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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Daughter in early 20s lonely due to GC views

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Currentquandry · 05/04/2026 02:10

My daughter is in her early twenties. She is GC and is struggling because so few of her peers have similar opinions. She is very lonely because of this. Are there any online groups she could join to give her a sense of community? She is also ND. Thank you in advance for your advice…

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CornishDaughteroftheDawn · 06/04/2026 13:49

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:29

I dont think that will be the case. I think the law will eventually state, clearly, one way or the other, that trans people either are or are not their chosen sex and people who have a problem with that decision will be left to deal with their feelings.

It already does state that no one can be a ‘chosen’ sex. You remain your birth sex.

This is stated for some specific circumstances in the GRA and all circumstances in the EA and confirmed by the SC judgement.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:49

PrettyDamnCosmic · 06/04/2026 13:47

You cant deny that a large amount of women are fully supportive of trans inclusion in single sex spaces as per the trans person's wishes.

Do you have evidence for this as opinion polls state otherwise? Just under 60% of women think transgender women should not be allowed to use women's changing rooms & just under 30% think they should.

yougov.com/en-gb/articles/51545-where-does-the-british-public-stand-on-transgender-rights-in-202425

30% of women in a large amount of women. Other studies have shown the supporters to be in the majority. There are clearly mixed opinions on this among women.

SirChenjins · 06/04/2026 13:51

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:47

Thats why I said that people (here) have to hope things stay the same. Other women might be instrumental in changing things though because they don't agree with the ruling.

What might happen in the future is not relevant - the law currently is not 'murky' and sets out very clearly that men should not be in single sex spaces for the reasons already given.

I mean, the law in future might allow me to drive 150mph on the motorway - but it doesn't at the moment, so I drive as I'm legally allowed to do now.

CornishDaughteroftheDawn · 06/04/2026 13:51

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:30

Some women might disagree that trans women are male in any meaningful sense. So even if males are excluded, it won't include trans women.

Some women might disagree that trans women are male

As that is not based in fact, that is not a valid opinion.

The SC judgment confirmed that trans identifying males are male.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:52

DialSquare · 06/04/2026 13:49

So you don’t think that transwomen are women then?

No, but my opinion is just one among many other women. That is the point. At any point I might be well in the majority, or plunge into the minority.

Treating other women poorly because they have a different opinion on this or any matter isn't going to change anyone's mind on the issue.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:52

SirChenjins · 06/04/2026 13:51

What might happen in the future is not relevant - the law currently is not 'murky' and sets out very clearly that men should not be in single sex spaces for the reasons already given.

I mean, the law in future might allow me to drive 150mph on the motorway - but it doesn't at the moment, so I drive as I'm legally allowed to do now.

Legal experts on both sides of the debate seem to think it is.

DialSquare · 06/04/2026 13:52

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:40

Why are you asking me that?
What has that got to do with the fact that other women, maybe most women, maybe just a big lot of some women, think TWAW?

No, most women do not think TWAW. Unfortunately there are still too many who are willing to throw their own sex under the bus though.

Helleofabore · 06/04/2026 13:52

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:30

Some women might disagree that trans women are male in any meaningful sense. So even if males are excluded, it won't include trans women.

The law is clear on this already thanks to the Supreme Court judgement. Where a provision is designated female single sex it doesn’t matter what some women believe about some male people. The law is there to protect female people who would be harmed by those other female people attempting to negate their consent.

The law, despite you belief that it is not clear, is clear.

Shortshriftandlethal · 06/04/2026 13:52

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:38

The law currently kind of says different.

No, it doesn't! That was entirely the point of the recent ruling and the case brought by FWS. It clarified the meaning of the equality act and it did this over months of deliberation and testing by a panel of esteemed legal experts.

Why don't you read it for yourself?

PrettyDamnCosmic · 06/04/2026 13:52

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:44

But there are issues with the wording of the ruling and it can be overturned in the future. That's why it's just what the law currently says IMO. Just like any laws, really.

But there are issues with the wording of the ruling and it can be overturned in the future. That's why it's just what the law currently says IMO. Just like any laws, really.

The law currently says I can't rob banks.

SirChenjins · 06/04/2026 13:53

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:49

30% of women in a large amount of women. Other studies have shown the supporters to be in the majority. There are clearly mixed opinions on this among women.

Can you link to large scale independent polls that show the majority of women think men should be in their toilets and changing rooms?

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:53

Shortshriftandlethal · 06/04/2026 13:52

No, it doesn't! That was entirely the point of the recent ruling and the case brought by FWS. It clarified the meaning of the equality act and it did this over months of deliberation and testing by a panel of esteemed legal experts.

Why don't you read it for yourself?

I have. And people who understand the law far better than me have said it remains murky.

SirChenjins · 06/04/2026 13:53

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:52

Legal experts on both sides of the debate seem to think it is.

No they don't.

But again, the future is not now.

