nmol/L

Care to keep denying that you had a male body producing testosterone at male levels before you started to take estrogen?

Testosterone, serum - Newcastle Hospitals Laboratories

Clinical background: Testosterone is the major androgen in males and is controlled by luteinising hormone (LH). LH is released from the anterior pituitary exerting the primary control on testosterone production and acting directly on the Leydig cells i...

https://laboratories.newcastle-hospitals.nhs.uk/test-directory/testosterone-serum

Helleofabore · 07/06/2026 20:19

CohensDiamondTeeth · 07/06/2026 20:04

Not really all that different in that you went "mid-way" through male puberty.

But you are correct, it doesn't matter if you disclose specific details or not, because the effects on your body of the male puberty that you did in fact go through remains unchanged.

Another thing that remains unchanged is that you've changed your story from saying you didn't go through male puberty at all, to now admitting that you went "mid-way" through puberty. The politest way to describe that is unreliable narration.

Another thing that remains unchanged is that you've changed your story from saying you didn't go through male puberty at all, to now admitting that you went "mid-way" through puberty. The politest way to describe that is unreliable narration.

yep.

ArabellaScott · 07/06/2026 20:20

Helleofabore · 07/06/2026 20:18

https://laboratories.newcastle-hospitals.nhs.uk/test-directory/testosterone-serum/

Testosterone

Male Tanner Stages (7-18 years):
Stage 1: <1.0 nmol/L
Stage 2: <15.0 nmol/L
Stage 3: 2.3 – 27.0 nmol/L
Stage 4: 6.2 – 26.5 nmol/L
Stage 5: 6.5 – 30.6 nmol/L

Female Tanner Stages (7-18 years):
Stage 1: <1.0 nmol/L
Stage 2: <1.0 nmol/L
Stage 3: <1.0 nmol/L
Stage 4: <1.0 nmol/L
Stage 5: <1.3 nmol/L

Care to keep denying that you had a male body producing testosterone at male levels before you started to take estrogen?

Gosh look at that. T is a hell of a hormone.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 07/06/2026 20:30

Ha ha! I had my satirical post deleted. Oh well, never mind. I amuse myself at least! 😂

Still though, no one in the history of human kind has ever literally changed sex, or been given pills by the doctor which allow them to magically go through the opposite sex puberty.

And male children have physical advantages during pre-pubescence in comparison to female children, which then increase during puberty.

Not everyone is a fan of reality and facts, but they remain, nonetheless, unchanged 😂

Catiette · 07/06/2026 20:34

JanesLittleGirl · 06/06/2026 22:24

To summarise: My 'objective' is actually my 'subjective'. Sorry for any confusion.

Absolutely.

What PPW wrote:

Objectively, I am a woman. I live life every day as I have for decades. Subjectively, in this space, you call me a man. This is because you have taken ownership of the word woman under gender critical beliefs and define it in such a way as it reinforces your beliefs and removes trans women, specifically.

and

My use of 'objective' and 'subjective' above was in reference to my life as a woman, discussed on this website. It wasn't meant to be a 'trans-inclusive' definition.

Either you don't understand what "objective" means, or (we could say), you've "taken ownership of the word objective under your own beliefs and defined it in such a way as it reinforces your beliefs".

Applying this word to individual circumstances and to hell with its actual (objective!) meaning exemplifies what's frightening about this ideology. It feels almost nihilistically individualistic.

murasaki · 07/06/2026 20:34

You amused me.

murasaki · 07/06/2026 20:35

I appear to have been deleted for nothing more than a grammatical correction, which is odd.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 07/06/2026 20:39

murasaki · 07/06/2026 20:35

I appear to have been deleted for nothing more than a grammatical correction, which is odd.

Thank you! (takes a tiny bow) 😂

Oh, has the reporting started? It must not be fun winding up the wims anymore.

At least I actually did something a bit naughty that warranted deletion! I think it was worth it 😂

Maybe you could ask for your post to be reinstated? I can't think of anything you've said that would break guidelines!

