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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Daughter in early 20s lonely due to GC views

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Currentquandry · 05/04/2026 02:10

My daughter is in her early twenties. She is GC and is struggling because so few of her peers have similar opinions. She is very lonely because of this. Are there any online groups she could join to give her a sense of community? She is also ND. Thank you in advance for your advice…

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Waitwhat23 · 06/04/2026 13:42

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:35

Or just be women who arent even trans but quietly use formal channels that create real change to overturn the ruling.

It's actually interesting that you say quietly change as that was the tactic as outlined in the Denton document.

Whereas, the women who fought for the Supreme Court judgement and did so through formal channels did it openly so the general public knew what was happening. They didn't rely on closed meeting lobbying or no debate.

Why do you think there is a difference between the two approaches?

spannasaurus · 06/04/2026 13:42

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:41

Yes it currently does.

Which law?

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:42

CornishDaughteroftheDawn · 06/04/2026 13:41

Repeating yourself with poor analogies doesn’t really help.

I notice you’ve skipped the questions I asked - is the woman you are talking about a racist? Why did you claim that the BAME women are not safe with her around?

Being ‘woman led’ is very different to ‘excluding everyone from even the practical discussions about the use of my valuable sound equipment with not so much as a thank you or a credit’.

Many people lending equipment, especially equipment that will likely need their input of setting up and taking down would want to be involved in discussions from a practical point of view.

Positioning of expensive equipment within the space to ensure it is kept safe, used properly and not damaged is important yet you’re criticising this woman for wanting involvement in the practicalities and then randomly accusing all white people of being racist. Maybe she’s got concerns at lending her things to people with such contempt for her based on the colour of her skin?

I can see you won't get this and this was my last attempt. Thankfully other women do..one gave an example of a man who threatened to withdraw his court action around some trans issue because GC women disagreed with him about something else.

You seem to the slowest one to understand.

Helleofabore · 06/04/2026 13:42

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:29

I dont think that will be the case. I think the law will eventually state, clearly, one way or the other, that trans people either are or are not their chosen sex and people who have a problem with that decision will be left to deal with their feelings.

The Supreme Court judgement did just this. The judgement stated that in regards to single sex provisions, sex is based on biological definition.

Part of the reason why is because you cannot protect something you cannot define. As gender identity has no biological marker, and is purely based on philosophical belief and one individual’s subjective reality which can change, it is not a reliable category to use to define sex at all for single sex provision.

If you choose to believe it will be different in the future, good for you. I believe that Australia is about to be the test for this and it is already being understood to have highly significant problems. For instance, how can they hold the 2032 Brisbane Olympics when the IOC has a policy that contradicts Australian law.

The legal implications are massive when gender is prioritised above sex category when sex matters.

SugarPuffSandwiches · 06/04/2026 13:43

These threads always go the same way, miles off topic as to what was originally asked and in the same usual trans circles.
I think these type of comments on this post shows it all really - if OP's DD is feeling isolated because she liked a few posts on social media, wanting to find a group of "like minded people" who think the same as her isn't really the way to go as it can just entrench people further.
Much healthier imo to expose yourself to a range of opinions, views on a topic instead.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:43

spannasaurus · 06/04/2026 13:42

Which law?

Which law are you going to point to that says TW are not W? I will point to the same one.

DialSquare · 06/04/2026 13:43

Surely the racist white women’s opinion is valid? Using the logic that all women’s opinions are valid.

Waitwhat23 · 06/04/2026 13:43

GailBlancheViola · 06/04/2026 13:37

Some women might disagree that trans women are male in any meaningful sense. So even if males are excluded, it won't include trans women.

They can disagree all they like, the law says different.

The number one criteria to be a transwoman is to be male.

The law and reality.

MarieDeGournay · 06/04/2026 13:44

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:34

Have they? Seems pretty murky to me. That's why I said that people have to hope things stay at least roughly the same.

“the words ‘sex’, ‘woman’ and ‘man… mean (and were always intended to mean) biological sex, biological woman and biological man.”
para 264 of Supreme Court judgement.
Murky?

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:44

Helleofabore · 06/04/2026 13:42

The Supreme Court judgement did just this. The judgement stated that in regards to single sex provisions, sex is based on biological definition.

Part of the reason why is because you cannot protect something you cannot define. As gender identity has no biological marker, and is purely based on philosophical belief and one individual’s subjective reality which can change, it is not a reliable category to use to define sex at all for single sex provision.

If you choose to believe it will be different in the future, good for you. I believe that Australia is about to be the test for this and it is already being understood to have highly significant problems. For instance, how can they hold the 2032 Brisbane Olympics when the IOC has a policy that contradicts Australian law.

The legal implications are massive when gender is prioritised above sex category when sex matters.

