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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Trans woman gym goer caught masturbating in women’s changing room

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LesbianNana · 10/01/2026 12:39

I’ve included the NY Post article, the original TikTok video and an American police officer YouTuber video (Officer Tatum). This was in California (naturally) at a Planet Fitness gym.

In the beginning of the YouTube video you can see him clearly masturbating (along with his huge gross feet all splayed out), and if you want to avoid YouTube commentary jump to 4:30 for the confrontation.

I’ll transcribe some of the confrontation. It’s a few gym employees, the woman and her boyfriend.

BF: Bro do you go to the Taco Bell restroom and jack off? (Probably.) What the fuck is wrong with you bro? (AGP.)

Woman: Minors walking through here…(Probably the point.)

Trans: You guys, I was IN the stall. (Tip of the hat for not jacking off while at the bench press.)

BF: It does NOT FUCKING MATTER bro.

Trans: I’m not harassing anyone in the stall…I’m allowed to be in here.

Woman: You’re IN THE WOMAN’S BATHROOM.

BF: It doesn’t matter, you’re not allowed to jerk off in here! That is so fucking weird! We have video fucking proof!

Trans: Um are you allowed to video in here? (Attention women: Never video the actions of a man committing a lewd act in public lest it make a man look bad.)

BF: It doesn’t matter, you’re in the women’s bathroom jerking your fucking penis bro!

Trans: I’m transgender! (Here we go! The magic word. All take the knee and beg for forgiveness for your blasphemous ways at the shrine of Transgender!) I was drying off…(HAHAHA.)

Woman: That was you in the shower, too. (Feck’s sake.)

Trans: Right…

At this rate, we’re probably a mere 5 years away from the normalization of public masturbation.

Masturbation Story Hour coming to a library near you! Bring the whole family!

https://nypost.com/2026/01/05/us-news/trans-gymgoer-caught-masturbating-in-womens-bathroom-at-california-planet-fitness/

https://www.tiktok.com/@borderlinebimbo_/video/7591708460211866910

Trans gymgoer caught ‘masturbating’ in women’s bathroom at California Planet Fitness

Disturbing viral video shows the moment a transgender gymgoer appears to be masturbating in a stall inside the women’s bathroom at a Planet Fitness in California.

https://nypost.com/2026/01/05/us-news/trans-gymgoer-caught-masturbating-in-womens-bathroom-at-california-planet-fitness/

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FlirtsWithRhinos · 17/01/2026 10:40

Kimura · 17/01/2026 10:20

If you are finding people are not responding to your posts in the way you intended and you are finding you are are accusing people of misinterpretation over and over, maybe you should stop assuming the issue is the other people.

The problem is, a couple of people, despite clarification, continued to claim that I had said certain things that I objectively did not say, and anyone reading those claims was given an extremely misleading (and offensive) impression of where I stood on the matter. How is that my issue?

Even if the original comment had been completely unclear (which it wasn't), once I've gone to the lengths of clarifying it beyond any reasonable doubt, multiple times, quite plainly stating "This is what I mean, this is what I believe" only to have one person reply "No you don't"...then I'm sorry, but that's absolutely a 'them' issue.

For instance, from your points about Baker, you were obviously ill informed, (didn’t you admit you only looked in wikipedia?). Yet you made statements from that poorly informed position and you are still defending your position about him.

I had never heard of Baker before a poster described them as someone who rallies people to punch TERFs in the face.

I expected to find someone with a bunch of convictions for inciting violence, leading violent assaults on 'TERFs', etc. Instead I found someone who'd said something very stupid, once, two years ago, trying to be edgy for a crowd rather than actually gathering a mob to go punching people. That a judge didn't believe they intended anyone to actually carry out an attack and cleared them. That they haven't been charged or convicted of it since.

I agreed with the poster that they'd said something out of order, but said that I thought their description of 'someone who rallies people to punch TERFs' was a bit of a stretch. That's it. And yes, I stand by it.

My other 'position' was that they seemed like a scumbag and an idiot and I certainly wouldn't be interested in listening to anything they had to say based on what I'd read. I stand by that too.

I'm not sure what was poorly informed about either of those 'positions'.

