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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

A little piece of insight

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Tandora · 02/10/2025 13:48

Into a topic so woefully misunderstood.

A little piece of insight
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Tandora · 03/10/2025 15:24

recore · 03/10/2025 15:16

Yes, of course.

You can't know something that isn't true. (Although you can, of course, believe it.)

There may be some debate about exactly what knowledge is, but one thing all parties to that debate agree on is that "X knows that p" can only be true if p is true.

To believe is not the same as to know. Likewise thinking you know is different from knowing.

This simple fact about knowledge and truth is actually quite important in this arena.

Ok well -

On the one hand this is a philosophical argument about the semantic meaning of the word 'knowing'.

On the other hand you saying 'Dr Upton can't know something that isn't true' requires us to agree what is 'true'.

The problem is that we don't.

Whatever words we use - the issue here is that people keep making the statement:
"Dr Upton knows he is male" - a claim about Dr Upton's subjective 'knowing' of self.

This claim is empirically false.

Dr Upton's subjective 'knowing' of self tells her that she is female.

This is the reality of her cognitive experience - despite the fact that she was registered male at birth and her body has physical characteristics that are usually associated with being male.

This is what it is to be a trans woman.

You may say that Dr Upton's cognitive experience of self is 'wrong', 'false', 'deluded', 'stupid', 'mentally ill', etc. I disagree that those labels have any utility. But regardless, the point is that it is what it is. This is the reality of what it is to be trans.

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Kucinghitam · 03/10/2025 15:25

Oh, we're back to words (when used by The Wrong Sort of People) having no meaning.

#OperationLetThemSpeak

Alucard55 · 03/10/2025 15:26

Tandora · 03/10/2025 15:24

Ok well -

On the one hand this is a philosophical argument about the semantic meaning of the word 'knowing'.

On the other hand you saying 'Dr Upton can't know something that isn't true' requires us to agree what is 'true'.

The problem is that we don't.

Whatever words we use - the issue here is that people keep making the statement:
"Dr Upton knows he is male" - a claim about Dr Upton's subjective 'knowing' of self.

This claim is empirically false.

Dr Upton's subjective 'knowing' of self tells her that she is female.

This is the reality of her cognitive experience - despite the fact that she was registered male at birth and her body has physical characteristics that are usually associated with being male.

This is what it is to be a trans woman.

You may say that Dr Upton's cognitive experience of self is 'wrong', 'false', 'deluded', 'stupid', 'mentally ill', etc. I disagree that those labels have any utility. But regardless, the point is that it is what it is. This is the reality of what it is to be trans.

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Ok. You do you. We'll keep on fighting for the rights, safety and protection of women and girls.

If you were genuinely trying to educate people on what it means to be trans and how society should deal with it you would engage with and answer some really simple questions. It's clear you've got no intentions of doing that.

MurkyWeather2 · 03/10/2025 15:27

BlueAppleCider · 03/10/2025 15:22

I am sharing my experience, there is no need to be so rude and condescending.
I would never disregard a child’s feelings, did you cover that in your child development course?
The dismissive tone of your reply makes me hope that you do not work with children.

There's disregarding a child's feelings and then there's safeguarding fails. I expect you covered those too.

Helleofabore · 03/10/2025 15:27

Kucinghitam · 03/10/2025 15:25

Oh, we're back to words (when used by The Wrong Sort of People) having no meaning.

#OperationLetThemSpeak

The cycle is inevitable. Many of us have learned from direct experience.

Tandora · 03/10/2025 15:28

Alucard55 · 03/10/2025 15:24

If a biological man who identifies as not a man says I think I'm going into labour/having a miscarriage how would Dr Up ton proceed?

Well if Doctor Upton knew the person had a uterus and there was evidence the person was pregnant, she would respond as per the NHS protocols for pregnant people about to go into labour/ have a miscarriage.

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 03/10/2025 15:29

The problem is that we don't (know what sex Dr. Upton is)

Don't we?
You might not know, Tandora, but everyone else on this thread does.

