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Guidance for schools in BBC news

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WallaceinAnderland · 12/02/2026 15:05

'The legally-binding advice for all schools in England also says there are "no exceptions" for single-sex facilities, including toilets and changing rooms, with single-sex sports also protected.'

Vast Majority of parents should be told if pupils question their gender

A parent kneels in a modern kitchen, holding and comforting a school‑aged child who is wearing a uniform and a large backpack, as they share a close and supportive moment.

Tell parents if pupils question gender at school, government says

School leaders welcome the "greater clarity" on how to handle the polarising issue for parents and pupils.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c2k809vnx0yo

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WarriorN · 12/02/2026 20:07

Gosh Ive had a busy evening with flat tyres, beavers and puking dogs; I hadn’t realised they’ve gone ahead and embedded it in kcsie 26.

im really pleased about that, even if it may not be perfect.

living in stealth and the detransition paras are very important

tbe impact of having this WITHIN KCSiE is great. The last couple of years my school has made us all go off and read the whole thing (though my concern is some wouldn’t in much detail.)

FamilyHomeForChristmas · 12/02/2026 20:08

BonfireLady · 12/02/2026 20:03

I've not been on MN for a while but this seems like an important moment to pop back on again.

I've not RTFT yet but will do so.

On the one hand, this is a positive step forward but schools are still being given room to coerce children into believing that you can only be "kind" and "respectful" if you use a person's preferred pronouns.

My daughters' school does this and it means that children, like my older daughter (who remains vulnerable to wanting to transition), could be convinced by the school that their parents are a danger to them, if the parents won't use preferred pronouns.

Personally, I choose to use no pronouns whatsoever when I find out that someone has preferred pronouns that differ from their sex.

My daughters think that I'm being disrespectful with this position. I've tried explaining to them that I'm putting in considerable effort to avoid pronoun usage, as I know that sex-based pronouns would upset some children. I've tried explaining that it's disrespectful (to me) for anyone to expect me to use words that I don't believe - like "she" for a male etc - that it's coercive to do so, when I don't believe that anyone has a gender identity. I've tried explaining that I am not attempting to change their belief (that everyone does have a gender identity and that it's possible for this to differ from someone's sex), so I don't expect anyone to try and change my (lack of) belief in gender identity either. All to no avail.

The school has convinced them that my position is an unkind one. Thankfully, they both do understand why I won't do so for children - because social transition is not a neutral act, and I won't be a part of any child's social transition. But they think I should use "she" for the male teacher at their school who wears a dress and who everyone else refers to as "she", or for any other adult.

This is all largely thanks to the school's constant drip-feeding of the message that only preferred pronoun usage is kind and respectful. The knock-on effect of this type of "inclusion" is that vulnerable children are still being drawn to the idea that the reason they feel uncomfortable in their body is because they are trapped in one that is the wrong sex. They are having their own belief (in their gendered soul) upheld by everyone who affirms their social transition, making it far more likely that they will find themselves locked into it and on a path towards medical transition.

I'll read the updated guidance but I don't expect it to address this key point. Considering it's going to be a part of the statutory safeguarding guidance, it's fundamental that it must because the safeguarding of children relies on clear, reality-based boundaries. Obfuscation of biological sex results in the opposite of safeguarding: it will lead vulnerable children towards permanently harming themselves, based on an unfalsifiable belief that they have a gender that differs from their sex.

Edited for clarity.

Edited

So many of my 21yo son's friends identify as trans that I avoid using pronouns for any of his friends, especially if I've not met them yet.

WarriorN · 12/02/2026 20:09

BonfireLady · 12/02/2026 20:03

I've not been on MN for a while but this seems like an important moment to pop back on again.

I've not RTFT yet but will do so.

On the one hand, this is a positive step forward but schools are still being given room to coerce children into believing that you can only be "kind" and "respectful" if you use a person's preferred pronouns.

My daughters' school does this and it means that children, like my older daughter (who remains vulnerable to wanting to transition), could be convinced by the school that their parents are a danger to them, if the parents won't use preferred pronouns.

