As quite a conservative (small c) woman, I do find 'extreme right' a code word for 'conversation over', if it even gets that far. The phrase just reduces anyone with any kind of right-leading views to an unthinking, ignorant, uneducated megalith.
I'm a well educated woman who thinks in layers and nuance. I was raised by fairly liberal parents, and my husband is left of centre. Most of my friends fall somewhere on the spectrum and I feel able to have respectful conversations which put context to a lot of the trickier discussions, and why we feel like we do. I have my world view for a reason, based on a plethora of reasons that I have considered for myself.
There is an intersectionality where feminism and right wing beliefs overlap and fundamentally, most people that I know, feel that their beliefs are the way to make the world a better place. Finding those motivations and reasons for believing in whatever we believe is very important. Most people will have a 'why' that just isn't conveniently boxed off as hatred, racism or misogyny. Sometimes it is, but it's lazy to not try to find out why people feel as they do.
I understand the point of view of my more liberal, left leaning friends and they understand mine, and it's all respectful and thought provoking. Locking anyone behind a label instantly dehumanises and silences them, and if it doesn't, it taints heir argument with a sense of incredibility before they even get started. I want to know people and know their stories and find out what they think and why, because that's how growth and change happens.
I hear 'extreme right' and instantly know that the conversation will have a foregone conclusion before it even commences.