Catiette · 07/06/2026 20:44

polypostwonder · 06/06/2026 22:00

You're pretty clear here and elsewhere that your "trans-inclusive" definition stands - it's "objective" and ours is "subjective". You're also consistently clear that this is the basis on which you understand yourself to be a woman - you're seen as one by everyone else. Woman is, to paraphrase you elsewhere, socially/culturally constructed.

My use of 'objective' and 'subjective' above was in reference to my life as a woman, discussed on this website. It wasn't meant to be a 'trans-inclusive' definition.

I base my understanding about myself on my experiences, my socialisation, the way I am limited, the obstacles I've had to overcome, the way I am included. This is amongst knowing how I feel about my experiences and how my feelings and my experiences are shared with friends, relatives, colleagues—everyone I share a relationship with. This is consistent across every culture I've been in, in many countries. My experience and existence doesn't change at borders. That would be really weird.

Your "objective" feels like a weak point in the argument. Acknowledging fallibility - anticipating counter-arguments - often strengthens an argument (proverbs about willows bending in the wind or whatever). Certainty in the context of a claim about a word's meaning globally and throughout human history (and which has just been clarified in UK law and is the subject of heated national debate) does make the claim look a bit suspect.

I stated on the first page of this thread, I believe 'woman' can include trans women, but is not all-encompassing. I believe there is a very large social aspect to this, but it isn't just showing up. It isn't 'passing' or the clothing destination, which these discussions always return.

I don't believe my beliefs should be enforced any more than any others. I don't even think I can represent any specific boundaries around it, because I don't think about it. It might be a visceral reaction? It may be a rationalisation? It would definitely be case-by-case rather than a rule. It's definitely not a measurable quantity of 'something.'

I've also said that I believe defining sex by biology cannot work because 'woman' and 'man' have very social and cultural meanings that may not be the first definition, are understood to be relationship-based, social-role based, and identify-based. Denying the other uses serves to shut down discussion. For example, I've met more than a few trans men who told me how they struggled with men actually treating them like men. I'm assuming men aren't thinking about gametes here.

Do you really believe that, in a majority of countries and contexts now, and throughout human history, a woman dressed as a man and subsequently discovered to be female would be met with the reassuring cry of, "Oh, yes, he's definitely a man - he's wearing trousers, after all!" Take what example you will - the apocryphal Pope Joan, the girls who've disguised themselves as boys in wartime to protect themselves from rape only to be "uncovered"...

No.

Are you honestly saying that, for the entirety of human history and, indeed, across the world now, the discovery of what was beneath their clothes would be met with an immediate and ringing endorsement of their initial outward appearance and behaviour - of the first impression they created before the truth was revealed? "Oops, sorry, my lad. Off you go now!" or "What a man that pope was!"

No.

How does your (emphatically objective) definition hold up in this thought experiment, based on everything we know of human history?

Again, I wasn't using 'objective' and 'subjective' this way, but let's go with this...

Until modern medicine, the biology of sex was only 100% accurate when babies were born. Everything else was an assumption based on the beliefs and assumptions of who a woman or man looked like.

Today, cultures socially group men and women separately. This is largely biology-based, but not completely aligned with gender critical genetic beliefs.

So yes, there is some 'objective' and some 'subjective' in there, according to gender critical uses of sex-based definitions across human history to today.

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Thanks for replying in this detail but, to be completely honest, I couldn't follow quite a lot of this. I could guess at probable meanings, but so much of what you write - here and elsewhere - is semantically, grammatically and/or structurally ambiguous. You tend to compound abstraction on abstraction on abstraction to the point that it's impossible to pinpoint actual meaning and argument. I don't know to what extent this is conscious ploy or unconscious defence mechanism, but it works in the same way your misapplication of "objective" did. I'll read on to see what others make of it all, though.

murasaki · 07/06/2026 20:47

CohensDiamondTeeth · 07/06/2026 20:39

Thank you! (takes a tiny bow) 😂

Oh, has the reporting started? It must not be fun winding up the wims anymore.