Personally, I choose to use no pronouns whatsoever when I find out that someone has preferred pronouns that differ from their sex.

My daughters think that I'm being disrespectful with this position. I've tried explaining to them that I'm putting in considerable effort to avoid pronoun usage, as I know that sex-based pronouns would upset some children. I've tried explaining that it's disrespectful (to me) for anyone to expect me to use words that I don't believe - like "she" for a male etc - that it's coercive to do so, when I don't believe that anyone has a gender identity. I've tried explaining that I am not attempting to change their belief (that everyone does have a gender identity and that it's possible for this to differ from someone's sex), so I don't expect anyone to try and change my (lack of) belief in gender identity either. All to no avail.

The school has convinced them that my position is an unkind one. Thankfully, they both do understand why I won't do so for children - because social transition is not a neutral act, and I won't be a part of any child's social transition. But they think I should use "she" for the male teacher at their school who wears a dress and who everyone else refers to as "she", or for any other adult.

This is all largely thanks to the school's constant drip-feeding of the message that only preferred pronoun usage is kind and respectful. The knock-on effect of this type of "inclusion" is that vulnerable children are still being drawn to the idea that the reason they feel uncomfortable in their body is because they are trapped in one that is the wrong sex. They are having their own belief (in their gendered soul) upheld by everyone who affirms their social transition, making it far more likely that they will find themselves locked into it and on a path towards medical transition.

I'll read the updated guidance but I don't expect it to address this key point. Considering it's going to be a part of the statutory safeguarding guidance, it's fundamental that it must because the safeguarding of children relies on clear, reality-based boundaries. Obfuscation of biological sex results in the opposite of safeguarding: it will lead vulnerable children towards permanently harming themselves, based on an unfalsifiable belief that they have a gender that differs from their sex.

Edited for clarity.

Edited

Yep there’s definitely going to need to be some clearer guidance here

ProfessorofSelfPortraiture · 12/02/2026 20:17

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 12/02/2026 15:06

I think the head of my school is totally fucked.

I fucking well hope so. Although having followed your quest and been absolutely raging on your behalf I will be slightly disappointed if he gets away with a humiliating climb-down and grovelling apology, if it weren't for the other considerations I would prefer to see him dragged through the courts/papers/mud and then have to apologise. And pay costs. 😂

HermioneWeasley · 12/02/2026 20:19

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 12/02/2026 15:42

They are so detached from reality, just winding each other up in their echo chamber.

ProfessorofSelfPortraiture · 12/02/2026 20:32

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 12/02/2026 16:42

For The Skull Throne.

(sorry, outing myself a little there)

Also, um... Can't help wondering, why is the skull talk more outing than literally your entire correspondence with a school in Brighton that lots of people apparently know which one it is? Are you actually... the Grim Reaper? 💀

If so, I think they should definitely have let you apply to be a parent governor.

Talkinpeace · 12/02/2026 21:14

PMK

OneWildandWonderfulLife · 12/02/2026 21:26

Just heard BBC Education correspondent spell the Single Sex Spaces rules out very clearly. Where there are areas that would be considered SSS’s so Toilets, changing rooms, and over night accommodation for education visits, will all be single sex, determined by biological sex, with no exceptions.

So looking forward to seeing what your Head Teacher does now @SingleSexSpacesInSchools

OneWildandWonderfulLife · 12/02/2026 21:32

BonfireLady · Today 20:03
I've not been on MN for a while but this seems like an important moment to pop back on again.

Lovely to have you back on here Bonfire Lady. Have thought of you often.