He's a bloke.
A man.
Born a man.
Still a man.
Will die a man.

There is literally nothing female about him. Nothing.

CautiousLurker01 · 03/10/2025 15:29

Taztoy · 03/10/2025 15:03

I’m sorry you’ve been through it too.

I don’t even like cubicles in single sex changing - I choose to change out in the single sex communal area.

i have a right to say no. And for me, once you start to erode that no in one area, the danger is that it’s a slippery slope.

Dr Upton is not, as much as Dr Upton would like to be, a biological woman. And in the normal use of the word, if someone asks for a female doctor, Dr Upton should not attend.

And if I ask for a female doctor and a trans woman attends, I will not cope with that at all. And I will sue the arse off the hospital that allowed it.

The whole point of the law in many areas is that it seeks to balance competing rights. The Supreme Court have ruled on this.

and that’s it. Job done.

If Dr Upton and others wish to challenge that, in a court of law, or seek to get Parliament to pass a law that allows them to enter spaces not of their sex but the gender they present as, they should campaign for that change.

But at this point the law is clear and when I ask for a female clinician I should not be presented with a transwoman and told that they are female under the law. Because they’re not.

And due to the clarification of the law, a request for a ‘female clinician’ means a biological woman. No clarification needed.

Dr Upton and any other trans women clinicians are required to follow the law, as are the NHS trusts and private hospital trusts that employ them.

Alucard55 · 03/10/2025 15:29

Tandora · 03/10/2025 15:28

Well if Doctor Upton knew the person had a uterus and there was evidence the person was pregnant, she would respond as per the NHS protocols for pregnant people about to go into labour/ have a miscarriage.

How would Dr Upton know if the person had a uterus or not? The person is saying I'm a pregnant woman but is clearly a biological man. How does Dr Upton proceed?

Helleofabore · 03/10/2025 15:30

DuesToTheDirt · 03/10/2025 15:14

Oh, I'm going to give up on this thread. Tandora's arguments are so stupid they're just aggravating. It boils down to, "A trans person is whatever they say they are. And who are you to object?"

Yes. But also, " A [selected] trans person [who fits one person's personal criteria] is whatever they say they are. And who are you to object?"

FranticFrankie · 03/10/2025 15:32

Can't sit on my hands for 'pregnant people' fast
Enough

JamieCannister · 03/10/2025 15:33

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 03/10/2025 15:18

Along with, ‘a trans woman can do whatever they want because they are trans’. A trans woman could walk up and punch someone unprovoked to the face and Tandora would find some excuse for it.

It’s boring and nonsensical now. Tandora needs to find a new hobby.

I'd bet good money Tandora is a man with a hobby. It is a solo hobby and it takes up a lot of time.

Alucard55 · 03/10/2025 15:33

FranticFrankie · 03/10/2025 15:32

Can't sit on my hands for 'pregnant people' fast
Enough

And I'm just wondering at what point DR Upton says "you can't be pregnant, you're a man".

FranticFrankie · 03/10/2025 15:33

Can't sit on my hands for 'pregnant people' ffs
Enough

Edited to swear

Catiette · 03/10/2025 15:33

I’m tired of all this ontological and epistemological wrangling. It has a place, Tandora, and that’s not the ladies’ loos, not as long as posters like Taztoy exist.

Could someone just post that fantastic letter written to a “woke bro” presenting the ethical conundrum of a guy falling onto train tracks and dying despite the laws of physics, and be done with it? It sums up exactly what’s happening on this thread (with the added, infuriating element that most posters are actually engaging with on multiple levels - metaphysical, philosophical, ethical, practical - and still dismissed as inadequate).

Seriously, though - I’m on my iPad in a cafe without any of my links or resources, so if someone knows what I mean and could share a link or paste, it’s the perfect response to all of this, and a great analogy for anyone who’s not yet read it.

