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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Women’s privacy and dignity

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Mrspenguinsschoolforfreaks · 07/09/2025 13:43

I’ve just been to my local leisure centre swimming pool and while I was in the changing rooms a woman walked in from the showers, fully naked. I averted my eyes, and she walked quite close past me in a way which to me (and I fully accept I may well have imagined it) felt a bit pointed. I felt vaguely uncomfortable and embarrassed in the same way I would have if a man had walked in naked.

My impression is that the vast majority of people on this forum believe that it is a fundamental breach of women’s privacy and dignity if people with male biology (whether cisgender men or trans women) share changing facilities with women. Yet they do not consider that it undermines a woman’s privacy or dignity to have to get changed in front of other women, or to see other women naked.

I understand that many women have had experiences with men’s exhibitionist or voyeuristic behaviour which makes them specifically uncomfortable being undressed around men, or being around men who are undressed. But I’ve often seen the argument on here that it equally undermines men’s privacy and dignity to have to share changing facilities with women.

So my question is, do you think privacy and dignity are not infringed by having to get changed in front of people of the same sex? If not, why not?

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TheKeatingFive · 11/09/2025 07:27

Only a male supremacist would claim a man's wellbeing and preference matters more than that of women's.

Well y'know, trancels gonna trancel

TheKeatingFive · 11/09/2025 07:28

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:27

Oh no, not a “malicious misgendering”! How dare we!

😂

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 11/09/2025 07:31

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:26

That is not an actual link, it is a trans propagandist and anti-womens rights activist blogger who doesn't understand 'per capita' and who says this:

"The graphic also maliciously misgenders trans women by calling them “men who identify as women”."

Right there, that makes your 'source' null and void in itself.

The fact that my images have stats from the UK, US and Canada and they all align statistically shows it is a uniform trajectory.

Edited

‘"The graphic also maliciously misgenders trans women by calling them “men who identify as women”.

Sad, sad times, for the saddest of men.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:33

Surely this Allsop blogger/mansplainer can't genuinely be so thick as not to understand the concept of per capita? More likely he’s being disingenuous.

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:33

The data correlated with other findings so irrelevant.

"The ONS is standing by its overall estimate, released in January, that one in 200 people aged over 16 are trans. Its director of population statistics, Jen Woolford, declared “confidence in our gender identity estimates at a national level”. Woolford said the estimates broadly tallied with surveys by GPs.

Robbie de Santos, Stonewall’s director of external affairs, said: “The current figures for the trans population are in step with comparable estimates in other nations, such as Canada who included a similar question in their 2021 census.
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/nov/08/census-records-trans-population-in-england-and-wales-but-accuracy-is-doubted

Census records trans population in England and Wales – but accuracy is doubted

Statisticians say question on gender and sex in 2021 ONS survey could have been misinterpreted by people unable to speak English well

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/nov/08/census-records-trans-population-in-england-and-wales-but-accuracy-is-doubted

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:34

The data is complete bollocks, as women’s groups warned the ONS it would be 😂

janeszebra · 11/09/2025 07:35

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ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:36

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:33

The data correlated with other findings so irrelevant.

"The ONS is standing by its overall estimate, released in January, that one in 200 people aged over 16 are trans. Its director of population statistics, Jen Woolford, declared “confidence in our gender identity estimates at a national level”. Woolford said the estimates broadly tallied with surveys by GPs.

Robbie de Santos, Stonewall’s director of external affairs, said: “The current figures for the trans population are in step with comparable estimates in other nations, such as Canada who included a similar question in their 2021 census.
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/nov/08/census-records-trans-population-in-england-and-wales-but-accuracy-is-doubted

Robbie de Santos, Stonewall’s director

Stonewall! pmsl. Just when I thought you couldn't make a bigger fool of yourself.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:37

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:33

The data correlated with other findings so irrelevant.

"The ONS is standing by its overall estimate, released in January, that one in 200 people aged over 16 are trans. Its director of population statistics, Jen Woolford, declared “confidence in our gender identity estimates at a national level”. Woolford said the estimates broadly tallied with surveys by GPs.

Robbie de Santos, Stonewall’s director of external affairs, said: “The current figures for the trans population are in step with comparable estimates in other nations, such as Canada who included a similar question in their 2021 census.
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/nov/08/census-records-trans-population-in-england-and-wales-but-accuracy-is-doubted

You’ll have to try harder with your googling techniques mate, maybe there’s a YouTube tutorial you can follow?

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/sep/12/official-estimate-trans-population-england-wales-ons

Official estimate of trans population in England and Wales dropped by ONS

Figure no longer treated as official statistic in embarrassing setback after 2021 census question misunderstood

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/sep/12/official-estimate-trans-population-england-wales-ons

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:37

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:21

Show me where the police say it or admit you are lying. That data IS from the police!

Which outs you as a liar.

This has already been done upthread. If you have the police incident numbers that dispute my claim from the the UK government please share.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:38

Official figures estimating the number of transgender people in England and Wales have been stripped of their accredited status after an investigation found that too many people misunderstood the 2021 census question.
In an embarrassing setback, the Office for National Statistics has requested a reclassification of the finding that there were 262,000 trans people in England and Wales on census day, equivalent to 0.55% of the population.

