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nicepotoftea · 14/01/2026 10:39

RoyalCorgi · 14/01/2026 10:37

Misgendering shows the total lack of respect for the victim. No. So-called "misgendering" is what caused this mess in the first place. You cannot describe the facts of this case correctly without stating that the victim is female. Anything else shows a total lack of respect for her in this situation.

Yes. We need to be able to say the facts of the case that a vulnerable, mentally unwell woman was placed on a secure psychiatric ward with violent, mentally unstable men. Referring to her as "he" or "they" obfuscates the reality both of what happened to her and the sheer cruelty of the people who made the decision to put her there.

The vast majority of posters on this thread are not referring to gender when they use words like 'she' and 'woman'.

GreenJeIIy · 14/01/2026 10:43

SpiritAdder · 13/01/2026 23:25

Prison rape is a huge systemic long standing problem in men’s prisons.
They rape each other all the time. During the AIDS epidemic, if you as a man got sent to a US prison, you had a 1 in 4 chance of catching HIV from being raped there.

Prison rape happens in women’s prisons too, although it is usually done with objects or fists.

The government does not care. They think criminals deserve it.

What are your qualifications for this? Are you in the US?

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 10:43

RoyalCorgi · 14/01/2026 10:37

Misgendering shows the total lack of respect for the victim. No. So-called "misgendering" is what caused this mess in the first place. You cannot describe the facts of this case correctly without stating that the victim is female. Anything else shows a total lack of respect for her in this situation.

Yes. We need to be able to say the facts of the case that a vulnerable, mentally unwell woman was placed on a secure psychiatric ward with violent, mentally unstable men. Referring to her as "he" or "they" obfuscates the reality both of what happened to her and the sheer cruelty of the people who made the decision to put her there.

It doesn’t just obfuscate. It is the determination to deny reality and call her ‘he’ that directly put her there.

GreenJeIIy · 14/01/2026 10:44

Funnywonder · 14/01/2026 09:53

I’m not even surprised that this thread looks like Swiss cheese, full of deletions. And I don’t need more than a couple of brain cells to figure out what they said. Shameful. A woman has been raped by two men. This was able to happen because the authorities who were supposed to be protecting her, didn’t. I realise the word ‘alleged’ or ‘allegedly’ should feature in there somewhere, but I believe her. Poor poor woman. Thrown into a lion’s den when she was at her most vulnerable.

But surely she should have told them she was a biological female? Perhaps she wanted to go to a men's jail

Brefugee · 14/01/2026 10:46

SpiritAdder · 13/01/2026 23:26

You can’t say that it would never have happened. Men rape men in prison all the time. Women rape women in prison less frequently. More less chance it would have happened.

the fact that it happens is one thing - i agree that the authorities don't appear to be overly worried about it but that doesn't mean we shouldn't be pressuring them to do more to stop all rape in prisons.

One aspect of that is to stop literally enabling it by putting women - no matter how they identify, and especially when they are already undergoing a mental health crisis - into men's prisons and vice versa.

Or are you just "meh, shrug, it happens, get over it" (or that they should "reframe their trauma"? or that they deserve it?)

Hoardasurass · 14/01/2026 10:47

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 10:32

Why were prisons even bought up on a thread about hospital wards?

It was 1 of the now deleted poster who used prisons for some whataboutery and to pretend that women are just as sexually violent as men and othe MRA bs

usedtobeaylis · 14/01/2026 10:48

Shame on every single person who has facilitated the abuse of women via self-ID. It is not and never will be a credible position for any feminist to take.

Hoardasurass · 14/01/2026 10:49

GreenJeIIy · 14/01/2026 10:44

But surely she should have told them she was a biological female? Perhaps she wanted to go to a men's jail

It was a male secure psychiatric ward in a NHS hospital not a jail

JamieCannister · 14/01/2026 10:49

ClovisPlatypus · 14/01/2026 09:29

Safeguarding has to become first. Safeguarding has to become ahead of ideology.

100%. Which is why we must be 100% clear - all toilets and changing rooms and prisons and wards must be single sex. Naive and gaslit women need protecting from themselves. We do not give people the option to buy shots of cyanide at the pub, and rely on people having the sense not to order it. Why should we give women the somewhat analalogous option to enter a mixed sex space that is more risky that it needs to be because men might be in there?

heathspeedwell · 14/01/2026 10:55

She was raped within an hour of arriving on the ward. This suggests that it was pretty obvious to her attackers that she was female.

I'm just stunned that trained NHS staff didn't recognise how vulnerable she was. It really demonstrates that gender ideology can make people do absurd things, and think they are being 'kind' while they're at it.

Shedmistress · 14/01/2026 10:55

deadpan · 14/01/2026 09:21

@TransParentlyAnnoyed no one is a Terfman or a Terfwoman thanks. You say misgendering is awful, so is this.
I am a person who supports any other persons right to live as they see fit, but society needs rules based on facts to work cohesively and successfully. Based on these facts is that the trans man in this awful situation is a woman and the men on the ward knew this.
If you think we're all horrible hateful 'terfs" you are allowing your prejudices to over take rational thinking. While we are concerned and care about other females safety, which is why we want single sex to mean just that.

I love Terfwoman. Feels very viking.