You appear to have forgotten to note that this person who is inciting violence has also been convicted for violent assaults.

Lots of political issues stir up strong feelings. Do you give all men calling for political violence against women this benefit of the doubt, or just the ones who claim they are women?

"If you see a Feminist, punch her in the fucking face!"

"If you see a woman who supports abortion rights, punch her in the fucking face"

"If you see a woman who doesn't support abortion rights, punch her in the fucking face"

"If you see a Jewish woman, punch her in the fucking face!"

"If you see someone in a hijab, punch her in the fucking face!"

"If you see someone who is anti sex-work, punch her in the fucking face!"

Would a man shouting any of those to a crowd in the heat of the moment be ok with you? If not, what makes them different?

Helleofabore · 17/01/2026 10:59

FlirtsWithRhinos · 17/01/2026 10:40

You appear to have forgotten to note that this person who is inciting violence has also been convicted for violent assaults.

Lots of political issues stir up strong feelings. Do you give all men calling for political violence against women this benefit of the doubt, or just the ones who claim they are women?

"If you see a Feminist, punch her in the fucking face!"

"If you see a woman who supports abortion rights, punch her in the fucking face"

"If you see a woman who doesn't support abortion rights, punch her in the fucking face"

"If you see a Jewish woman, punch her in the fucking face!"

"If you see someone in a hijab, punch her in the fucking face!"

"If you see someone who is anti sex-work, punch her in the fucking face!"

Would a man shouting any of those to a crowd in the heat of the moment be ok with you? If not, what makes them different?

Apparently it is fine if enough time has passed and an apology issued.

I don't think it's fair to say that she's out there 'rallying people to punch TERFS' based on one unrepeated, apologised for comment from two years ago

Kimura · 17/01/2026 11:46

Seethlaw · 17/01/2026 08:34

Isn't that exactly what giving a platform to someone is for? "Go and tell them what we think/want!" If SJB doesn't represent TRAs, then why are they giving him a platform to begin with?? Why do they march behind him? Why do they take the pain of crafting placards that agree with him? Why do they post threats online along the lines of what he says?

You want to see him as separate from the rest of the TRAs, but he's not. He's just the one who dares to say out loud what most of them only think or dare to say only online.

If SJB doesn't represent TRAs, then why are they giving him a platform to begin with?? Why do they march behind him? Why do they take the pain of crafting placards that agree with him? Why do they post threats online along the lines of what he says?

I haven't once said that he doesn't represent the people marching with him or joining in with his threats. Why would that even need saying.

I've said over, and over again that he's not representative of the trans community.

AnSolas · 17/01/2026 11:49

Kimura · 17/01/2026 11:46

If SJB doesn't represent TRAs, then why are they giving him a platform to begin with?? Why do they march behind him? Why do they take the pain of crafting placards that agree with him? Why do they post threats online along the lines of what he says?

I haven't once said that he doesn't represent the people marching with him or joining in with his threats. Why would that even need saying.

I've said over, and over again that he's not representative of the trans community.

So how many people are you kicking out of the "trans community"?

What is Bakers criminal history?

Are you honest enough to post up the detail of what you found during your research?

Helleofabore · 17/01/2026 11:51

I think this is an important point to remember. It is from the Darlington nurses judgement.

We take an example that we can all recognise, of a woman walking alone on a street at night, whereupon she notices an approaching male. She crosses the road to avoid the man, holding her keys in her hands in the event she needs to defend herself or she phones someone or pretends to do so. The approaching male is a perfectly decent and innocent person with no intention to harm anyone and is oblivious to the woman on the street. He would feel offended at the thought that someone might regard him as potentially harmful. But it is not the individual's character that dictates the reaction in the woman. It is not the man himself but the fact that he is a man.

Trans woman gym goer caught masturbating in women’s changing room
Helleofabore · 17/01/2026 11:53

Baker has a platform. There are people who have some degree of influence over law and policy who are supporting Baker.

Enough said.

Seethlaw · 17/01/2026 11:54

Kimura · 17/01/2026 11:46

If SJB doesn't represent TRAs, then why are they giving him a platform to begin with?? Why do they march behind him? Why do they take the pain of crafting placards that agree with him? Why do they post threats online along the lines of what he says?