England | The Guardian

Latest news, sport, business, comment, analysis and reviews from the Guardian, the world's leading liberal voice

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/england

Helleofabore · 11/09/2025 07:41

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 06:59

All sub groups of people have differing offending rates including male bodied men. See young v old, black v white, poor v rich etc.

"Transgender People, Crime and Prisons – Prevalence
While there is a consistent stream of media attention concerning trans people involved in crime, statistics show cisgender people commit crimes more regularly than trans people. The makeup of the England & Wales (E&W) prison population shows this:
The E & W cisgender population is 59.6 million – the cisgender prison population is 87,900 = 0.15% of people in E & W are in prison.
The E & W trans population is 262,000 – the trans prison population is 268 = 0.1% of trans people in E & W are in prison.
From this statistic, we learn that cisgender people commit crimes at a 50% higher rate than trans people.
Evidence from the research conducted by Olga Suhomlinova and Saoirse Caitlin O’Shea using official statistics dating from 2021 revealed that while 0.5% of the population identify as transgender or non-binary, they represented just 0.2% of the prison population.
Transgender People, Crime and Prisons – Trans Women & Trans Men
Another anomaly in the statistics is that while 96% of the cisgender prison population is male and 4% female, the trans prison population is 84% trans women and 16% trans men. The reasons likely include trans men suffering depression, anxiety, discrimination, unemployment issues, and, consequently, poverty. For safety reasons, trans men nearly always elect to be housed in the female estate. Likewise, as long as not convicted of any violent or threatening act against natal females, trans women should be housed according to the safety risk they face.

https://translucent.org.uk/transgender-people-crime-and-prisons/

Edited

Readers note:

For safeguarding risk assessment the correct comparison is for sex and violent crime at a minimum. What has been posted is not broken down into sex crime or violent crime, it refers to over all crime numbers.

It is not as meaningful for analysing the safety risk for allowing some male people into female single sex spaces as getting the information relating directly to sex and violent crime.

In saying that, please note that even with general criminality rates of people with transgender identities, there is a clear distinction between male and female offending.

'the trans prison population is 84% trans women and 16% trans men.'

vs

'96% of the cisgender prison population is male and 4% female'

Meaning that male people with transgender identities still commit crimes generally following the 'male pattern'. That being at a much higher rate compared to female people.

This posted link and the data behind that does show that male people will retain the male pattern of criminality rather than anything like the female pattern of criminality.

If safeguarding risk was analysed on these statistics, with no break down of sex and violence offences available, the safeguarding risk would still be that female people should have single sex spaces that did not include any male people at all.

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:41

ThatBlackCat · 11/09/2025 07:26

That is not an actual link, it is a trans propagandist and anti-womens rights activist blogger who doesn't understand 'per capita' and who says this:

"The graphic also maliciously misgenders trans women by calling them “men who identify as women”."

Right there, that makes your 'source' null and void in itself.

The fact that my images have stats from the UK, US and Canada and they all align statistically shows it is a uniform trajectory.

Edited

I never said that was the link. Its a blog that explains why the data in the graphs is problematic. The research link regarding Translucent in mentioned in the article.

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:43

Helleofabore · 11/09/2025 07:41

Readers note:

For safeguarding risk assessment the correct comparison is for sex and violent crime at a minimum. What has been posted is not broken down into sex crime or violent crime, it refers to over all crime numbers.

It is not as meaningful for analysing the safety risk for allowing some male people into female single sex spaces as getting the information relating directly to sex and violent crime.

In saying that, please note that even with general criminality rates of people with transgender identities, there is a clear distinction between male and female offending.

'the trans prison population is 84% trans women and 16% trans men.'

vs

'96% of the cisgender prison population is male and 4% female'

Meaning that male people with transgender identities still commit crimes generally following the 'male pattern'. That being at a much higher rate compared to female people.

This posted link and the data behind that does show that male people will retain the male pattern of criminality rather than anything like the female pattern of criminality.

If safeguarding risk was analysed on these statistics, with no break down of sex and violence offences available, the safeguarding risk would still be that female people should have single sex spaces that did not include any male people at all.

Please provide police data from UK government confirming your claim.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/09/2025 07:46

@Howseitgoin What part of "women have the right to penis free spaces" are you struggling to understand?

Even if the data didn't support the need for sex (NOT "gender") segregated spaces, which it does, the fact that we say no should still be a good enough answer.

Taztoy · 11/09/2025 07:49

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:43

Please provide police data from UK government confirming your claim.

I don’t want a man in a space where there is a legal single sex exemption that means it’s a women only space.

I say no. I do not consent to a man in that space.

What part of that do you have a problem with?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:50

Your “research” is null and void as it overestimates the number of “trans people” and extrapolates the conclusion from that they are not over represented, The overall data giving the number of “trans people” has been downgraded as unreliable by the ONS as I have demonstrated. The figures for “trans women” and “trans men” are much more reliable. I think 48k each. So the proportion in the prison system is in fact higher.