CremeCarmel · 14/01/2026 10:58

Theeyeballsinthesky · 14/01/2026 07:56

Fuck me are the TRA really coming on here to try and blame women who recognise the reality of sex for this poor woman's rape?

there really is no barrel they won't scrape is there. You could put the bar in Hades it's so low and they still try and go under it. Weaponising rape to defend men in women's spaces with "women do it to". Fuck me - why yes you are the bad guys

this incredibly vulnerable woman was placed on a ward with men who allegedly raped her. The only reason that happened was because she identified as male and everyone in the hospital went along with it because the NHS has been stonewalled to hell. No one, not one person it would seem, went 'well look she's clearly female and vulnerable however she identifies and we need to keep her safe', no they just went 'ah well she's says she's a man and the policy says that means she is so male ward it is'

if your first response to the alleged rape of a woman is to think 'right how can I use this to defend the TRA position that single sex spaces are not needed' you really really are not on the right side of fucking history

The person who said that transpeople are very vulnerable in Prison is probably saying not that "women do it too", but that transmen and women are specific targets wherever they are incarcerated.

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 10:59

GreenJeIIy · 14/01/2026 10:44

But surely she should have told them she was a biological female? Perhaps she wanted to go to a men's jail

Why on earth do you think she wants to go to prison? She was in HOSPITAL

JamieCannister · 14/01/2026 11:00

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Brefugee · 14/01/2026 11:01

loislovesstewie · 14/01/2026 08:25

Apparently at least 1 member of staff had not been advised that a person identifying as trans was on the ward. And unfortunately if medical records had been altered to say the person was male, most would not have doubted the records. I'm sorry to say, but I think this is where not sticking to biology causes issues. Of course the attack was horrific and should not have happened, having said that.
Edited for typos!

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this is a drum that i will never stop banging.

OK if you want to add a field for gender identity, if you really think that is useful or helpful, go ahead.

But always always record sex correctly.

And this works in the TRAs favour, surely? if you can't identify, say, a transwoman, you can't identify where resources might want to be targeted to help them (as in services required/needed/desired for transgender patients at the NHS). You can identify, with actual, real numbers, how many and which categories of crimes are committed against (and by) them. etc etc.

But no. confusion has to rule the day. And this is the end result.
As pp said: Slow. Fucking. Handclap. To. The. TRAs.

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 11:03

CremeCarmel · 14/01/2026 10:58

The person who said that transpeople are very vulnerable in Prison is probably saying not that "women do it too", but that transmen and women are specific targets wherever they are incarcerated.

No, they were very definitely saying ‘woman do it too’

spannasaurus · 14/01/2026 11:03

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 10:59

Why on earth do you think she wants to go to prison? She was in HOSPITAL

She would have been safer if she was being sent to prison as she would have been sent to a women's prison.

Brefugee · 14/01/2026 11:03

If I was a member of staff on a psychiatric ward and I didn’t know a woman had been admitted to a male ward, I’d be considering what action I could take against the hospital.

They at least need to review and refine their admissions and recording processes.

Funnywonder · 14/01/2026 11:07

GreenJeIIy · 14/01/2026 10:44

But surely she should have told them she was a biological female? Perhaps she wanted to go to a men's jail

Do you really think that someone whose psychological state warrants retention in a psychiatric ward would necessarily have the capacity to make that decision for themselves? And even if she did, the hospital was responsible for ensuring that this highly vulnerable woman was placed in the safest place. I’m quite sure she didn’t need to tell them she was a biological female. I imagine it was obvious. It certainly was to the rapists.

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 11:09

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The people ‘being kind’ were those who wrote the policy that people should go where they identify and decided to record gender not sex. Given both those things objectively exist why do you think it equally possible that a ‘Terf’ was being vindictive in following policy rather than risking discipline by both her employer and her regulator?

nutmeg7 · 14/01/2026 11:13

SpiritAdder · 13/01/2026 23:48

It is in the US. I referred specifically to US prisons in my first post.
Our rape laws are more up to date than yours.

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Ooh, I don’t think we need to take lessons from the US in this area 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Brefugee · 14/01/2026 11:13

GreenJeIIy · 14/01/2026 10:44

But surely she should have told them she was a biological female? Perhaps she wanted to go to a men's jail

it wasn't a jail, it was a psych unit.

So a mentally unwell transman was asked where they want to go and put in with the men. As a rather small (even for a woman) female.

Make it make sense?

Hoardasurass · 14/01/2026 11:18

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I very much doubt that a woman would intentionally set another woman to be raped just to prove a point against gender ideology

nutmeg7 · 14/01/2026 11:18

CremeCarmel · 14/01/2026 10:58

The person who said that transpeople are very vulnerable in Prison is probably saying not that "women do it too", but that transmen and women are specific targets wherever they are incarcerated.

No, that person said women rape other women in prison all the time with objects and fists.

That person seems to want to deny any difference between male and female propensity to commit sexual assault.

Presumably for ideological reasons. It’s certainly not a fact based position.

RedToothBrush · 14/01/2026 11:19

Misgendering shows the total lack of respect for the victim. No. So-called "misgendering" is what caused this mess in the first place. You cannot describe the facts of this case correctly without stating that the victim is female. Anything else shows a total lack of respect for her in this situation.

Not correctly sexing someone aka as affirmation only is promoted as a positive or a neutral action.

Then we have cases like this which starkly show up it's not a neutral act and puts vulnerable people (including transpeople themselves) at significant unnecessary risk.

It's not ok.

This bullshit about 'misgendering' being harmful needs to stop. It's necessary.