I haven't once said that he doesn't represent the people marching with him or joining in with his threats. Why would that even need saying.

I've said over, and over again that he's not representative of the trans community.

I guess the communication problem here is based in: what do you call the trans community? Because I don't think you and I have the same definition...

Namelessnelly · 17/01/2026 11:59

Kimura · 17/01/2026 11:46

If SJB doesn't represent TRAs, then why are they giving him a platform to begin with?? Why do they march behind him? Why do they take the pain of crafting placards that agree with him? Why do they post threats online along the lines of what he says?

I haven't once said that he doesn't represent the people marching with him or joining in with his threats. Why would that even need saying.

I've said over, and over again that he's not representative of the trans community.

But he is though. He’s a stand up representative of the trans community. Like it or not. He’s the face of the trans community as I don’t see many other trans voices saying anything different. We’re always told to listen to trans voices. So we are.

Kimura · 17/01/2026 12:07

FlirtsWithRhinos · 17/01/2026 10:40

You appear to have forgotten to note that this person who is inciting violence has also been convicted for violent assaults.

Lots of political issues stir up strong feelings. Do you give all men calling for political violence against women this benefit of the doubt, or just the ones who claim they are women?

"If you see a Feminist, punch her in the fucking face!"

"If you see a woman who supports abortion rights, punch her in the fucking face"

"If you see a woman who doesn't support abortion rights, punch her in the fucking face"

"If you see a Jewish woman, punch her in the fucking face!"

"If you see someone in a hijab, punch her in the fucking face!"

"If you see someone who is anti sex-work, punch her in the fucking face!"

Would a man shouting any of those to a crowd in the heat of the moment be ok with you? If not, what makes them different?

What about thinking it was incredibly stupid to the point that I wouldn't take anything else they said seriously gives you the impression that I thought it was 'ok'?

MyAmpleSheep · 17/01/2026 12:08

Kimura · 17/01/2026 11:46

If SJB doesn't represent TRAs, then why are they giving him a platform to begin with?? Why do they march behind him? Why do they take the pain of crafting placards that agree with him? Why do they post threats online along the lines of what he says?

I haven't once said that he doesn't represent the people marching with him or joining in with his threats. Why would that even need saying.

I've said over, and over again that he's not representative of the trans community.

this will be the invisible trans community of which you’re speaking, then? The one the evidence for the existence of which appears entirely in your mind?

Who are all the placard wavers then? Which community do they belong to? Which community do all the trans Reddit posters belong to?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 17/01/2026 12:09

Kimura · 17/01/2026 11:46

If SJB doesn't represent TRAs, then why are they giving him a platform to begin with?? Why do they march behind him? Why do they take the pain of crafting placards that agree with him? Why do they post threats online along the lines of what he says?

I haven't once said that he doesn't represent the people marching with him or joining in with his threats. Why would that even need saying.

I've said over, and over again that he's not representative of the trans community.

He is representative of a significant cohort of the “trans community”. You are poorly informed.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 17/01/2026 12:10

Helleofabore · 17/01/2026 11:51

I think this is an important point to remember. It is from the Darlington nurses judgement.

We take an example that we can all recognise, of a woman walking alone on a street at night, whereupon she notices an approaching male. She crosses the road to avoid the man, holding her keys in her hands in the event she needs to defend herself or she phones someone or pretends to do so. The approaching male is a perfectly decent and innocent person with no intention to harm anyone and is oblivious to the woman on the street. He would feel offended at the thought that someone might regard him as potentially harmful. But it is not the individual's character that dictates the reaction in the woman. It is not the man himself but the fact that he is a man.

Yes, absolutely.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 17/01/2026 12:14

I think that’s two gender changes Baker has undergone now in Kimura’s pronouning.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 17/01/2026 12:22

Kimura · 17/01/2026 12:07

What about thinking it was incredibly stupid to the point that I wouldn't take anything else they said seriously gives you the impression that I thought it was 'ok'?

The minimising. The wriggling looking for excuses as to why despite being supported by politicians, invited to protests and feted in the online transgender community, he somehow isn't being entirely accepted, even celebrated, as a representative of the trans community.

