What's the deal guys?

[shadesOfTeal]

I don't think this post is going to last long but what's the deal with hating trans women so much? I've been a women for 13 years of my life since 18 and it's never been a problem. Suddenly I'm not only talk of the town but also an evil man stealing everyone's rights away from them? I wasn't much of a boy as a kid anyway but. I just wanted to ask like what's the deal? Why do you hate the idea of me existing so much? What have I personally done to you that's been so bad? I feel like I need to be careful with my words because it'll be easy to accuse me of all sorts but I've done no harm to anyone. If you want to ask a trans woman some honest questions then please do, I don't usually talk about it in my day to day life and that, I'm pretty down to earth and will help you understand as much as possible. But I'd like to ask the people that hate me so much, can we ever get along? Please don't assume I'm what the internet and the media says I am though, I'm not like that at all! I just want us all to get on and I'm sick of having my life debated every 5 minutes.

Not after the first year, no. But most of that was because I felt like had no idea what I was doing. My friends, mother and mother in law were a huge help.

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I'm one of 4 sisters, heights ranging from 5'6" to 6". Mother and father were the same height at 5'9". Are we all, unbeknownst, actually male?

Too old to wear it now. I have shoes too i cannot part company with

That's your belief.

But the reality is you can never have the female experience that the female half of the population have. It's really that straight forward.

Really? When it was illegal for you to adopt - if I'm understanding you correctly?

That's your belief and fantasy.

But you are not a woman and never will be. You're a man. And you admitted you lied.

Here are my shoes

I think their algorithms are worrying about a foot fetish lol

I wouldn't say it was illegal for us to adopt. Bad law is unenforceable law.

We were a nice successful couple, who fit the profile.

It only doesn't make sense because you are looking for honestly and consistency.

You must understand that all the claims that "being a woman isn't about gametes" and "this is just like 80s homophobia" and emotional blackmail are only supposed to apply to trans people and only apply just enough to crack the door to their so-desired opposite sex spaces and identity long enough for them to slip through.

For the rest of us, we are expected to carry on being exactly the same old boring gamete-defined people we always were so that trans people have something to identify into.

Dear God, the last thing most trans people want is for the rest of us to say "hang on, you are totally right! It's not about bodies! It's just about minds and ours are far more diverse than we ever realised! Throw open the doors, wear what you want, change where you want, pee in any toilet you want , smash the binary!"

They need the old fashioned ideas of sex they claim to reject or transcend to give meaning to the thing they claim to be. Without that there is no gender to perform, no boundary to break and transgress as self definition.

I don't like novels with unreliable narrators. "Atonement" for example really annoyed me. It just seems so smug. The whole deal between author and reader is that the reader willingly goes along with the story presented and if the author then suddenly goes "oh none of that true - see how clever and post modern I am" it just feels like cheating.
What do other people think about books like that?

On his WW1 military enlistment form, my late great-uncle's height was carefully recorded as five foot, four and a quarter inches. It's reasonable to assume he had a foot size to match.Somehow they managed to find a soldier's uniform and boots to fit him and it didn't stop him acting as a stretcher bearer on the battlefield. Small men have always existed. It didn't and doesn't make them women.

Oh, I wish that my poor old feet would fit into those. (I had a bilateral osteotomy. I'll never wear really nice shoes again.)

This is, as always, your belief

Oooh, don't let Magpie see those, she'll be in there like a flash!

I once had a Biba dress - actually it was a hand-me-down from a cousin. I kept it for years, thinking I'd get back into it.... Yes, well.

From the point of view that it was surely illegal to give false information. I think you said that it wouldn't have been allowed if you'd been truthful about your status? So you risked having your children removed?

I know someone who was removed from their foster family after two years - it was a good home, but the parents were deemed too old to adopt. Losing the children left the foster parents traumatised.

No. I have a son who is claiming to be a woman, possibly because he likes to wear dresses and thinks that only women can wear dresses. But he is unable or unwilling to try to justify his demand that we pretend he is our daughter. We are willing to listen; he is not willing to talk.

I don't particularly want to get into yet another conversation with someone who knows neither our son nor us, and who, based on previous experiences, will almost certainly make a lot of unjustified assumptions. And I will not even consider doing so on a public forum, so you will have to contain your curiosity.

And that, is your belief.

Didn’t dickens do that

I've just remembered - I still have the dress that I wore to the Senior Christmas Dance in 1977. It was from Van Allen and what was then called 'gypsy style' - long, black with gold flecks through it.

Smash away. I support everyone to have the right to do whatever they wish with their own bodies and genders.

My FIL was a short man - no more than 5t6. He won the Military Medal in WW1. He was a fighting man, but was a stretcher bearer on the day when he won his medal.

One day he saw a line of very short sappers - shorter than him. It turned out that they'd all volunteered from the Fife coalfields.

Oh, I don't want to talk with you about your child. I was just taken aback by your transphobic and misogynistic statement.