Madlentileater · 12/02/2026 21:32

this all seems very promising
it would be great if 'social transitioning' was discouraged/banned outright but I suspect if SSS are enforced then social transitioning will become MUCH less attractive and the contradictions will become obvious and we will eventually reach a point where boys can wear skirts if they choose and girls can have short hair and sensible shoes

WeMeetInFairIthilien · 12/02/2026 21:53

Madlentileater · 12/02/2026 21:32

this all seems very promising
it would be great if 'social transitioning' was discouraged/banned outright but I suspect if SSS are enforced then social transitioning will become MUCH less attractive and the contradictions will become obvious and we will eventually reach a point where boys can wear skirts if they choose and girls can have short hair and sensible shoes

It's interesting.

I'm a teacher of almost 20 years, in the South West, although I still have links with Brighton.

In my very large school, after Covid we had a huge influx of children who described themselves as trans
So much so, that the MAT we belong to posted guidance, saying that these children could use the opposite sex spaces.

Our Headmaster is a Biology teacher, 6ft 6 and fully aware of the physical differences between males and females, particularly as we teach secondary. He refused to use this guidance, stating that for everyone's safety, children that didn't want to use their own sex spaces would need to use the single occupancy unisex provision.

It has taken a few years, but whilst we do have gender non confirming students, they use their own sex spaces, have games lessons with their own sex AND NOBODY SEEMS TO CARE that little Joesphine likes to have a short back and sides, and be called Jo. We've even had some boys wearing skirts in the summer, because trousers are too hot and shorts are not allowed.

It's not a Utopia, but with sensible leadership and clear boundaries, the 'special-ness' of being a 'trans student' seems to have worn off.

But, it is such a relief to finally see it in print!

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 12/02/2026 22:05

OneWildandWonderfulLife · 12/02/2026 21:26

Just heard BBC Education correspondent spell the Single Sex Spaces rules out very clearly. Where there are areas that would be considered SSS’s so Toilets, changing rooms, and over night accommodation for education visits, will all be single sex, determined by biological sex, with no exceptions.

So looking forward to seeing what your Head Teacher does now @SingleSexSpacesInSchools

£20 says they double down and won't lift a finger before September, possibly not even then.

FallenSloppyDead2 · 12/02/2026 22:09

@WeMeetInFairIthilien It has taken a few years, but whilst we do have gender non confirming students, they use their own sex spaces, have games lessons with their own sex AND NOBODY SEEMS TO CARE that little Joesphine likes to have a short back and sides, and be called Jo. We've even had some boys wearing skirts in the summer, because trousers are too hot and shorts are not allowed.

If this wicked ideology leaves any legacy, please let it be that all children realise they do not have to be gender conforming and all school leaders take positive steps to encourage that belief in their schools.

VivienneDelacroix · 13/02/2026 00:00

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 12/02/2026 17:36

I am sorry. I would think you'd have every grounds to go and put the draft on the table of the HT and say they've acted against safeguarding advice from the government, which explains why the choices they have made are wrong, and you will be considering legal advice.

It's draft guidance out for consultation, you'd have absolutely no grounds and school have not acted against anything that they should be following. It should not be implemented at this stage and schools can not be held to account by it.
Once it had been through consultation the final version will be for action in KCSIE Sept 2026 most likely.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 13/02/2026 05:55

VivienneDelacroix · 13/02/2026 00:00

It's draft guidance out for consultation, you'd have absolutely no grounds and school have not acted against anything that they should be following. It should not be implemented at this stage and schools can not be held to account by it.
Once it had been through consultation the final version will be for action in KCSIE Sept 2026 most likely.

Actually that’s not true. The school has definitely not followed the existing rules. Which very clearly say single sex changing rooms and toilets.

this just says it again.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 13/02/2026 06:35

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 12/02/2026 15:42

“When the guidance came out a couple of years ago, I explained to my students that I knew a lot more about the subject than the morons writing the guidance, and I was going to ignore it and do what I knew was right.
Other teachers, however, knowing nothing about it, acknowledged their ignorance and said they'd defer to the "experts" (not me, of course, but the government guidance 🙄).”

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 13/02/2026 07:03

Comments from actual teachers, rather than just swivel eyed loons, are way more concerning.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TeachingUK/comments/1r2y1ht/vast_majority_of_parents_should_be_involved_if/

TheInvisibleWorm · 13/02/2026 07:28

WeMeetInFairIthilien · 12/02/2026 21:53

It's interesting.