Incidentally, by saying it was "incredibly stupid" you appear to be saying "sure, he's a violent snd sexist thug but he should have been clever enough to hide it". Is that really what you meant? Because I don't think a violent sexist thug is a good representative for a political movement even if he is smart enough to hide it.

Seethlaw · 17/01/2026 12:46

Ereshkigalangcleg · 17/01/2026 12:09

He is representative of a significant cohort of the “trans community”. You are poorly informed.

Yeah, I get the impression that Kimura includes in the trans community, people who wouldn't want to be included. Just because someone is trans, doesn't mean they are a member of the community.

Helleofabore · 17/01/2026 13:09

FlirtsWithRhinos · 17/01/2026 12:22

The minimising. The wriggling looking for excuses as to why despite being supported by politicians, invited to protests and feted in the online transgender community, he somehow isn't being entirely accepted, even celebrated, as a representative of the trans community.

Incidentally, by saying it was "incredibly stupid" you appear to be saying "sure, he's a violent snd sexist thug but he should have been clever enough to hide it". Is that really what you meant? Because I don't think a violent sexist thug is a good representative for a political movement even if he is smart enough to hide it.

It is hard to know what is being said really, because of the dismissive nature of the previous posts and the surrounding narrative. Perhaps it is the fact that some people are so determined to tie themselves in pretzels to not be seen as saying ‘all trans people are like that’ that they end up in a mess of twisting and deflecting.

When the reality is, no one on this thread seems to have characterised ‘all people with transgender identities are like that’, have accurately stated that any male person who makes a deliberate choice to enter a female single sex space knowing that their presence is likely to cause some female people harm is acting abusively. That never was an ‘all trans people are like that’ position.

Yet, from one direction, there are some people desperate to use catastrophising and shaming generalisations to stop women discussing it. Then from another direction, there seems to be some
people desperate to make distancing statements so others don’t think they condemn all of one group that end up being dismissive in ways they didn’t consider.

On a thread about a man who masturbated in a female changing room.

Helleofabore · 17/01/2026 13:13

Seethlaw · 17/01/2026 12:46

Yeah, I get the impression that Kimura includes in the trans community, people who wouldn't want to be included. Just because someone is trans, doesn't mean they are a member of the community.

Perhaps ‘population’ was more accurate.

Seethlaw · 17/01/2026 13:20

Helleofabore · 17/01/2026 13:13

Perhaps ‘population’ was more accurate.

Ah, yes. In which case SJB does not indeed represent the trans population at large - but he does very much represent that part of the trans population which is asking for outrageous privileges and threatening women who protest.

AnSolas · 17/01/2026 13:32

Helleofabore · 17/01/2026 13:09

It is hard to know what is being said really, because of the dismissive nature of the previous posts and the surrounding narrative. Perhaps it is the fact that some people are so determined to tie themselves in pretzels to not be seen as saying ‘all trans people are like that’ that they end up in a mess of twisting and deflecting.

When the reality is, no one on this thread seems to have characterised ‘all people with transgender identities are like that’, have accurately stated that any male person who makes a deliberate choice to enter a female single sex space knowing that their presence is likely to cause some female people harm is acting abusively. That never was an ‘all trans people are like that’ position.

Yet, from one direction, there are some people desperate to use catastrophising and shaming generalisations to stop women discussing it. Then from another direction, there seems to be some
people desperate to make distancing statements so others don’t think they condemn all of one group that end up being dismissive in ways they didn’t consider.

On a thread about a man who masturbated in a female changing room.

Perhaps it is the fact that some people are so determined to tie themselves in pretzels to not be seen as saying ‘all trans people are like that’ that they end up in a mess of twisting and deflecting.

But@Kimura is saying all transpeople are like "that".

@Kimura 's "that" is the "reasonable" tag.

We must ignore and deplatform the ones who are not like "that".

We must accept "that" is the key element to allowed to be part of the "trans community".

Once we reshuffel the meaning of "the trans community" to be "a group of people accepted as having passed a reasonable person test" here is no reason to discuss the implications of political activism which support calls for attacking objectors.
@Kimura What is Bakers criminal history?Are you honest enough to post up the detail of what you found during your research?