But there are issues with the wording of the ruling and it can be overturned in the future. That's why it's just what the law currently says IMO. Just like any laws, really.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:44

MarieDeGournay · 06/04/2026 13:44

“the words ‘sex’, ‘woman’ and ‘man… mean (and were always intended to mean) biological sex, biological woman and biological man.”
para 264 of Supreme Court judgement.
Murky?

In its entirety, the ruling is not entirely clear. Many people on all sides have said as much.

spannasaurus · 06/04/2026 13:44

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:43

Which law are you going to point to that says TW are not W? I will point to the same one.

Equality Act 2010
Gender recognition act (which provides for circumstances where HRC holders are to be treated as their actual sex)

spannasaurus · 06/04/2026 13:45

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:44

But there are issues with the wording of the ruling and it can be overturned in the future. That's why it's just what the law currently says IMO. Just like any laws, really.

Overturned by which court.

Shortshriftandlethal · 06/04/2026 13:46

SugarPuffSandwiches · 06/04/2026 11:15

I know humans can't literally change sex.
I've never claimed otherwise. So we're in agreement there

If you understand that then are you suggesting that we should all just pretend that they can - and that women should just pretend not to feel uncomfortable, compromised, insulted or threatened?

DialSquare · 06/04/2026 13:46

I will never understand the mental gymnastics some people will go through to prioritise men over women. Absolutely shameful. In my valid opinion.

SirChenjins · 06/04/2026 13:46

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:44

But there are issues with the wording of the ruling and it can be overturned in the future. That's why it's just what the law currently says IMO. Just like any laws, really.

What happens in the future is anyone's guess. The law now is clear (if you're familiar with it, that is).

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:46

DialSquare · 06/04/2026 13:43

Surely the racist white women’s opinion is valid? Using the logic that all women’s opinions are valid.

Which racist white woman?

If its the one in my example, no, her views on the BAME event were not valid.

If its the racist white lady in this thread, then yes her opinions on the trans women in women's spaces is equally valid. Her racism doesnt negate her womanhood. Being racist doesnt make you a man.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:47

SirChenjins · 06/04/2026 13:46

What happens in the future is anyone's guess. The law now is clear (if you're familiar with it, that is).

Thats why I said that people (here) have to hope things stay the same. Other women might be instrumental in changing things though because they don't agree with the ruling.

PrettyDamnCosmic · 06/04/2026 13:47

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:39

There is no pretzeling about it. You cant deny that a large amount of women are fully supportive of trans inclusion in single sex spaces as per the trans person's wishes. Those women are women and their opinions are as valid as any other woman on this matter.

You cant deny that a large amount of women are fully supportive of trans inclusion in single sex spaces as per the trans person's wishes.

Do you have evidence for this as opinion polls state otherwise? Just under 60% of women think transgender women should not be allowed to use women's changing rooms & just under 30% think they should.

yougov.com/en-gb/articles/51545-where-does-the-british-public-stand-on-transgender-rights-in-202425

Shortshriftandlethal · 06/04/2026 13:47

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:44

In its entirety, the ruling is not entirely clear. Many people on all sides have said as much.

The ruling is entirely clear, but people who have not read it are pretending it isn't. The ruling does not change anything; it merely clarifies what was always the case.

Helleofabore · 06/04/2026 13:48

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:36

Well it would be the same as someone who objected to another woman's presence based on some other characteristic. The person with the issue would be expected to quietly find a way around it. Go in the cubicles, not attend etc.

Have you confused illegitimate discrimination with legitimate discrimination here?

In a single sex provision, no female person has the right to object to a female person’s presence based on another protected characteristic. That would be illegitimate discrimination and would have legal ramifications.

This is not comparable to male people accessing female single sex provision. Single sex provisions are legitimate discrimination situations.

Waitwhat23 · 06/04/2026 13:48

spannasaurus · 06/04/2026 13:44

Equality Act 2010
Gender recognition act (which provides for circumstances where HRC holders are to be treated as their actual sex)

www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2010/15/notes/division/3/16/20/7

Shortshriftandlethal · 06/04/2026 13:48

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:46

Which racist white woman?

If its the one in my example, no, her views on the BAME event were not valid.

If its the racist white lady in this thread, then yes her opinions on the trans women in women's spaces is equally valid. Her racism doesnt negate her womanhood. Being racist doesnt make you a man.

Being male makes you a man. Transwomen are male.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 06/04/2026 13:48

I see then that I wasn't wrong pages and pages again about Cecilia and bias showing.....it's all very shut up women/why can't you just ge kind/acksherly it's all very complicated/anyway the law isn't clear (when it is)

same old tedious same old

DialSquare · 06/04/2026 13:49

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:40

Why are you asking me that?
What has that got to do with the fact that other women, maybe most women, maybe just a big lot of some women, think TWAW?

So you don’t think that transwomen are women then?

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