At least I actually did something a bit naughty that warranted deletion! I think it was worth it 😂

Maybe you could ask for your post to be reinstated? I can't think of anything you've said that would break guidelines!

Nor can I. But I can't be bothered, it can sit as a deletion re correct grammar to show the pettiness of the reporter, I'm fine with that!

Catiette · 07/06/2026 20:55

polypostwonder · 06/06/2026 23:18

Your beliefs are strongly held and I recognise this.

I acknowledge the weight and relevance of biology you place into your belief in your definition of 'woman' and I assume 'man.'

I don't name 'woman' in the sense that you are suggesting, it is used upon me. I have no other culturally relevant word available to me that most accurately represents the cultural place I exist. The word has been used upon me since I transitioned decades ago. I see how the world also uses the word upon others and I recognise its use upon us. My access and place in the world is determined by the word as it has been since I was a teen. My life makes sense through the word. I don't control anyone's use of the word. I am not provided the opportunity to force anyone to use any other word. I am unable to find any example of how the use of the word upon me alters the use of the word upon you. Its use upon me does not prevent anyone else from using the word for you or any other woman. I have no control over their use of the word.

Expanding to my personal belief that 'woman' can also include some trans women. I acknowledge that this is also different than your belief, but I doubt my belief affects you personally or has an impact on the billions of other women in the world. I understand my belief is similar to that of other trans accepting women.

Edited

Reading on...

PPW, have you noticed the degree to which your posts are built on personal pronouns, and ours rather tend to explore the abstract - wider philosophical, ethical and logical arguments?

Have you at least considered that this could reflect how much wider - more "inclusive"! - and less "subjective" our focus is than your own?

Helleofabore · 07/06/2026 21:20

ArabellaScott · 07/06/2026 20:20

Gosh look at that. T is a hell of a hormone.

I know right...

Now we know the even a male person with 10 nmol/L will have a higher performance than a female athlete on average.

Imagine what months of higher testosterone exposure PLUS the exposure as an infant that the study has suggested is a part of the male children's performance advantage does to that base that female children start performance development from....

That base of average advantage just gets larger and larger for male children in 'mid puberty' the more we look into it.

Then there is the lack of reliability on the efficacy of the ability of drugs generally. We also know this because of the studies into those male people who suppress testosterone. We have the knowledge about artificial hormone supplements. Just like we know full well that the female contraceptive pill is not 100% reliable.

So, even though we are told by a poster who doesn't seem to understand female puberty that there really is a chance that there was even more testosterone exposure than they want to believe, the chances of the average male person NOT having a physical advantage over the average female person is getting rather minimal.

Remembering that we also only have a male person's word that they don't have any performance advantage. AND add that that performance advantage is likely to be underestimated just like those studies that we have seen by researchers who wish to show that male people with testosterone suppression have no advantages over female athletes OR because a male person's performance is conceptualised as being 'just like a female person's' because that is how they erroneously conceptualise female athletic performance.

All to declare that some particular male people (over the age of about 8 - 10 years old) are not a risk in female people's single sex provisions .....

Catiette · 07/06/2026 21:38

polypostwonder · 06/06/2026 23:57

I very much have personal experience with 'woman' as it applies to more than half of the population. Not one person, government or organisation has ever needed to know what my chromosomes are, my internal organs look like, what gametes my body was organised to support, or the status of any SRY genes.

I live under the same language, law and cultural beliefs. I am not above it, nor do I control it.

I very much have personal experience with 'woman' as it applies to more than half of the population. Not one person, government or organisation has ever needed to know what my chromosomes are, my internal organs look like, what gametes my body was organised to support, or the status of any SRY genes. I live under the same language, law and cultural beliefs. I am not above it, nor do I control it.

I do feel that things like this highlight how limited, privileged (and, ironically, sex-based) your conviction that there's no need for a shared noun for adult human females is.

Maybe think of it this way...