Kimura · 17/01/2026 13:40

AnSolas · 17/01/2026 10:28

Did you miss the bit where his criminal history was known?

Well known and easy to google?

What is Bakers criminal history?

Are you honest enough to post up the detail of what you found during your research?

Did you miss the bit where his criminal history was known?

Well known and easy to google?

What is Bakers criminal history?

Are you honest enough to post up the detail of what you found during your research?

What is it you hope this patronising nonsense will achieve, that's caused you to post it multiple times? Especially given that it's already been posted and discussed.

I could understand if I was out here defending Baker, telling people they'd changed, not the same person etc and it was some kind of 'Gotcha'. But we've already established that I think very little of them.

As for your bizarre 'No True Scotsman' post, I hope you realize that you've now put more time and thought into coming up with what you've decided (incorrectly) my position is than I ever will thinking about this person.

Kimura · 17/01/2026 13:55

AnSolas · 17/01/2026 13:32

Perhaps it is the fact that some people are so determined to tie themselves in pretzels to not be seen as saying ‘all trans people are like that’ that they end up in a mess of twisting and deflecting.

But@Kimura is saying all transpeople are like "that".

@Kimura 's "that" is the "reasonable" tag.

We must ignore and deplatform the ones who are not like "that".

We must accept "that" is the key element to allowed to be part of the "trans community".

Once we reshuffel the meaning of "the trans community" to be "a group of people accepted as having passed a reasonable person test" here is no reason to discuss the implications of political activism which support calls for attacking objectors.
@Kimura What is Bakers criminal history?Are you honest enough to post up the detail of what you found during your research?

You're just ranting nonsense now. I'm genuinely sorry if I've wound you up, or if you thought I came here with any ulterior motive. Honestly wasn't the case.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

SigourneyHoward · 17/01/2026 13:56

Poor SJB (what a character, hey!) He's been a she, a they, briefly a he and now back to a they in Kimura-land

AnSolas · 17/01/2026 14:04

Kimura · 17/01/2026 13:40

Did you miss the bit where his criminal history was known?

Well known and easy to google?

What is Bakers criminal history?

Are you honest enough to post up the detail of what you found during your research?

What is it you hope this patronising nonsense will achieve, that's caused you to post it multiple times? Especially given that it's already been posted and discussed.

I could understand if I was out here defending Baker, telling people they'd changed, not the same person etc and it was some kind of 'Gotcha'. But we've already established that I think very little of them.

As for your bizarre 'No True Scotsman' post, I hope you realize that you've now put more time and thought into coming up with what you've decided (incorrectly) my position is than I ever will thinking about this person.

You are getting a little defensive.

You want to argue that the individual picked by the community is not part of the community.

I am pointing out a flaw.

Kimura · 17/01/2026 14:10

FlirtsWithRhinos · 17/01/2026 12:22

The minimising. The wriggling looking for excuses as to why despite being supported by politicians, invited to protests and feted in the online transgender community, he somehow isn't being entirely accepted, even celebrated, as a representative of the trans community.

Incidentally, by saying it was "incredibly stupid" you appear to be saying "sure, he's a violent snd sexist thug but he should have been clever enough to hide it". Is that really what you meant? Because I don't think a violent sexist thug is a good representative for a political movement even if he is smart enough to hide it.

Incidentally, by saying it was "incredibly stupid" you appear to be saying "sure, he's a violent snd sexist thug but he should have been clever enough to hide it". Is that really what you meant?

No, why on earth would I think that?

Stupid in the sense that if an unstable or disturbed person in the audience had taken it seriously, or saw it as justification, something extremely serious could have happened.

Obviously you'd have to be phenomenally stupid to commit any crime on purpose, on camera, while on license, but that's their problem.

AnSolas · 17/01/2026 14:12

Kimura · 17/01/2026 13:55

You're just ranting nonsense now. I'm genuinely sorry if I've wound you up, or if you thought I came here with any ulterior motive. Honestly wasn't the case.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

The emotive projection deflection.

Whats the problem with you posting up that criminal history?

Could it be that it shows a flaw?

That platforming him highligth the fact that the lots of politically active members of the "whole UK trans community" picked him as the political speaker to deliver their political message?