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TrainedByCats · 14/01/2026 09:41

TheKeatingFive · 14/01/2026 09:36

The general public won't hear anything about this. The only thing there that genuinely cut through was Isla Bryson (which did have an impact, I believe).

Even the Darlington nurses have been so smeared and misrepresented by the media, they didn't have the impact they should have.

However I do think the public's perceptions are changing ... slowly.

I know this isn’t a popular sentiment on MN but thank goodness for the Daily Mail

MrsOvertonsWindow · 14/01/2026 09:48

TrainedByCats · 14/01/2026 09:41

I know this isn’t a popular sentiment on MN but thank goodness for the Daily Mail

Yes. They, the Times & Telegraph are publishing so many scandals like this that the BBC / Guardian won't touch because of the grip transactivists have on their output.
Until these extreme levels of censorship on accurate reporting are removed, so many of the public are unaware of the hazards posed to girls and women by mixed sex wards, changing rooms etc.

Greyskybluesky · 14/01/2026 09:49

Victim-blaming and point-scoring is pretty much what I'd expect, I suppose. Misgendering on this thread shows the total lack of respect for the poor victim.

I'm not going to click on this poster's 👆 post and give them the attention they clearly crave.
But this part of their post is so, so wrong.

Nobody is victim blaming on this thread apart from that poster last night who was quickly deleted. We are horrified and angry. We can clearly see it was not her fault, she was failed.

Nobody is point scoring. We feared long ago that something dreadful like this would happen and now it has. We gain no satisfaction from that. We are outraged and disgusted. Nobody with the power to do anything listened.

Misgendering shows the total lack of respect for the victim. No. So-called "misgendering" is what caused this mess in the first place. You cannot describe the facts of this case correctly without stating that the victim is female. Anything else shows a total lack of respect for her in this situation.

TheKeatingFive · 14/01/2026 09:49

TrainedByCats · 14/01/2026 09:41

I know this isn’t a popular sentiment on MN but thank goodness for the Daily Mail

Totally agree. The Telegraph have been good on this issue also.

LastTrainsEast · 14/01/2026 09:50

This is not just one hospital's poor judgement, but NHS policy.

"Trans people should be accommodated according to their presentation: the way they dress, and the name and pronouns they currently use"

The NHS are still considering whether they are willing to obey UK law and the Supreme Court. They may decide that UK courts don't have any jurisdiction over them and it will continue.

BadSkiingMum · 14/01/2026 09:50

About ten years ago there was a horrific event in an English psychiatric hospital, where a male and female patient had struck up a relationship and formed a suicide pact, which they carried out by breaking out of the hospital along with another patient. Three people died.

I distinctly recall that the inquiry highlighted that a major risk factor was that male patients had access to and were often wandering in and out of the female ward. The hospital and the NHS came in for some severe criticism. How has the NHS lost this organisational knowledge in such a short time?

Mixing sexes on psychiatric wards is like airlines going back to allowing smoking on board, not screening hand luggage or allowing people to take bladed objects onto plane. An obvious regression in terms of overall safety.

Shortshriftandlethal · 14/01/2026 09:51

RedToothBrush · 14/01/2026 08:23

Also, loving the idea that naming sex is somehow dehumanising. Well no, it's kinda essential to the human experience and continued human existence.

Quite! Sex is one of the very things that is indicative of our humanness, and I suspect this is one of the great frustrations for many who like to imagine that we can be anything we like. We can't. Coming to term with certain limitations and/or natural boundaries in life can actually be a liberating experience

Funnywonder · 14/01/2026 09:53

I’m not even surprised that this thread looks like Swiss cheese, full of deletions. And I don’t need more than a couple of brain cells to figure out what they said. Shameful. A woman has been raped by two men. This was able to happen because the authorities who were supposed to be protecting her, didn’t. I realise the word ‘alleged’ or ‘allegedly’ should feature in there somewhere, but I believe her. Poor poor woman. Thrown into a lion’s den when she was at her most vulnerable.

Greyskybluesky · 14/01/2026 09:56

Theeyeballsinthesky · 14/01/2026 09:40

It would seem her lawyers are referring to her as "he" in court. I can't imagine that helps

https://x.com/journalismseen/status/2011352564994826433?s=46

The language is a fucking mess. I've never listened to anyone who tells me 'it doesn't matter' or we should change our language to be kind.

'The fact that (the complainant) is biologically female with female anatomy, if it was appropriate to transfer him to a male ward at all, the hospital ought to have provided one-to-one monitoring, but this did not happen as a result of staff shortages, Ms Bex told the jury.

biologically female with female anatomy - but still referring to her as "him"?

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 14/01/2026 09:57

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Greyskybluesky · 14/01/2026 09:59

TrainedByCats · 14/01/2026 09:41

I know this isn’t a popular sentiment on MN but thank goodness for the Daily Mail

It's striking that they're not accepting comments on this article though. I suppose they feared it would turn into a massive shitshow with victim-blaming comments like those on here last night and perhaps a bit of racism thrown in for good measure.

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 10:03

GC5 · 14/01/2026 09:38

That poor, poor, woman. I hope the NHS now gives her the help she will additionally need. And I hope she has a good lawyer who will sue them. If she was mentally unwell enough to warrant admission, it’s absolutely bonkers that they considered her to have the capacity to decide she should go to a men’s ward.

Though as has been suggested earlier that being on a secure psychiatric ward does not mean she does not have capacity. If this young woman has been constantly affirmed in her false belief that she is a man and no one can tell, then the choice of an affirming man’s ward might have been an obvious one to her. Or she may have felt coerced into that decision by those around her telling her TMAM - like the TRA who popped up on here. Even now there is a chance that she may blame transphobia for her rape.