Tandora · 03/10/2025 15:33

Alucard55 · 03/10/2025 15:29

How would Dr Upton know if the person had a uterus or not? The person is saying I'm a pregnant woman but is clearly a biological man. How does Dr Upton proceed?

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I'm not going to get dragged into this nonsense again - it's not an interesting use of my time.

A simple conversation would suffice, as is always the case with medical care. There are also clinical history notes to be drawn on and obviously clinically indicators that suggest whether someone is pregnant or not.

It's my fault for allowing myself to get dragged into this silliness.

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Alucard55 · 03/10/2025 15:35

Tandora · 03/10/2025 15:33

I'm not going to get dragged into this nonsense again - it's not an interesting use of my time.

A simple conversation would suffice, as is always the case with medical care. There are also clinical history notes to be drawn on and obviously clinically indicators that suggest whether someone is pregnant or not.

It's my fault for allowing myself to get dragged into this silliness.

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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 if ever the laughing emoji was needed!

FranticFrankie · 03/10/2025 15:35

I know @catiette.
Hands back under buttocks

JamieCannister · 03/10/2025 15:36

Tandora · 03/10/2025 15:24

Ok well -

On the one hand this is a philosophical argument about the semantic meaning of the word 'knowing'.

On the other hand you saying 'Dr Upton can't know something that isn't true' requires us to agree what is 'true'.

The problem is that we don't.

Whatever words we use - the issue here is that people keep making the statement:
"Dr Upton knows he is male" - a claim about Dr Upton's subjective 'knowing' of self.

This claim is empirically false.

Dr Upton's subjective 'knowing' of self tells her that she is female.

This is the reality of her cognitive experience - despite the fact that she was registered male at birth and her body has physical characteristics that are usually associated with being male.

This is what it is to be a trans woman.

You may say that Dr Upton's cognitive experience of self is 'wrong', 'false', 'deluded', 'stupid', 'mentally ill', etc. I disagree that those labels have any utility. But regardless, the point is that it is what it is. This is the reality of what it is to be trans.

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Nailed - the issue here is that one side of the debate (and it is not the sex realist one) is not willing to accept provable facts and facts, and instead spends lots of time trying to lie and obscufate with the end goal of ending women's rights.

Alucard55 · 03/10/2025 15:37

Tandora · 03/10/2025 15:33

I'm not going to get dragged into this nonsense again - it's not an interesting use of my time.

A simple conversation would suffice, as is always the case with medical care. There are also clinical history notes to be drawn on and obviously clinically indicators that suggest whether someone is pregnant or not.

It's my fault for allowing myself to get dragged into this silliness.

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obviously clinically indicators that suggest whether someone is pregnant or not.

Like them being men.

JamieCannister · 03/10/2025 15:37

Tandora · 03/10/2025 15:28

Well if Doctor Upton knew the person had a uterus and there was evidence the person was pregnant, she would respond as per the NHS protocols for pregnant people about to go into labour/ have a miscarriage.

So you do accept that sex is real and matters.

Why are you pretending to side with Upton if you believe sex is real and matters?

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 03/10/2025 15:38

It's my fault for allowing myself to get dragged into this silliness.

Nobody made you start this thread.
And now it's going the way of all the others.
Grin

Tandora · 03/10/2025 15:38

JamieCannister · 03/10/2025 15:37

So you do accept that sex is real and matters.

Why are you pretending to side with Upton if you believe sex is real and matters?

Because 'sex' is not just one thing. Sex is a complex, muti-dimensional variable.

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 03/10/2025 15:39

Tandora · 03/10/2025 15:38

Because 'sex' is not just one thing. Sex is a complex, muti-dimensional variable.

No it isn't.
Hmm

MurkyWeather2 · 03/10/2025 15:39

I’m tired of all this ontological and epistemological wrangling.

I'm not sure that is what's going on here though. I can follow these arguments easily and I can promise you i wouldn't be able to if it was proper ont/epi wrangling.

It's just a person who says they are not trans repeatedly telling us that they know exactly what it is to be trans and that the rest of us can't possibly know - because we are not trans

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