The reasons for the population of “trans men” being disproportionate to the population of women as a whole probably reflects the mental health comorbidities of women who identify as “trans”.

Also as pp pointed out, sex matters occasionally to Translucent as it states that “trans men” “nearly always elect to be housed in the female estate”. Why is that, do you think?

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:53

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/09/2025 07:46

@Howseitgoin What part of "women have the right to penis free spaces" are you struggling to understand?

Even if the data didn't support the need for sex (NOT "gender") segregated spaces, which it does, the fact that we say no should still be a good enough answer.

No it doesn't & never can because like any data regarding trans people there isn't enough of them to make a statistical conclusion. Same with lesbians that sexually assault women.

And no less than a high court judge ruled on this very matter of data when it came to trans prisoners.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2021/jul/02/trans-women-with-sex-offence-convictions-in-female-jails-lawful-rules-judge

"Between 2016 and 2019, a total of 97 sexual assaults were recorded in women’s prisons, of which seven appeared to be committed by transgender prisoners without a GRC. It is not known whether any were committed by transgender women with a GRC but the number of transgender prisoners with a GRC across all jails is thought to be in single figures.

Transgender Americans can choose gender on passport, state department says
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Holroyde said the statistics were too low and had insufficient detail to provide a safe basis for conclusions, adding: “I can accept, at any rate for present purposes, that the unconditional introduction of a transgender woman into the general population of a women’s prison carries a statistically greater risk of sexual assault upon non-transgender prisoners than would be the case if a non-transgender woman were introduced. But that statistical conclusion takes no account of the risk assessment which the policies require.”

Lawful to imprison trans women sex offenders in female jails, judge rules

High court for England and Wales rejects challenge of former inmate who claims she was sexually assaulted by trans prisoner

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2021/jul/02/trans-women-with-sex-offence-convictions-in-female-jails-lawful-rules-judge

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:53

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/09/2025 07:46

@Howseitgoin What part of "women have the right to penis free spaces" are you struggling to understand?

Even if the data didn't support the need for sex (NOT "gender") segregated spaces, which it does, the fact that we say no should still be a good enough answer.

Again I’m going to quote Gavin de Becker, in the Gift of Fear.

"'No' is a word that must never be negotiated, because the person who chooses not to hear it is trying to control you".

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 11/09/2025 07:54

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:33

The data correlated with other findings so irrelevant.

"The ONS is standing by its overall estimate, released in January, that one in 200 people aged over 16 are trans. Its director of population statistics, Jen Woolford, declared “confidence in our gender identity estimates at a national level”. Woolford said the estimates broadly tallied with surveys by GPs.

Robbie de Santos, Stonewall’s director of external affairs, said: “The current figures for the trans population are in step with comparable estimates in other nations, such as Canada who included a similar question in their 2021 census.
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/nov/08/census-records-trans-population-in-england-and-wales-but-accuracy-is-doubted

No Way Minions GIF

Old, discredited data. It’s still no.

Taztoy · 11/09/2025 07:54

@Howseitgoin I’ll ask again.

What part of my no do you have a problem with?

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:55

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/09/2025 07:50

Your “research” is null and void as it overestimates the number of “trans people” and extrapolates the conclusion from that they are not over represented, The overall data giving the number of “trans people” has been downgraded as unreliable by the ONS as I have demonstrated. The figures for “trans women” and “trans men” are much more reliable. I think 48k each. So the proportion in the prison system is in fact higher.

The reasons for the population of “trans men” being disproportionate to the population of women as a whole probably reflects the mental health comorbidities of women who identify as “trans”.

Also as pp pointed out, sex matters occasionally to Translucent as it states that “trans men” “nearly always elect to be housed in the female estate”. Why is that, do you think?

The correlating evidence shows the research to be credible.

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 11/09/2025 07:56

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:53

No it doesn't & never can because like any data regarding trans people there isn't enough of them to make a statistical conclusion. Same with lesbians that sexually assault women.

And no less than a high court judge ruled on this very matter of data when it came to trans prisoners.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2021/jul/02/trans-women-with-sex-offence-convictions-in-female-jails-lawful-rules-judge

"Between 2016 and 2019, a total of 97 sexual assaults were recorded in women’s prisons, of which seven appeared to be committed by transgender prisoners without a GRC. It is not known whether any were committed by transgender women with a GRC but the number of transgender prisoners with a GRC across all jails is thought to be in single figures.

Transgender Americans can choose gender on passport, state department says
Read more
Holroyde said the statistics were too low and had insufficient detail to provide a safe basis for conclusions, adding: “I can accept, at any rate for present purposes, that the unconditional introduction of a transgender woman into the general population of a women’s prison carries a statistically greater risk of sexual assault upon non-transgender prisoners than would be the case if a non-transgender woman were introduced. But that statistical conclusion takes no account of the risk assessment which the policies require.”

Have you read the SC ruling from April 2025?

Taztoy · 11/09/2025 07:56

Howseitgoin · 11/09/2025 07:55

The correlating evidence shows the research to be credible.

What part of my no do you have a problem with?

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