I'm a teacher of almost 20 years, in the South West, although I still have links with Brighton.

In my very large school, after Covid we had a huge influx of children who described themselves as trans
So much so, that the MAT we belong to posted guidance, saying that these children could use the opposite sex spaces.

Our Headmaster is a Biology teacher, 6ft 6 and fully aware of the physical differences between males and females, particularly as we teach secondary. He refused to use this guidance, stating that for everyone's safety, children that didn't want to use their own sex spaces would need to use the single occupancy unisex provision.

It has taken a few years, but whilst we do have gender non confirming students, they use their own sex spaces, have games lessons with their own sex AND NOBODY SEEMS TO CARE that little Joesphine likes to have a short back and sides, and be called Jo. We've even had some boys wearing skirts in the summer, because trousers are too hot and shorts are not allowed.

It's not a Utopia, but with sensible leadership and clear boundaries, the 'special-ness' of being a 'trans student' seems to have worn off.

But, it is such a relief to finally see it in print!

Well done that head. Good to know there are some with some sense!

ItsCoolForCats · 13/02/2026 07:41

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 13/02/2026 07:03

Comments from actual teachers, rather than just swivel eyed loons, are way more concerning.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TeachingUK/comments/1r2y1ht/vast_majority_of_parents_should_be_involved_if/

Bloody hell. At least this guidance will give parents a means to push back on these activist teachers.

ItsCoolForCats · 13/02/2026 07:45

I really hope that Reddit thread is not representative of teachers in general. I wonder if they are younger teachers, not long indoctrinated from university themselves.

Shortshriftandlethal · 13/02/2026 08:02

ItsCoolForCats · 13/02/2026 07:45

I really hope that Reddit thread is not representative of teachers in general. I wonder if they are younger teachers, not long indoctrinated from university themselves.

There are also quite a number of older gay or lesbian teachers who push this stuff as part of the LGBTQ+ rainbow agenda.

WarriorN · 13/02/2026 08:05

ItsCoolForCats · 13/02/2026 07:41

Bloody hell. At least this guidance will give parents a means to push back on these activist teachers.

worth remembering that we aren’t allowed to post anything remotely critical of trans ideology on reddit.

The vast majority of teachers I have come across support the guidance

if the bbc had done its job and provided more information about the issues across all its channels, we wouldn’t be seeing as many echo chambers like this.

WarriorN · 13/02/2026 08:05

(Support daft guidance)

AirborneElephant · 13/02/2026 08:22

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 12/02/2026 16:44

"105. Schools must not allow children into toilets designated for the opposite
biological sex. This includes where schools are responding to a request to support any degree of social transition for children who are questioning their gender."

"112. Schools and colleges must not allow a child, aged 11 years or older at the
start of the school year, to undress in front of a child of the opposite biological sex, to comply with their safeguarding duties. When responding to a request to support any degree of social transition this must not include allowing access to changing rooms designated for the opposite sex."

"192. To comply with their safeguarding duties, schools and colleges must not
allow a child to share overnight accommodation with a child of the opposite
biological sex. Responding to a request to support any degree of social transitionmust not include allowing access to boarding or residential accommodation designated for the opposite sex"

(from the draft guidance)

Edited

Particularly excellent that it is phrased as “must not allow a child to …” . So there’s no “but they don’t mind” or enabling pressure on children to comply.

MalagaNights · 13/02/2026 08:27

Given that this guidance acknowledges that social transition is not a neutral act and may lead to medical pathways or embed a gender identity, that it stresses their should be caution, it should be rare, other contextual factors around the child should be considered...etc etc

Makes me wonder, on what basis can educational staff safely make such a decision??

And to what extent do they leave themselves open to legal challenges of harm by detransitioners in the future?

It's asking educationalists to make decisions about when to implement risky unevidenced psychological interventions.

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