Being victimised and harassed, with the powers that be not only refusing to see it but also colluding in it, is enough to drive anyone around the bend frankly (I'm not saying you are round the bend !)
I have experienced it myself, when people just refuse to see what is right in front of their face, and you know they know. It is incredibly frustrating and frankly disturbing to one's equilibrium.
this is so true.
So many women have found themselves in the position where they sound quite mad. The worst of conspiracy theorists, or prejudiced and bigoted.
People simply don't believe the extent of transactivism. Thread after thread of how posters have lost friends, or fallen out with family members, purely on the basis of this issue. It's quite hard to stay calm when people look at you as though you've taken leave of your senses - and in the worst way possible.
And, for some people, the scales falling has been a journey. They've listened to rational arguments, evidence, logic. And have reached 'peak trans' fairly incrementally.
For others, it's quite instant. They recognise the tactics, the abuse, and, quite crucially, the fetish immediately. No journey necessary, no steps to take, they go from A-Z in a heartbeat.
And it's that recognition that is hard to persuade others to see, when they have been inculcated over be kind, and this is just like being gay.
You know that to them you sound like a raving mad bigot.
But I think a lot of men see it quicker than women. They're not socialised to listen to their inner Beryl, because they don't have one. And secondly, they are under no illusions quite how far men's sex drive will take them.
Graham Linehan's comedy is whimsical and eccentric, but nonetheless, he has produced something that everybody recognises instantly. That takes huge insight, in my opinion, into the dynamites of personality and inner characteristics. You have to get people in order to turn them into something so familiar yet utterly bizarre at the same time.
So i've often wondered why, given that insight, he was relatively unarmed against the baiting of transactivists.
And it could just be as simple as a very well off, successful, popular and feted man simply never needing those skills in a patriarchal environment.
I often felt that Graham thought that as soon as he said something it would all be fine. I mean, a lot of us did, to be fair. As soon as the headlines happen, it will all be over. As soon as this case is won, that will be the end. And he couldn't bloody believe it when it wasn't.
His incredulity came across quite a lot in the beginning.
Women, on the other hand, are very used to having to justify their every waking moment and not being believed even then.
So frustrated as we were, it kind of felt par for the course.
Maybe the silver lining of sexism is that women just have to keep their arsenal well stocked. When men don't even know where the key is.