What is completely missing seems to be any assessment of her belief that she is a man as part of her mental illness.

Ihatetomatoes · 14/01/2026 10:04

MrsOvertonsWindow · 13/01/2026 23:20

The NHS and transactivists are not just enabling voyeurism and indecent exposure. They're enabling rape.

Let that sink in.

Sadly.

Biology matters. It can help keep you safer. Girls who say they are male do stand out, just like makes who identify as females do.

This trans identified individual might want to be treated as male but the men realised the biological reality and sadly raped thus person. Then didn't see 'male' as she wanted to be seen.

surrealpotato · 14/01/2026 10:06

An absolute disgrace. Every single person who allowed or enabled this should be sacked immediately.

AtIusvue · 14/01/2026 10:07

The transman was 5ft tall and described by the alleged attacker as a’ gender fluid girl’ at one point.

To me, the hospital allowed a severely vulnerable patient, who in no way presented as and would be read as male, to be left with a group of extremely dangerous men.

I won’t be convinced otherwise; that the staff knew what would happen.

Ihatetomatoes · 14/01/2026 10:08

LastTrainsEast · 14/01/2026 09:50

This is not just one hospital's poor judgement, but NHS policy.

"Trans people should be accommodated according to their presentation: the way they dress, and the name and pronouns they currently use"

The NHS are still considering whether they are willing to obey UK law and the Supreme Court. They may decide that UK courts don't have any jurisdiction over them and it will continue.

Ridiculous but it follows the individual can identify as they wish so 'be kind' and follow their choice rubbish.

This person might say they are male, identify as male but they are clearly female (as biological men realised) she needed protection from her own wants. No to a male ward when you are biological female and the same for men who 'think' they are women. Sex matters.

Hoardasurass · 14/01/2026 10:14

Greyskybluesky · 14/01/2026 09:59

It's striking that they're not accepting comments on this article though. I suppose they feared it would turn into a massive shitshow with victim-blaming comments like those on here last night and perhaps a bit of racism thrown in for good measure.

Its a live case in crt right now, newspapers never allow comments on live cases

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 10:16

Ridiculous but it follows the individual can identify as they wish so 'be kind' and follow their choice rubbish.

When the person who tells you to ‘be kind’ holds the power they are actually demanding you be submissive.

Greyskybluesky · 14/01/2026 10:17

Hoardasurass · 14/01/2026 10:14

Its a live case in crt right now, newspapers never allow comments on live cases

Ah right, thanks. Good to know. I wondered about this last night and whether the thread should be deleted. I would hate anything to affect this trial.

I am reassured that MN have seen this thread and not deleted it. They are well aware of what can and cannot be discussed when it comes to court cases.

housethatbuiltme · 14/01/2026 10:20

SpiritAdder · 13/01/2026 23:25

Prison rape is a huge systemic long standing problem in men’s prisons.
They rape each other all the time. During the AIDS epidemic, if you as a man got sent to a US prison, you had a 1 in 4 chance of catching HIV from being raped there.

Prison rape happens in women’s prisons too, although it is usually done with objects or fists.

The government does not care. They think criminals deserve it.

'Prison rape happens in women’s prisons too, although it is usually done with objects or fists.'

Rape is defined as unwanted penetration with a PENIS. Anything unwanted that is sexually inserted other than a penis is called a 'sexual assault'.

People often use the word 'rape' because they think it sounds more serious than sexual assault but thats very misguided. An adult is actually far more likely to suffer physical life changing issues from a sexual assault (especially with foreign objects) than from a rape. Some of the worst most stomach churning cases I ever heard where 'sexual assault' cases.

Hoardasurass · 14/01/2026 10:23

As we are mainly discussing elements of the case that aren't part of the current criminal case ie the role of the NHS and gender ideology and the harms they have caused we should be OK
But i suspect that the posters who came to this thread to victim blame and tried to also blame us are trying to get this thread deleted as it shows what we've been warning against for years is real and happens
Was supposed to quote @Greyskybluesky don't why it didn't

heathspeedwell · 14/01/2026 10:27

I hope this tragic case gets publicity from more news outlets.

This poor girl was totally let down by the people who should have been protecting her when she was at her most vulnerable.

I hope she's doing as well as can be expected, it's brave of her to go to court.

Eventmrs · 14/01/2026 10:28

Why are men just 🙁

I know not all of them, but their primal instinct seems to be, that they have to have sex and are happy to use it as a weapon against women especially in times of crisis, war and conflict.

MeltedSunshine · 14/01/2026 10:32

housethatbuiltme · 14/01/2026 10:20

'Prison rape happens in women’s prisons too, although it is usually done with objects or fists.'

Rape is defined as unwanted penetration with a PENIS. Anything unwanted that is sexually inserted other than a penis is called a 'sexual assault'.

People often use the word 'rape' because they think it sounds more serious than sexual assault but thats very misguided. An adult is actually far more likely to suffer physical life changing issues from a sexual assault (especially with foreign objects) than from a rape. Some of the worst most stomach churning cases I ever heard where 'sexual assault' cases.

Why were prisons even bought up on a thread about hospital wards?

RoyalCorgi · 14/01/2026 10:37

Misgendering shows the total lack of respect for the victim. No. So-called "misgendering" is what caused this mess in the first place. You cannot describe the facts of this case correctly without stating that the victim is female. Anything else shows a total lack of respect for her in this situation.

Yes. We need to be able to say the facts of the case that a vulnerable, mentally unwell woman was placed on a secure psychiatric ward with violent, mentally unstable men. Referring to her as "he" or "they" obfuscates the reality both of what happened to her and the sheer cruelty of the people who made the decision to put her there.