Olivia Colman: “I’ve always described myself to my husband as a gay man.” 🙄

[NaysayerOrMeanie]

Olivia Colman is currently on the press tour for her new film Jimpa and has come out with some absolute corkers in an interview with them "magazine" including:

"Throughout my whole life, I’ve had arguments with people where I've always felt sort of nonbinary. Don’t make that a big sort of title! But I’ve never felt massively feminine in my being female. I’ve always described myself to my husband as a gay man. And he goes, “Yeah, I get that.”"

Which I can only assume means he likes it when she pegs him.

And a dig at some undefined group of naysayers and haters and meanies:

"Most of the actors were from, particularly in the Dutch side of things, from the queer community there; I’ve never been part of a more welcoming group of people. For all those naysayers or haters or meanies, if [only] they could spend the time with the most welcoming, kind bunch of people. I kind of want everyone to just come and say hi and actually feel total love."

Jimpa stars Olivia Colman as Hannah, mother to the non-binary Frances (played by they/them, non-binary, queer, transgender daughter of the film's director, Aud Mason-Hyde) who go to Amsterdam to visit Hannah's gay HIV positive father (John Lithgow, currently simultaneously scorned by the queers for daring to be in the new Harry Potter series, any by the meanies for talking shit about JKR). I'm sure it will be a hoot.

Congratulations Olivia on your brave coming out as a queer, non-binary, gay man, spicy-straight woman. You're so late to the party all the cool kids will find your identity embarrassing now.

The thing about the stereotypes that are embraced by the subset of gay men who are really into being part of "the community" is that they're so narrow. There are huge swathes of gay culture and history that those guys are completely ignorant of.

I probably know more Polari than your median gay activist, because my dad (who I'm absolutely certain isn't gay) was a big fan of Julian and Sandy and played the tapes in the car, not as a political statement but just because he thought they were hilarious.

I can remember at school, boys sometimes came out to me because they knew I didn't care, and if I was friendly with a boy because he was into sci-fi novels or heavy metal music or whatever, learning that he was attracted to boys rather than girls was probably one of the less interesting things about him. I've never heard that being really into Arthur C Clarke or Isaac Asimov was a gay stereotype. (Clarke was gay, as it happens, and made no secret about it, but you'd never know it from his novels and "gay culture" has never embraced him.)

It wasn't until well into adulthood that I met gay men who made "being gay" their whole personality, and really leaned into every stereotype they could discover. Many of them were nice, but I always found them a bit boring, and it turned out they all had exactly the same politics. Those were the guys who went on to get jobs at Stonewall, or if they weren't quite that bright, became alphabet community officers in trade unions or local councils.

I always felt that gay liberation had a logical end point of making itself redundant, because nobody would care any more. But I suppose every liberation movement becomes a grift in the end. You end up with the Owen Jones types who can't seriously mean it when they talk about how horribly oppressed gay men are in the current year UK, but it's really important for them that "the community" continues to exist for reasons of political clout.

Of course there's also the subset of straight women who love stereotypical gay men the same way they love purse puppies, but that's another story.

Disney childrens tv tick the box stereotypical Main Lead : Gay "camp" white male

I am trying to think of a ML lesbian or non-white LGB character on any of the popular shows (may have changed in the newer shows) because its hard to say look "LGB individual here" without stereotypical being sold as part of the package.

Olivia Colman criticised by Scottish lesbian group after describing herself as ‘gay man’
https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/films/news/olivia-colman-gay-man-the-fantastic-lesbians-non-binary-b2923387.html

Have never heard of this group but calling yourself the Fantastic Lesbians deserves an acknowledgement alone!
https://fantastic-lesbians.com/

@Lovelyview My next door neighbours are two gay men who live in the countryside, don't like Eurovision and at least one of them supports Reform. Basically Olivia could like virtually anything and you could find a gay man who enjoys it.

This comment is important, because far too many people still think gay people are a big homogenous blob of people with a unified system of sociopolitical beliefs, which of course is nonsense.

Social and political opinions are every bit as diverse among gay men as they are among straight men.

From the article:

Earlier in February, Colman’s Jimpa co-star Mason-Hyde called Lithgow’s decision to star in the new Harry Potter series hurtful” and “difficult”. Lithgow is set to play Albus Dumbledore in HBO’s adaptation of the hit novels.

While Mason-Hyde hailed their co-star as “a beautiful human”, they said that they found his casting as Hogwarts headmaster Dumbledore to be confusing due to JK Rowling’s comments about the transgender community.

“I never felt invalidated or questioned or doubted in my identity or in my transness by him,” they told OUT. “I consistently felt that he was a very loving and a very guiding co-star, and so there’s an element of this that feels vaguely hurtful.”

Sounds like Coleman was desperate not to be put in the same boat as Lithgow.

But also, re the co-star:

Holy heck, how to make everything anyone ever does all about you and your transness!