Your definition of "woman" liberates you to say, as you do here, that "I very much have personal experience with 'woman' as it applies to more than half of the population."

But you saying that renders the same phrase meaningless for nigh on all of the 4 billion women globally. Because, in their wonderful infinity of collective experience, they'd be mystified by what it could possibly mean.

Prior to your inclusion, of course, they'd have been perfectly clear: menstruation, a likely capacity for pregnancy for a proportion of their life, and menopause. With your inclusion, though? That's the silence of not far off 4 million women scratching their heads in bemusement as they try to work out what commonality could possibly unite them all outside of that. I mean, we're so wonderfully, fabulously, expansively different! What's left, besides biology, that doesn't flatten "woman" into unrepresentative homogeneity?

Your answer would be, I assume, "being seen and treated as women". And right there is the privilege. Because that's an extraordinarily dangerous definition that women simply can't afford. To be defined by how we're seen and treated? Really?! Look around you at the world today!

Your definition downplays the physical reality that is the axis of our shared oppression to indiscriminately embrace the very constructs which exploit that reality.

Your phrase "Not one person, government or organisation has ever needed to know what my chromosomes are, my internal organs look like, what gametes my body was organised to support, or the status of any SRY genes." is so extraordinarily and ironically revealing. We'd kill for this to be about some theoretical "knowledge" of our gametes and chromosomes etc. for us. If bloody only! For women, knowledge is irrelevant. Our life is the experience of living them. To misquote Descartes, We "know" because we are.

Your more liberal and liberating definition? Our prison.

Your conviction that women globally can afford (let alone want) to embrace woman-as-perception over retaining a shared word with which to name and resist the daily - hourly - challenges that unite us? Our evidence of your privilege.

murasaki · 07/06/2026 21:54

Catiette · 07/06/2026 21:38

I very much have personal experience with 'woman' as it applies to more than half of the population. Not one person, government or organisation has ever needed to know what my chromosomes are, my internal organs look like, what gametes my body was organised to support, or the status of any SRY genes. I live under the same language, law and cultural beliefs. I am not above it, nor do I control it.

I do feel that things like this highlight how limited, privileged (and, ironically, sex-based) your conviction that there's no need for a shared noun for adult human females is.

Maybe think of it this way...

Your definition of "woman" liberates you to say, as you do here, that "I very much have personal experience with 'woman' as it applies to more than half of the population."

But you saying that renders the same phrase meaningless for nigh on all of the 4 billion women globally. Because, in their wonderful infinity of collective experience, they'd be mystified by what it could possibly mean.

Prior to your inclusion, of course, they'd have been perfectly clear: menstruation, a likely capacity for pregnancy for a proportion of their life, and menopause. With your inclusion, though? That's the silence of not far off 4 million women scratching their heads in bemusement as they try to work out what commonality could possibly unite them all outside of that. I mean, we're so wonderfully, fabulously, expansively different! What's left, besides biology, that doesn't flatten "woman" into unrepresentative homogeneity?

Your answer would be, I assume, "being seen and treated as women". And right there is the privilege. Because that's an extraordinarily dangerous definition that women simply can't afford. To be defined by how we're seen and treated? Really?! Look around you at the world today!

Your definition downplays the physical reality that is the axis of our shared oppression to indiscriminately embrace the very constructs which exploit that reality.

Your phrase "Not one person, government or organisation has ever needed to know what my chromosomes are, my internal organs look like, what gametes my body was organised to support, or the status of any SRY genes." is so extraordinarily and ironically revealing. We'd kill for this to be about some theoretical "knowledge" of our gametes and chromosomes etc. for us. If bloody only! For women, knowledge is irrelevant. Our life is the experience of living them. To misquote Descartes, We "know" because we are.

Your more liberal and liberating definition? Our prison.

Your conviction that women globally can afford (let alone want) to embrace woman-as-perception over retaining a shared word with which to name and resist the daily - hourly - challenges that unite us? Our evidence of your privilege.

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As ever, you nail it.

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