Helleofabore · 06/04/2026 13:54

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:39

There is no pretzeling about it. You cant deny that a large amount of women are fully supportive of trans inclusion in single sex spaces as per the trans person's wishes. Those women are women and their opinions are as valid as any other woman on this matter.

”Those women are women and their opinions are as valid as any other woman on this matter.”

Not under the EA 2010.

It is for this purpose that laws around safeguarding exist.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:54

SirChenjins · 06/04/2026 13:53

Can you link to large scale independent polls that show the majority of women think men should be in their toilets and changing rooms?

Yes. But any that I link, people will find some issue with it that somehow makes it less valid than the poll they'd link that says otherwise. There isnt any point. This isnt a real discussion. Partly because other people cannot even accept that women who disagree with them are still women, let alone allowed their opinion.

Shortshriftandlethal · 06/04/2026 13:55

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:52

No, but my opinion is just one among many other women. That is the point. At any point I might be well in the majority, or plunge into the minority.

Treating other women poorly because they have a different opinion on this or any matter isn't going to change anyone's mind on the issue.

Your belief that some men are women does not over-rule any other woman's awareness that they are not. The Law gives protection to female only spaces and categories and 'Sex' and the word 'woman' means biological sex.

You are free to choose mixed sex spaces if you like or prefer them ,but it does not give you the right to consent on behalf of other women for whom single sex spaces are protected in law.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:55

SirChenjins · 06/04/2026 13:53

No they don't.

But again, the future is not now.

Yes they do. Denying reality is kind of ironic really.

Helleofabore · 06/04/2026 13:55

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:53

I have. And people who understand the law far better than me have said it remains murky.

Which people specifically, please?

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:57

Shortshriftandlethal · 06/04/2026 13:55

Your belief that some men are women does not over-rule any other woman's awareness that they are not. The Law gives protection to female only spaces and categories and 'Sex' and the word 'woman' means biological sex.

You are free to choose mixed sex spaces if you like or prefer them ,but it does not give you the right to consent on behalf of other women for whom single sex spaces are protected in law.

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If you had actually read the thread instead of responding in your frantic rage, you'd see i just clearly stated that I do not believe that TWAW, but i am but a mere blip on a massive earth or whatever.

Please show your intelligence instead of your ability to respond emotively and read posts properly. It will make me respect you as an individual a lot more.

PrettyDamnCosmic · 06/04/2026 13:57

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:49

30% of women in a large amount of women. Other studies have shown the supporters to be in the majority. There are clearly mixed opinions on this among women.

30% of women in a large amount of women. Other studies have shown the supporters to be in the majority. There are clearly mixed opinions on this among women.

However that 30% doesn't get to overrule the 60% against. If these other studies exist then please provide links. Opinions might be mixed but it's an overwhelming majority in favour of keeping transwomen i.e. men out of female spaces.

SirChenjins · 06/04/2026 13:58

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:55

Yes they do. Denying reality is kind of ironic really.

No, they don't.

And I will repeat that the future is not now - let's focus on the law on this issue in the here and now, rather than the hypothetical.

Waitwhat23 · 06/04/2026 13:58

SirChenjins · 06/04/2026 13:51

What might happen in the future is not relevant - the law currently is not 'murky' and sets out very clearly that men should not be in single sex spaces for the reasons already given.

I mean, the law in future might allow me to drive 150mph on the motorway - but it doesn't at the moment, so I drive as I'm legally allowed to do now.

It's reminding me of a poster on here a couple of years ago who demanded to know what we would do at some unspecified point in the future if science had managed in some way to develop of a process where people could actually change sex.

And wasn't best pleased when we pointed out that if such a day did come, it still didn't mean that human beings could currently change sex or that legislation should allow for that possible day in the future. That in fact the legislation now was what was relevant.

Which is perfectly clear.

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:58

PrettyDamnCosmic · 06/04/2026 13:57

30% of women in a large amount of women. Other studies have shown the supporters to be in the majority. There are clearly mixed opinions on this among women.

However that 30% doesn't get to overrule the 60% against. If these other studies exist then please provide links. Opinions might be mixed but it's an overwhelming majority in favour of keeping transwomen i.e. men out of female spaces.

Ive said why there is no point linking them. You'll use the no true scotsman fallacy to try and disprove it

DialSquare · 06/04/2026 13:59

Asking women who have decided to prioritise men over their own sex, to explain why the men’s feelings are more important, is not treating them poorly.

Shortshriftandlethal · 06/04/2026 13:59

GlovedhandsCecilia · 06/04/2026 13:53

I have. And people who understand the law far better than me have said it remains murky.

No they haven't! The Supreme Court is the supreme court of the land and its rulings over-rule all lower courts. I think you should read the ruling for yourself rather than relying on third hand distortions from groups such as the GLP and others with investments in trans ideology. It is they that aim to keep things "murky", because clear day-light and thorough examination reveal the truth

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